Singles & Dating - 5 September 2007

Ok pretty long story but will try to keep it short. We are both in our twenties, been together for 4 years...hes never physically cheated on me, im sure of that, but he has previously joined a swinger site (with a very explicit homepage about himself), i found loads of email correspondence with other women, talking very sexually, one arranging to meet a couple for a threesome (he told me he only done that for a joke and wouldnt have gone through with it), i caught him masturbating online with another girl via msn, calling sex lines etc etc.

He always apologises and says hes sorry and he would never physically cheat on me. Its driven me to the point of crazyness, i check his phone, email etc (and normally find something!!) though not for the past 8 months or so. Im so paranoid that I dont even want him looking at other women, this is not a healthy relationship but I love him so much and dont want to lose him and believe that he loves me too. Does he have a sexual problem?!

2007-09-05 23:55:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-05 23:48:39 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-05 23:46:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I went to meet my ex boyfriend of 3 years, whom i am very much in love with lastnight, and he was telling me about the girl that we split up over, that he is gutted as he is in love with her but she told him that she was seeing someone else and all that he was to her was a bit of fun. it was hard to sit there and hear his feelings for her especially when i love him. I dont know what to do, he knows how much i love him. i am heartbroken

2007-09-05 23:26:39 · 13 answers · asked by nc 3

can someone please give me some advice on what to do here. her dad left when she was five was never seen him again her step dad has never treated her like a daughter her mom loves her but they are not that close every other boyfreind she has had has used her and mentally and verbally abused her and her ex husband did the same always yelled at her never said he loved her always slept on the couch wouldnt come home for days when he did coem home he was always drunk. her heart has hardened over the years because of the abuse. how do i soften her heart again. how do i show her im not like the other. i have tried everything i can think of but it doesnt seem to be working. she told me lastnight that i was going way to fast that she wasnt ready for all i had to offer. she ssaid she feels smothered but she acknowledges that i haven't done anything to smother her. she doesn't go out with her so called freinds anymore because of me.-what do i do

2007-09-05 23:23:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Match.com likes to change the profile you create. Yahoo takes too long to approve updates. And eHarmony has this gawd awful questionnaire to go thru and some don't even make the cut after all that effort.
Besides that, it's like Forrest Gump says; never know what your gonna get.
Think I will go back to the bar...

2007-09-05 23:20:11 · 1 answers · asked by Kari 4

I am 14 year old guy and my 22 year old cousin ( girl ) came to stay with us last month.

She is a very outgoing girl who shares my bedroom with me...she is a tom-boy - 5 11 in height and well built.
She moves around my room in her underwear all the time and that turns me on....i think she might have even noticed my hard on once...
The other day she walked into the room when i was in the shower and she wanted to use the shower...she was in a hurry, i asked her to wait for 10 mins...but she barged into the shower when i was totally naked....she was in her bra and panties...and forced me out of the shower...

She then put her hands under my buttocks and carried in on her shoulders and threw me in the bedroom and carried on with her shower....when she was carrying me she had her hands on my d. i . c. k as well

i am abt 5 8 in height and so she likes to carry me around and dominate me sexually and tease me.
I do not know how to handle her...what if she rapes me because shes stronger? HELP

2007-09-05 23:17:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know this girl that I was into when we first met, and she never knew about. But it's been like four years and we've both been doing our own thing, I just got out of a long relationship a few months ago, and she just broke up with her boyfriend about a week ago, they were together for over a year and a half, and so was I with my girlfriend. But now that we're both single I'm starting to wonder if maybe theres a chance of us getting together. How soon is to soon to start anything like this? How much time should I give her before even letting her know I'm interested?

2007-09-05 22:44:42 · 6 answers · asked by Dan R 1

Not that I'm planning to say it to anyone... Just having a debate with my friend last night on it, and wondered what other peoples experiences were?

2007-09-05 22:23:42 · 24 answers · asked by rollacoasta 3

when did you lose your virginity? was it worth it or do u regret it? why? why not?

2007-09-05 21:53:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

it seems like my boyfriend barely likes spending time with me, tonight we were suppose to chill out but he said he doesnt feel like going out..yet an hour later his friends called him and he was ready to go, its now 2am and he's still not home..and im crying because i dont know is it me who has the problem or is it him all i want is to spend time with him because i miss him but hes too "tired" to go out with me but hes up and ready when its his friends im i needy or is he the one with the problem?

