Adoption

I found out many months ago i was pregnant and after many weeks of counselling and talking to excellent people i decided to place my child for adoption. it was unplanned and i am in absolutely no position to give a child the life i would want it to have. i am completely fine with this and a wonderful family who cannot conceive naturally have been selected (they already have one adopted son).

i am due to give birth in the next few weeks and am taking everything in my stride and being very level headed about it all. i just wanted to know if anyone has been through this situation and had any advise or just experiences?

many, many thanks xxx

2007-07-12 21:39:12 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are willing to adopt since we can't have anymore children.

2007-07-12 09:37:16 · 8 answers · asked by April B 3

She is living with me and has no where to go, and need to get back on her feet, she has a 9 month old already. Is there a way to find a loving home, and they can pay her living expenses until the baby is born? Indiana

2007-07-12 02:41:38 · 17 answers · asked by Sarah 1

I disagree that mother is willing to give that baby up for whatever reason, she gives up all rights to see it.

2007-07-11 16:08:35 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hey Just because i'm pregnant with my second child doesn't mean i'm a whore does it? But it could be the other thing tho.......I'm only 14 years old! I'm pregnant with my second! Sorry But that doesn't mean i'm a whore! It's with the same guy! God! So will people leave me alone! My first is 1 year old and i'm 8 months pregnant! Please be nice and answer this Question...Should i put my second child up for adoption? Please help me!

2007-07-10 09:26:36 · 58 answers · asked by courtw33 2

A lady wants me to adopt her baby and I am worried that me living at my sister's house won't count. Does anyone know? I can't seem to find the answer anywhere. Thanks.

2007-07-10 06:44:21 · 5 answers · asked by simolianturtle2 3

My husband and I want to adopt, but when we researched adoption agencies, we were blown away at how expensive it is to adopt. Any advice on a practical way for normal everyday couple to adopt?

2007-07-09 08:49:45 · 19 answers · asked by Tiffany R 2

Last year my cousin was killed in a car wreck. She left two little girls. Her boyfriend who is on the birth certificate as the Father was sent to prison for drugs just a few months ago. He lost all parental rights by the court. The girls were living with their grandma, my aunt. They always slept in the bed with her on morning they woke up and found her dead. (heart attack) They were then living with their aunt who was sent to prison for driving drink and killing their mother and little cousin. Needless to say these girls at the ages of 7 and 8 have lived a tough life.

They are living in a foster home which is my uncle, their great uncle. It's a good home but because of my uncles and aunt age they are not sure about adopting the girls.

My wife and I have always loved the girls. And I have been very concerned about them since their mother died. Now we are considering, if my uncle deciced not to, adopting the girls. One problem we have is we already have 4 kids of our own. continu

2007-07-09 08:22:50 · 24 answers · asked by Old Hickory 6

We feel that she is not taking good care of the baby. My sister and her boyfreind are morre concerned about another aspect of their lives. What should we do? thanks for your help

2007-07-08 13:37:58 · 25 answers · asked by Heather M 3

I have four kids from a previous marriage. Their biological father has not seen them since 2004 (he was very abusive to me and when he started on the kids I left). He does not pay child support, medicial and now three of the kids have to go see a therapist to deal with the abuse that they saw by this man. They call my husband "dad" and he is the one that has been there for them in all ways possible, he feeds, clothes and is a positive roll model for them. My husband wants to adopt them because he feels that is he there dad while my ex has done nothing for them and my kids hate him. I want to start the adoption process but I am so scared that if we do this and they find out where my ex is, then he is going to start all kindof trouble. He once told the judge that unless I came back to him then he was going to have nothing to do with the kids. Also I just found out that he has 4 other kids and does not pay child support on them and had has not seen them in 10 years. Please help!!!

2007-07-08 08:14:00 · 9 answers · asked by Angela F 5

the children go with the female into a different state,nevada,after they have been adopted.is there any way you can open up old cases?or you find the oldest is in trouble,what can you do?

