before we became girlfriends she always used to talk about her family trouples and that she hurted her mom's feelings and she used to tell me that she enjoy it...anyway after a long time we became girlfriends and now after 3yrs i noticed that when she hurts my feelings,she enjoy it although i know she loves me and i remembered what she told me long time ago about enjoyin hurtin close ppl..
what's her problem?i dont wanna loose her coz i love her and i know she loves me but i really want to help her
2007-01-09 16:29:04 · 13 answers · asked by stang girl 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
hello...if you don't want to loose her...just talk to her, and explain to her what you think , that you really want to help her because you love her...how old is she?....if she is to young maybe she doesn't know what she is doing and she'll grow up later...but if she is not that young..ask her why she does it?.....offer her to go with you to a consultation with an expert that will help her with her problem because it is a problem...good luck....
2007-01-09 16:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by abril b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that her loving you, and wanting to hurt you would be contradictory. You knew she was like this, I don't know why you are convinced that she "loves" you if this is how she treats you. Without respect you're doomed. To answer your question, I do not know why she gets off on hurting people, but the real question is why you allow yourself to be subjected to that behavior, people will only treat you the way YOU ALLOW them to treat you. Hope this helps.
2007-01-09 16:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people just love hurting the ones they love. Maybe hurting people makes her feel better about herself.
2007-01-09 16:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like a very nice person. When deciding to see someone I look at how they treat their family members, if she does this to her mother what made you think that she wouldn't do it to you. You need to talk to her, it seems like she may have some deeper issues
2007-01-09 16:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by *sexy mocha* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is troubled. She hurts people because it makes her feel better about herself. You need to be upfront with her and tell her "Hey, you are my friend. I don't appreciate the way you hurt me. I would never treat you with that kind of disrespect." As long as people allow her to treat them bad, she will never learn. You may offend her, but as a true friend you need to be honest.
2007-01-09 16:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by Gwen C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She enjoys hurting peoples feelings and you want her to keep hurting you ?
Both of you seek out a psychologist!
2007-01-09 16:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by truthwalker7 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look...she treats u like that...she doesnt love u maybe coz u shudnt treat teh ones u love like trash...
silly girl, she is...
it wud be tough to make her into a nice person...so leave her..
2007-01-09 16:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by samyshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, she's sadistic. You're either going to have to get used to it, or ditch her. People don't change when it comes to things like that. Trust me.
2007-01-09 16:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess my question to you is why do you enjoy being hurt by her? Oh you don't enjoy it? THEN LEAVE!
2007-01-09 16:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by ~∂Їβ~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
JUST REMEMBER COMES AROUND GOES AROUND AND IT MAY BITE HER BACK IN THE @SS IF SHE DOESN'T CHANGE HER WAYS.
2007-01-09 16:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by HADITDUN 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