could you please give me some insights on how to be a good listener?

Answer 1

well being a good listener is important.

you should maintain eye contact but don't stare them down

make the occasional OK or uh huh comment to show that you are listening.

Be sincere

make sure there are no other distractions when the conversation is going

just be your real self and honest.

but don't try to fix something that you cant... its not worth it

Answer 2

Having heard, the listener may then paraphrase the speaker’s words. It is important to note that the listener is not necessarily agreeing with the speaker—simply stating what was said. In emotionally charged communications, the listener may listen for feelings. Thus, rather than merely repeating what the speaker has said, the active listener might describe the underlying emotion (“you seem to feel angry” or “you seem to feel frustrated, is that because…?”).

Individuals in conflict often contradict one another. This has the effect of denying the validity of the other person’s position. This can make one defensive, and they may either lash out, or withdraw. On the other hand, if one finds that the other partly understands, an atmosphere of cooperation can be created. This increases the possibility of collaborating and resolving the conflict.

Answer 3

Read this book called, "How To Win Friends And Influence People". This book deals alot with listening. In order to listen you have to be quiet. Make an effort to pay attention to detail. Make an extra effort to think about what the person is saying without being patronizing. Example: they are talking and you are saying yeah uh huh yeah okay, but didn't hear **** they said. That is a sure fire way to ruin relationships business and otherwise. When you are listening, hear all of what they are saying and not just what applies to you. I hope this helps you!

Answer 4

While they're speaking, on't think about what you're going to say when the other person stops speaking. When they finish, ask, "Is there more?" They may continue. Then you can ask, "Here's what I think you're saying" and repeat what they said in your own words. Ask them if they got it right.

For more tips, try reading, 'The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People' by Stephen Covey.

Answer 5

Just sit there when someone is talking to you and don't interrupt until they're finished, or like say something so they know you're paying attention and stuff like "yeah..." or something. But actually try to listen. Do you talk too much?

Answer 6

Two suggestions that work for everyone:
1 - Stop talking.
2 - Think about what the other person is saying - not about what you are going to say next or what you want to do next weekend. Concentrate on what is being said as fully as you can.

And, yes, I often need to take my own advice! "-)

Answer 7

I struggle with the same thing. I have gotten better over the years by paying attention to when I am doing it and then zipping my mouth.

Answer 8

sometimes u have to not be selfish and consider and listen to what other people think/are intersted in,
hope this helps, the world isnt always about YOU :)

Answer 9

clear your mind by focusing on breathing, stare at your subject intensely, like you were going to levitate something