boyfriend with antisocial personality disorder?

Question

i am almost 100% sure that my boyfriend has antisocial personality disorder. every possible symptom of it, he shows. and some days he is completely fine and others, it can be very hard to communicate with him. he gets angry pretty easily and i think he has a hard time expressing emotion of any kind, other than anger. i care about him deeply, and have been with him for several years. i am wondering if anyone has had a good relationship with someone with this problem, or if you know anyone who has or if there are any good ways to communicate with them or get them to show emotion better. anything, really.

Answer 1

Maybe you should go to couples counseling. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 2

Sorry to say. Not sure of your age, but most likely you can expect it to get worse not better. Does he drink or do any drugs? If so he may not be a social user, but medicating himself. The first thing is you are not a psycholigist. But you can recognize when a person's behavior is abnormal, self destructive, or erratic. You need to have a talk with him and tell him he needs to be diagnosed by a professional. DO NOT make the mistake 99.99% of all women make......Oh I can change him. Also if you think you are changing him, he is just hiding the truth and resolved to lie about his behavior. Or try to play along until you forget about it, get pregnant, get married, move in together, or whatever might put him in a position of not having to hide his behavior any longer.

Unless he recognizes his problem, there will not be any change. You need to face this reality and realize you could suffer for years, and then think you will have some thanks, that is the EXACT opposite of what will happen. You be blamed for any problems. This is always the case.

Answer 3

yes he possibly does ,question does he know he does is he in deninail about it ,or does he face it and say i have this issue that i ve been dealing with. does he take meds for it like paxil for his level of anixiety an depression about it . he should stay away from caffenine , cummunitcated in the dark is always easy when u dont want the other person to know how ure reactting to what there saying some time afew beers can help with the opennjng up about it . get he a book called hope and help for your neveres by dr claire weeks in the self help section of a book store it will be good for u to read it as well because u;ll have abetter understandingof it .the cost 4 the book is like $10.00

Answer 4

A lot of people who have anger management and/or antisocial personality disorders have them dating back to childhood. They do not resolve easily - often not at all, and they often end in misery for their partner. It could just be a sucky marriage, it could be physical abuse, it could be dangerous to their children.

That's not to say that you don't care, but caring is not curing. You can only care so far. If you left, you wouldn't be abandoning him, you'd be looking out for your own mental health. And for god's sake, don't end up getting married or with children. Sometimes you have to put you first.

I had this with my ex-wife - as much as I cared, I couldn't cure, and finally for the sake of my son and my own mental health I got out - with a lot of difficulty - and am much happier now. I'm sorry she's sick, but I can't personally fix it or take responsibility for it continuing. That's her life. I won't let it destroy my life or my child's life.

If you're even asking this here, I think you know the answer. No one will think the less of you for it, and in fact, those who know him will probably be thrilled that you are getting out while the getting is good. Believe me, it doesn't get better - and I will assure you that if you marry him or anything, marriage doesn't magically make anything better. If anything, the resentment and pressure (on his part) will make it worse.

I'm not usually so blunt, but frankly, get the hell out.

Answer 5

This sounds exactly like my ex boyfriend, I thought he was bipolar. I tried to connect with him and tried to help him with tough stuff he was going through and that made him more bitter. So I just tried to lighten his mood and did some fun things with him and that worked for a while... but in the end I had to leave him because I knew he was better off without me, and he was.

Answer 6

You've chosen a truly difficult association, and nothing is going to change unless he wants to get some help. He can be helped - professionals can make a big difference - but unless he wants to change, he won't. And that makes things really hard on you. At this point, you have to ask yourself if you are willing to stay with him if he continues this behavior - knowing that it will only become worse and you will be driven to tears as he ignores you and your children. So press him to get some help before you involve yourself more deeply with him.

Answer 7

Counseling or heartache. Antisocial personality's tend to make the partner pay for slights imagined by the world at large. If he won;t go for counseling you need to go alone.

Answer 8

You can not change a hard core person and it is very difficult. You think over and take a better decision. You will loose your health,life, and everything if you go behind him. You only say that it us very difficult and I am just repeating what you have told me. That is all ,,

Answer 9

And yet this looser is your boyfriend ?
Why do you have such low standards ?
And whyyyyy do girls always have such deep feeling for sociopaths ?

If he's angry already , you better make sure YOU have excellent medical insurance because after he starts beating the shiit out of you ,
The doctors bills are going to be extreme .

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Answer 10

Maybe he is insecure about something and needs to talk. Or has bottled some sort of emotion up.

Talk to him, see whats happening?