2007-07-07 20:02:06 · 6 answers · asked by 34froglegs 1

Alright,so I was adopted out of my family when I was about a year old or so,I must admit I have dealt with it some what alright. I was also born quite premature,and about a year later my parents had a baby boy who was severly mentally disable since birth,and has been that way since then,he needs round clock care pretty much.So then not too long after I was born they gave me up to a couple that they knew,who are now my adoptive parents.After my brother was born about six years later they had their next son and a couple years after that they had another son.So the three kids live with them but I don't.
Latley they have been talking with me more,and wanting me to come over more,and do more things with them.


Do you think my biological parents had a good enough reason to give me up?

Thank you.

2007-07-07 13:45:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 19 years old and am a junior at university. My bf of 3 years has become a different person who drink, smokes, partys, and does illegal drugs. I disagree with all of these things and although I hope it’s a phase. We ended our relationship February. Shortly afterwards my mother’s cancer progressed and she passed away this Easter after five strong years of fighting. A week after the funeral I realized that my period was way off. I thought it was stress but I was 3 months pregnant.

I have tried to be responsible with the pregnancy and the baby has been very healthy. I told my ex the day I found out and have informed a few family members that will respect me no matter what choice I make about the future of the baby. I am 6 months along and although I have been doing research and counseling, I can’t seem to decide. Should I parent or place the baby in an adoptive family?

2007-07-07 10:36:29 · 32 answers · asked by collegechick 2

My husband and I always liked the idea of having one of our own biological children and aopting one. I really want to adopt a child from a third world country, like Africa or some place (no, i am not trying to be Angelina Jolie.....)
But tell me... my husband and I are white, so there for we would have a biological white child. Would a non white child feel odd in a white family. Like, misplaced?
I only ask because I knew a black family who adopted a chinese child, and he was always so depressed becuase he was so different.
What do you say?

2007-07-06 17:54:48 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 25 weeks pregnant, I decided I cannot keep this baby. I have no money, I'm still in high school, I'm way too young, and i just don't know anything about babies I'm just not ready for one. I didn't realize this in the beginning but now I do. I already applied for WIC, Medicade for the child, and Healthy Start. Is it too late since I did all of this?

2007-07-06 09:38:02 · 32 answers · asked by The Queen 1

if you don't know the situation, please go read my 2 previous questions about my little brother (Jacob, age 4). but if you do, i don't know how to ask my parents about adopting him. do i just walk up to one of them and say "will you adopt Jake?", or do i say "you know what i was thinking, Jacob would ft in perfectly with our family", should i sit them down with none of my brothers and sisters around (which would be hard to do considering how many there are), or do i just go to one of them. i really want to know if their already considering taking him in, or what's going on, and i want them to go down to that children's home and take my little brother by the hand and say"your coming home with us" (and i know it's not that easy, i've been through the whole foster care/adoption thingy). but how do i ask them? should it be casual,or all serious like. what do i do? and please go read my other 2 questions if you don't know what's going on (both have something about Jacob in them). thanks!!!!

2007-07-06 07:08:47 · 11 answers · asked by Me, Myself, and I 1

im currently pregnant and due to bad sistuation im thinking about putting my baby up for adoption does anyone know where in ny there is a private agency??? i live on long island ...thank u

2007-07-06 05:12:45 · 21 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4

My sister inlaw dumped off her children in my house, originally she told us, the children with be here only for the weekend, so I gladly invited them to come to stay, because I thought their parents will be staying too, at least that's what she said.

On the same day after their arrival, she and her husband droved off, and left the children with us. Didn't leave them any food, money, and we called her asking her when she'll be picking them up, she said she would like them to stay for the entire summer vacation. This is so crazy! I know she doesn't have money to sent them off to summer school, but to pull a trick like that on us is unthinkable, what are we going to do?
We're not their parents they don't listen to our rules, they're on our computer 24/7, downloading games and has no homework to do? How can we get their parents to pick them up? They're our relatives, so should we have any say in this?

2007-07-05 16:37:27 · 29 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5

Due to pregnancy, delivery, and after complications. My husband decided to get a vasectomy. We agreed that there were to many children out there that needed good loving homes and that we would simply adopt instead of having more biological children. This seemed okay at the time. But after the vasectomy and much research, we found that adoption is much to expensive for us. We've thought about foster parenting and possible adoption through that, but I (We) get so attached, that I'm afraid we'd have a very difficult time letting go of a child once we were caring for them. We also have 3 children of our own that i'm sure would feel the same way. And I would not want to put children in and out of their young lives. We VERY much want to adopt! Does anyone know of any forums, groups, programs, etc. where we might be able to adopt a child (legally) but with out the enormous expense that is traditionally involved?

