I've been thinking alot lately, which is the most important, building you career but you have to lose your moments with people you love the most, or just doing ordinary job but have your loved ones beside you.What will you choose?
2007-01-09 16:23:02 · 11 answers · asked by anchovy_ICS 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
If they are truly your loved ones, they will always be there. You can take regular trips to visit and they can make the effort to visit you.
Its important to take opportunities like this in life, and not leave yourself with the dreaded feeling of What if?
The worse possible outcome, you don't like your change, just move back. No harm done!
This may be a great opportunity for some self independent growth. You may even add to your group of loved ones and meet more special friends and relationships.
Go for it honey, Good luck!
2007-01-09 18:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is very tough. It all depends on how badly you want to fulfill your particular dream. All I can say is that I sacrificed mine, and I don't really regret it, but every now and then I'm reminded of my sacrifice for my family and it hurts a little. Just ask yourself,
"Am I willing to live with the ghost of this opportunity for the rest of my life?" No matter which you choose, you'll always wonder what the other might have been like. Hopefully you have loved ones who would be understanding in the circumstances.
2007-01-10 16:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by mrsrapp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who are your "loved ones," your parents, brothers and sisters, friends, or spouse and children?
I moved away from my childhood home for both college and work, then moved back near my sisters and brothers and then back away again. But I moved with my husband and son, who are really my "loved ones" now.
Frankly, I think when you are young, it's the time to go explore the world, new people and new places (if I had stayed near home, I never would have met my soulmate). The nice thing about being mobile is that you can always move back if you want to.
Take chances. Don't settle for boring and ordinary.
2007-01-10 00:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by someone's mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I took a job where the company put me up in an apartment (in California) and I live in Las Vegas. The money was great, but my wife and sons stayed in Las Vegas and I was only able to get home on one three-day weekend a month.
I hated it, my wife hated it and my sons hated it. Family (especially children) need to be the focus of any major decision. I learned it the hard way; fortunately before it was too late.
2007-01-10 17:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have worked away from my wife for 12 years, and the time we have together is more quality time than a lot of folks we know with regulaur jobs. We also have a better quality of life now and good holidays. If your relationship is solid it will work.
As they say distance makes the heart grow fonder.
2007-01-10 05:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by Peter C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is something that my husband and i are going through now - but at least YOU have a choice in it. we don't. my husband is currently in the u.s army and is serving overseas in iraq for over a year. there will be more deployments after that as they are already being talked about through the ranks. thing is, i can't move with him over there. i don't have that luxury. being a military wife is hard because you have to deal with your husband being out in the field for weeks on end, going to a different duty station for more training and deployment. honestly, being in this position, it's best to choose a job that's close.
there are pros and cons about taking a job that will take you from your family. what will it do for you financially? for how long? how does your spouse feel about the idea of you being gone? what are the risks of something happening at home and you're not there to help out? these are important things to consider.
my husband wants to build his career up, but is taking considerations as to how i feel about it after his deployment is up. thing is, there are many options out there that can keep your family close.
2007-01-10 05:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF I WAS YOUNG I WOULD STRIVE FOR THE CAREER. JUST BECAUSE YOU MAY NOT HAVE A CHANCE FOR SOMETHING BETTER IN THE LONG RUN. BESIDES YOU CAN ALWAYS MAKE MORE FRIENDS BUT FROM TIME TO TIME YOU'LL BE ABLE TO SEE YOUR LOVED ONES. YOU'D BE PASSING UP A CHANCE THAT YOU MAY REGRET LATER IN LIFE.
2007-01-10 00:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by HADITDUN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The prospective job.
2007-01-10 04:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
being practical at some point isnt a crime... its either you stay and you suffer for not giving them what they want or leaving them for a good reason but in time youll be together and happy with what youve got because you need to leave for a short time...
2007-01-11 04:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by eloi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww...i dont want to be far away from people i love....i wud feel bad abt leaving them.
2007-01-10 00:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by samyshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