It would help alot if you would look at my previous question then this would make more sense. I wrote this letter to my parents. Do you think this is to harsh?
Mom & Dad,
I feel as if I have always been the reason for the dispute you two have. I have let you pull me back in fourth between the other with your own
stories and recolections of the past. Honestly, I could not care less what happened between the two of you. I am tired of feeling like the only adult
in this situation. I have let this go on for three amazingly long years. Eric and I are now expecting your first grandchild. I love both of my parents
and do not feel as if I can be a good mother if I can not learn to take control of my life. I do not want my child to become the new me in this
situation. What I mean by that is I do not want my child to be the one torn, pulled and made to choose. I want the best for my baby. I want him
to have it all including grandparents that can co-exist when nessary. The birth of my son is going to be one of the greatest moments of my life. I
want you and your side mom to be there and support me. I want you and your side there to support me dad. I want the noraml family for one day
that everyone else has. I do not want to have to worry if both families are there if someone will taken away in hand cuffs due to your settling
scores. I NEED both of you to put the past aside and put me first for once. I do not feel as if I have asked a lot of either of you. When my son is
born, has birthdays and holiday to celebrate, learns to sit, crawl , walk, talk, looses his first tooth or gets his first hair cut I want him to have the
option to call BOTH grandparents and to brag and get praise. Unfortunetly, if you can not do as I ask I will be forced to handle this. I have
been under tremendous stress worrying over what is going to happen, who I am going to hurt and who is going to dis-own me for my dicison this
time. I can not worry anymore. I can not tear myself apart. I have basically let the both of you destroy any confidence I have in myself. I
constantly seek acceptance and have a fear of not being wanted because neither of you were around when I was growing up. Mom i love you
but you were off living your own life. You left me with my grandparents so you could move on. Dad you were never around at all, in fact I had
to come find you. I'm messed up but I refuse to let my child feel unwanted by either of you and if I think thats where this is headed neither of
you will be involved at all. I hate to say these things. It hurts me terriably but I do not know what else to do. Please understand it was one
thing to let you hurt me I was kind of use to it but I can not take a chance of you hurting my child. Basically you have 20 weeks to
learn to get along and grown up or just know that you made the decision not to be around your daughter and grand-son.
Love,
Your Daughter
2007-03-03
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