2007-07-05 10:48:00 · 8 answers · asked by hotmamaof3_1 4

from their foster parents? Like what expectations they have, how they want to be treated (obviously they want to be treated well!), do they want you to be a real 'parent' figure to them, etc. Any advice is welcome, thanks in advance.

2007-07-05 00:46:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

at like 6 months.
Now I'm 15.
And sometimes I get these feelings of being just like, really disconnected with my family. Like I'm out of place, and just don't belong.
And its really a feeling I cant describe. But I get them randomly.
Does anyone else get these feelings?

2007-07-04 20:17:43 · 20 answers · asked by Kelly 1

Like, if you were a kid in an orphanage or something, and you grow up to be 17, are you an adult yet, or do you have to be 18? Because wouldn't it be weird if an 18 year old could adopt a 17 year old?

2007-07-04 16:37:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

http://terrilynnspencer.tripod.com/id2.html

If you adopt a child who is without any kin, that is one thing, but when children are knowingly given up by their parents and kin "to be given to a family more financially stable" Isn't this just a downward spiral of abuse? Please read the link before responding, thanks!

2007-07-04 06:38:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister in law and her husband are planning to adopt soon, they have had a house study? done, and are going to meet with an adoption lawyer towmorrow morning. What can l say to convince her that this is a big mistake? l'm not against adoption pursae, but they haven't even considered using IVF yet, just went straight to adoption! Does anyone have some suggestions on what l can do or say?

2007-07-03 18:52:25 · 28 answers · asked by Darlene 1

I mention it and he just changes the subject. He want a baby to but I am not sure it he has to have his own and not adopted one. I want one bad either way and would almost divorce to get one. Help me. :(

2007-07-03 10:51:29 · 13 answers · asked by babygirl 4

Ok, here is the situation. Someone i know is pregnant and she is planning on giving the baby up for adoption as soon as she gives birth. Nobody knows who the father is because she isn't telling. My friends and I have a pretty good idea though. We think its our buddy Frank.

Frank thinks there is a really great chance he is the father. After he found out she may be giving the baby up for adoption, Frank now wants custody of the baby (if he finds out he is indeed the father).

What Frank wants to know is...
whats the best way to gain custody? He thinks that if he goes after the baby, before she actually gives it for adoption then she will change her mind (since she would want child support from Frank), rather than Frank getting custody and going after her for child support. Frank also thinks that if he waits til the baby is given away, then he thinks it might be too late.

2007-07-02 06:32:17 · 9 answers · asked by JJ C 2

1. I heard that most places kind of..."discriminate" against single people who want to adopt. If you had a nice home, a stable income (100,000 +) nice family ties, and a stable environment, what is there to pick at a single person for besides being single?

2. Do you have to be married to adopt internationally?


3. How hard would it be for an american to adopt Italian kids?
greek kids?


thanks guys

2007-06-29 05:30:41 · 14 answers · asked by Some girl 5

Does anyone know at what age you are considered too old to adopt in England? I'm 34, and ttc, but have been trying for over a year with no success, so we've thought about the possibility of adoption, but I'm worried that they might think I'm too old if I wait much longer. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks

2007-06-28 02:11:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was discussing with my friend the other day about adoption. I told him I want to adopt maybe two kids and take care of them. He kinda got funny and said I should have my own child before I adopt. I got angry with him and told him biological or not a child is a child and I will love that child equally. When we brought this to his father he also said the same thing. I should have my own before adopting. I got really angry at this point because I found their remakes selfish. I don't see how having my own child will help me raise an adopted one. My questions are is there a genetic predisposition we have in having your own child? Can you give some sources if you can. (I want to adopt because I believe there alot of children out there who needs family and rather have my own child, I can adopt one.)

Thank to those who will answer.

2007-06-27 21:37:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm just wondering, i'm not saying that money should influence the decision to foster a child, i would take a child in if i only got 5 cents per week! so yea, how much would the typical pay be for fostering?

2007-06-27 12:03:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous