I'm 25 weeks pregnant, I decided I cannot keep this baby. I have no money, I'm still in high school, I'm way too young, and i just don't know anything about babies I'm just not ready for one. I didn't realize this in the beginning but now I do. I already applied for WIC, Medicade for the child, and Healthy Start. Is it too late since I did all of this?
2007-07-06 09:38:02 · 32 answers · asked by The Queen 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
The best thing you could do is to explore all your options. Even if adoption seems like the right path, you cannot make that choice until after the baby is born. You can make an adoption plan before hand, but the actual choice comes after the baby arrives. In fact, if you were to choose adoption a lot of your healing comes from how well you explored your options before placement and making sure you weren't coerced by anyone.
So that being said, I'm going to hook you up with some links. This first one is a pdf written by the Evan B. Donaldson Institute which explored current domestic adoption and figured out what things are important to safeguard the rights and well being of those considering adoption in the adoption process. After reading this, you should be able to tell when you contact either an adoption agency or an adoption lawyer if they are indeed acting ethically and taking you into consideration respectfully. Also be sure to read the part about the well being of birthparents... it gives a good summary of the long term emotions that happen after placement.
http://www.adoptioninstitute.org/publica...
This next link is written by a birthmother and is about open adoption. She gives wonderful information to think about, be sure to read the link for expecting parents.
http://www.openadoptioninsight.org/...
Also, don't dismiss the option of parenting your child. Here are some forums where you can get some support pulling together resources.
http://www.singlepregnancy.com/...
http://www.girl-mom.com/
If there is anything else that I can dig out for you resource wise, add more information to your question.
2007-07-06 16:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by magic pointe shoes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not too late, you actually can't give up you parental rights until after the baby is born anyway, but you can contact an agency now and make an adoption. Someone said that you have 6 months to change your mind, however it varis by state, and in many you just have a few days or weeks.
If you do decide to place the child, I'm sure you can contant the office where you applied for those programs and just let them know that you will no longer need those services.
Good luck
2007-07-06 09:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by Angela R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should contact an adoption agency to get your answer. But I must tell you something. I too was pregnant in high school with no job and the father wanted nothing to do with the baby. I too didn't know anything about babies so I read everything I could get my hands on and asked questions to my family. I took the responsibility. I got a job and still finished high school. I couldn't be happier that I did it. You don't know what joy that child is going to bring you. But ultimately it is your decision. Just make sure you think of everything. If adoption is what you want to do, you will need to contact an adoption agency. They will tell you all you need to know.
2007-07-06 09:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of 3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is a hard decision for any woman at any age. But if that is your choice then be glad that there are many families out there who would love to have a child to love as their own. It is never too late. Even after it is born but the sooner the better for you and the baby bc one or both of you may become attached. You may even change your mind after you give birth. The bond between a mother and child is undescribable and unconditional. So keep your head up and have faith. Any one can raise a child. You don't have to have money or experience...just love. Good luck sweet heart. XOXO
2007-07-06 09:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by Megan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not too late! Let me commend you on this decision. I promise that adoption is a wonderful option. It is a way to give your child a wonderful home, family, and future AND give yourself a chance to finish high school and go on to college without the burdon of providing for a child.
I recommend Catholic Charities - your religions denomination does not matter, they will help you and guide you through this process.
As an adopted baby (now 28 years old) let me thank you from the bottom of my heart. It was a little over 28 years ago that my birth mother gave me up for adoption and I have had a wonderful life!
2007-07-10 09:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(((((Hugs)))))) No it is definitely not too late! You are make such a loving and wonderful decision! You are a hero! :) It is wonderful that you are realizing this now, you will give your child a great life!
There are many different options for adoption. You could just an open adoption, where you could receive letters, pictures, and possible meet the child occasionally. Closed adoption, which is really best for the child and family, is another option.
There are many wonderful agencies to choose from. I wish I knew where you lived and I could give you some local resources, but here are some for right now:
Here is an adoption hotline to call 1-800-592-4725. Please call them, or another # asap!
If necessary, they might be able to help you with some expenses, such as your living expenses, food, etc.
((((((((HUGS)))))))))) You are making a very loving decision!
2007-07-08 15:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by meghananne23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way is it too late. For my first baby I did not decide to give it up for adoption till I was two weeks away from having him. You need to get in touch with a good non profit group like Link Adoptions in North Carolina. They have adoptive parents all over the USA who would be at your side the second you said jump. Adoptive parents know that when the chance for a child comes you dont wait around you jump for it.
2007-07-06 14:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't too late, in fact it wont be too late after you have the baby. Have you thought about trying to parent before giving your child up? See if it is something that you can handle, if you are truly too young and cannot manage it you will know quite soon and can still make an adoption plan without having to wonder if you could have parented.
2007-07-06 10:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by Julie c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never too late to put the baby up for adoption. While it is a difficult choice to make, there are certian adoption agencies that have an open adoption. That means that while you will not have custody of the child, you will be able to see your biological child when you feel the need to. I would advise you to look up local agencies in your area and talk to a counselor if you are feeling overwhelmed. Just remember that people are here for you, regardless of your choices.
2007-07-06 09:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by Bobbye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, you can use the Medicaid during pregnancy as well. You cannot actually make the decision to place until after the baby is born anyway, so you are free (and should be encouraged IMO) to plan for both parenting as well as adoption. You may change your mind several times, so having plans in place either way is a great thing.
You sound very smart and capable, by the way...best wishes to you.
2007-07-06 09:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by ladybmw1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