We have since divorced and I have remarried, and he has a new partner and baby. When we were newly separated he denied his violence ever occurred, and stormed out of counselling sessions when confronted, shouting that women were ganging up on him.
His violence and controlling behaviour was not just a one-off, it was years of systematic controlling, isolating, bullying and verbal and physical abuse.
Do people turn over a new leaf? He comes across as a nice guy who has been wronged. He is a music teacher, clean-living, no drugs or alcohol, but tends to cut off those who have, in his eyes, 'wronged' him. At times I have wondered if it was either a dream or if I somehow caused his behaviour. I never fought back, tried everything to keep the peace. Happily for me, I have now found a good, honest, happy life.
I'm really worried about his new lady. She's very sweet and I couldn't interfere, but just wonder if people like him really change. Should I be ready to catch her?
2007-01-09
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