How can I get some real motivation to do my homework?

Question

I don't want answers like "just do it", I want real plans on how to overcome myself.

My mother died about 5-6 years ago, and I have been feeling sad lately about her death especially because I may be heading off to college next year (depending if I am ready), a separation from my family. A psychologist, who I have met with a few times said that I may be in a state of chronic depression (I think that is what he called it, well, it means long term depression). The symptoms don't really appear, but he said that I may exhibit the signs of not caring about my work, and then getting angry with myself to "make up for" not doing my work. Also, he said, that because my father had ADD/ADHD (whatever it was) I may also have the attention disorder. This truely devastated me and I am angry and refuse to take the medicine, believing the medicine demeans me WAY too much, I am not normal, and I really want to be normal, but I WANT TO FIGURE IT OUT MYSELF, not with some stupid medicine, well those are

my thoughts

Answer 1

You asked, so I will answer. I think that the death of your mother has led you to want to not grow up and remain a child as you were when your mother died. Your education means growing up and beginning the next generation. Sorry about your loss (I have been there), but I hope you can move on..

Answer 2

I'm surprised at how easily people are diagnosed with depression. You lost your mother and now you are about to have another huge life-altering experience, going off to college, feelings of anxiety and sorrow are absolutely normal and human. I'd be worried if you didn't have them. Unless a doctor diagnoses you with ADD don't listen to such suppositions. A psychologist isn't a doctor, I've honestly never been quite fond of them. Refusing medicine is admirable, it should only be used as an EXTREME last resort, the human is capable of healing itself. People are doped with medicine because most of the time they just want to make money off of us. What to do to motivate yourself and get back on track and feeling happy? oh boy.. honestly I don't thing there's a clean cut answer for that, growth is what worked for me. I don't know if you have much spiritual belief, but I can tell you that they sure do come in handy in situations like these. Meditating, using mind-over matter exercises, and indulging in hobbies that allow you to think positively. Positive thinking exercises are crucial here. If your not that sort of person, then starting an exercise/staying fit plan is excellent for the mood and well-being over all. It's done wonders for me. It'll increase your energy and motivation and it'll distract you from unpleasant thoughts, and gets you feeling great. Just a few times a week, about 30 minutes to an hour is all it takes. Yoga, pilates, some cardio work etc. Tips for homework concentration (funny cause I'm suppose to be studying now yet I'm on yahoo answers) take anything that can distract you far away from you. Or go in a room that's practically empty. Make sure that you're not hungry and not tired, and have a fair amount of energy. Turn studying into a game, you have to defeat it and overcome it. Make it fun. But the real key is learning to be a happy and motivated person first, by doing some of the few things stated earlier. If not, not all the homework tips in the world will help. GOOD LUCK MATE!

Answer 3

The homework is easy. Promise yourself a break every half hour for 15 minutes until it is done.
The psychological problems and recommendation for medication a another matter. It doesn't sound like you have developed a trusting relationship with this therapist. Medication for chronic depression can help you if it is indicated. It replaces serotonin, a naturally occurring substance in the brain that balances the lows of dopamine, which are also produced by the brain. It has been said that eating a baked potato (without condiments) can also raise the levels of serotonin in the brain, which chronic depression depletes.
I think you should try another therapist or try bonding more with the one you already have by being open and honest about what you are feeling. Prolonged grief can be hidden in your subconscious and needs to be addressed. Sounds like that may be the true cause of your depression. ADD/ADHD are not inherited conditions. How would the therapist even know your father had those disorders without treating him?

If you are not comfortable with your therapist, seek another one. You sound like you do need the help.
God bless you.

Answer 4

First off Im so sorry about Your loss, I lost my mom last year and I know what its like. Here's and Idea for you. Look at Homework as a Preperation for life, Look at the big picture, remind yourself that you only get out of life what you put in to it.
Im sure you dont want a little out of life. So not doing your homework or doing just enough to get by wont Prepare you to get what you want out of life. Work hard now so you wont have to work so hard later. People that didnt do well in school typically do manual labor and earn minimal pay. Keep these things in mind constantly and this should be enough to keep you focused on doing your homework. Think how proud you'd make your Mom.

Answer 5

Im really sorry that your mother has passed away obviously this is amajor hurdle for you,listen youll always miss your mum however in time you will adapt your own way to live with it, im sure she would want you to do well and wouldnt want you feeling down and sad,im also sure she will be looking for you to lead a happy and successful life.I think the best way to get motivated to doyour homework is either to do it at school in your lunchtime (after u have eaten) or do it with a group of friends or even one friend maybe you will find this helps you a lot,hope this helps

Answer 6

My mom died when I was about the same age as you. I don't know if you are depressed but I can certainly bet you are sad... and with good reason. And whenever we are getting ready to go through life changing events (like leaving for college) we often think about our lives up to now. So it's normal for you to miss your mom right now.

I understand how you feel about the drugs. I think there are enough people in this world who try to fix themselves with drugs and I don't want to be one of them.

So... why should you do your homework?

Well.. if your mom was like mine.. I think she'd want you to be happy and fulfil all that is within your potential. That is one reason to do your homework.. for your mom. Set your aim to live a life that would make your mom proud. I personally think that people who are dead can see us who are still alive. She's not here to push you on but carry on as if she were.

Another reason is for yourself. You are young and you have no idea how incredibly competitive the workplace is. You have to do all that you can now to put yourself in the best position to be attractive to an employer later. People kinda tell us this when we're younger but we rarely listen.
You want to be able to enjoy your life.. go places, do things, etc. and to do that, one unfortuntantly must have money. So do yourself a huge favor, get good grades, for damn sure get a degree, and enjoy your life to come.

Don't let yourself be the victim, you aren't. Everyone at some time loses their parents. Your mom wouldn't want you to give up on things, she probably hoped to see you get a great job, get married and have kids someday. So keep on, don't let yourself roll over and give up. She may very well be able to see you now.

Hang in there.. life can be incredibly sweet, even though there are sorrows too.

Answer 7

first of all. I'm so sorry about your mother...OK, first you need to get out more...make friends and enjoy life,,,,nothing is gonna bring your mother back , just have her in your heart , but you must live your life to the fullest....life is short and you have to be strong...try having a girlfriend over to do some homework with you or maybe even a guy friend...never be alone cause that's when you start feeling depress.....good luck and take care

Answer 8

Exercise. I have always had a hard time concentrating and exercise is a big part of what helps me focus. I can't explain the full dynamics of it but when I get up early and do something my body really does not feel like doing it makes it easier for me to do everything else during the day.

Answer 9

Your mother may have passed away, but as long as you still love her, she's with you, and she would want you to succeed in life and enjoy life. Right now, part of succeeding in life is doing your homework. i could put a lot more into this, but that's the core of it. You have to take that into yourself and remember it every time you come home from school with an assignment.

Answer 10

Put on some mild music NO RAP NO ROCK Set up your work space real comfortable. if that doesnt work I used to find the library to be a real good study place or work study groupsi understand you not wanting to take the medicine my son is suppose to take it and he doesnt want to take it either..Good Luck!!!!