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Question

im currently pregnant and due to bad sistuation im thinking about putting my baby up for adoption does anyone know where in ny there is a private agency??? i live on long island ...thank u

Answer 1

there should be agency in your local telphone book under adoption...goodluck to you. Thats very wise and you are a very strong person

Answer 2

So many conflicting opinions and so much judgment over what you should or should not do. It gets very overwhelming, doesn't it?

I'm just going to point you to some websites that give good advice for making sure that you get to make this choice for yourself without coercion. Remember that only you and the father of that baby can make the choice to parent or to place your child for adoption.

Please read this pdf by the Evan B Donaldson Adoption Institute that is entitled "Safeguarding the rights and well-being of birthparents in the adoption process." It goes over a lot of the process of placing a child for adoption and what things you should know can and should happen in thinking about an adoption plan.
http://www.adoptioninstitute.org/publications/2007_01_Birthparent_Study_All.pdf

Also take a look at this website that discusses open adoption, written by a birthmother to stop some of the coercion and misinformation.
http://www.openadoptioninsight.org/

And keep in mind that you are the mother of this child, even if an adoption plan is made, you have every right to decide to parent your child after the baby is born.

Also, be wary of the legal advice given in answers like the one above me. The laws vary from state to state in how long you have to change your mind after you sign the paperwork. Some places are irreversible in the situation mentioned above.

Answer 3

Try contacting Adoptions From the Heart. I know they have a NJ office, but I'm not sure about NY. They should be able to refer you to a NY agency though that they have dealt with.

Please don't worry about what the other people have said about keeping your baby. This is a very personal choice and one that only you and the baby's father can make. Do not let others upset you. You need to speak to an adoption agency so that they can provide you with the necessary support you will need for this process.

Bless you for thinking of your unborn child.

Answer 4

Hey- I want to say good for you for thinking adoption over abortion. I don't know anything about you or your situation. But I do know if you're in a "bad situation", you may be doing what's best putting your baby up for adoption, giving him the chance to live a better life then you could provide. I don't know of any adoption agencies, but I just wanted to give a word of support, since so many people are telling you to keep the baby. I'm sure giving up a child is very hard, but it's no one else's place to tell you what to do. You know your current situation, and they don't. Again, it's so much better then abortion. You can give someone else the baby of their dreams they can't have. Best of luck to you

Answer 5

Thank you for not aborting that precious baby. We adopted two boys. The first one was through Children's Home Society (they have these all over) and the second one was a private adoption.
You could choose the second route. Contact a Doctor, a lawyer or best of all a minister.
In a private adoption, the adoptive parents can help with the medical bills, housing and the adoption costs, but they are STILL screened through he county for a background check and as in an agency adoption, you have SIX months before the adoption id final to change your mind AND you can meet the parents to be and choose them yourself.
What ever road you take, best of luck to you and don't care what other people say to you, it is your decision and yours alone.

Answer 6

Bethany Christian Services is a very good agency, and I checked and they do have offices in your area. You can visit their website at http://bethany.org ,and then click on "I'm Pregnant" at the top to find a lot of info on all of your options, includign adoption. They also allow you to chat online with a pregnancy consellor if you want, and will be able to help you find the help you need no matter what you decide.

There's also a link to their forums for birthmothers and those considering placing their baby for adoption. These woman have been there and can give you advice and support.

Both of our children joined our family through adoption, and we are forever greatful to the women who did what they thought was best for their babies, and allowed us to become parents. Good luck to you in making this difficult decision.

Answer 7

I was adopted and I have to say that it is the most selfless thing you can do for your child. I thank God every day for the family I grew up with. I can't help you find an agency in NY. I just wanted to say you are doing the right thing. Don't listen to the people saying you should keep it. They haven't seen the other side of this.
Good Luck

Answer 8

You must be going through a hard time, But I tottally applaude you for being responible. I was adopted in 1993. I am now 21. My birth mother was not as responible as you. She never took care of me,drank and partied. My brother and I was taken away from her at a young age. Try any agency. They WILL find your child a home. GO with a open adoption because you can pick the parents and you can stay in contact with your child.

Answer 9

Ok, if you choose to give your baby up because the situation is not one that you want him/her in, then there are many places to help you. Check with your local government, also search your local yellow pages for adoption agency.
Remember to think this decision over carefully, and if you do change your mind, dont feel pressured. Until you sign the papers, that is your baby.
I commend you for being able to make a decision to give your child a good start.

Answer 10

contact social services, or ask a doctor, any doctor I went to when I was pregnant had a list of adoption services up on the wall, you could also try the phone book - there's a couple adoption agencies listed in the phone book for my area but that's about 80 miles from where you are.