2007-09-05 21:51:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got a problem. don't want to make this to long cuz then people won't read it, so I'm going to make this as short as possible.
Love my bf but he seems like he lost love for me cuz he don't call like he use to anymore.
Fell in like... not love just really 'like' with another guy who seems to care for me alot.
Got 2 many memories with bf and can't let go.
Don't want to break anyones heart.
The other guy knows I have a bf and says 'do what your heart tells you to do'. Don't know what my heart wants.
My brain ain't listening, ran out of options need advice

Sign
*Confused with another...*

2007-09-05 21:43:07 · 4 answers · asked by demon 2

My friend and I always have a good laugh when we go out, but last month we both got a bit drunk and had a Passionate kiss, we never spoke about it after or the next day.

Then last saturday we went out and again an we ended up kissing again and going a bit further.

Im confused tho cos she has a really great boyfriend, so why does she keep kissing me? (i'm single by the way)

2007-09-05 21:39:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can't sleep, i keep thinking about girls. I want to date them soo bad but i just don't have the time. But i want to be with them. HOW HOW HOW?

2007-09-05 21:37:46 · 6 answers · asked by hahaiwon 2

I just can't help but think that he is BSing me. I am not sure if it is because I was deceived after a 12 year relationship, or what. I feel so insecure and even jealous. I hate insecurity and jealousy, and have never been this way before. I am always looking for him to deceive me. I guess what I need is to know is if I should just fully trust him, or continue to be suspicious. We live an hour apart, and I realize that long distance relationships are hard, but that isn't very far. He always tells me that he loves me, and talks about us eventually moving in together. Am I being unfair? Am I just to fragile right now to have a relationship with anyone right now?
It has been almost two years since the split, and I have not gotten involved with anyone else since. I would really love to have someone by my side. I am very attracted to him both physically and mentally. By the way, he is 9 years younger than me, but neither of us are really young, and I look young for my age.

2007-09-05 21:37:09 · 2 answers · asked by PEGGY S 7

We've been living together for almost three years, shouldn't his status be "commited"?

2007-09-05 21:13:11 · 21 answers · asked by Helena a 2

I have liked her for a year, and I finally confessed today and had my heart broken yet again.

She said she doesn't like me and it's nobody elses fault, just the way she feels. I replied saying "That's perfectly fine, I knew that anyway, just wanted to tell you myself - i admire you, so consider it a compliment"

I just don't know how to move on but. Now that things are less awkward, we will probably develop a better friendship (and i'll be less nervous etc). I'm kind of hoping she might somehow change her mind -considering we are nearly finished final year of school and things might change once school breaks eg see each other more/non-school activities.

What should I do? Should I act a certain way that might somehow attract her to me? Or might things change over time/after school?

:(

I have never liked somebody so much. And she is so unique, it will be hard to find anybody that comes close to her beauty.

2007-09-05 21:13:11 · 6 answers · asked by t@bles 1

I am 14 years old.
I am thinking about marriage and even though alot of people say I am too young to make a decision, I hve already made my deciscion, and I feel I have already found the person.
What do you suggest?
I mean I have thought about this alot, anyone else been through this before?
I mean I am like 100%sure, and I want to make this person extremely happy.
Thank you.

2007-09-05 20:03:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

it is really awkward. I just have to keep saying to myself "He likes Kayla He is your friend. What are you complaining about? You get to hang out with him like ALL the time!!!" but it isn't working!!! :S

2007-09-05 20:03:18 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

-personality
- hotness
- popular
- money (rich or poor)
- friend circle
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2007-09-05 20:03:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

okay so you met this girl when you were in 7th grade (she was in 5th) she used to be really shy around you until now (go to same school) shes now a freshman & you're a junior (obviously)

both of your parents are friends with one another & both of your younger brothers are best friends. since you are neighbors you carpool together for school activities (or just school)

would you be interested in dating her if you found her attractive? or would you not want to ruin anything since you are family friends?

2007-09-05 19:52:06 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have this problem with my boyfriends parents everytime i parks my car on a public road outside there house (old bus stop) they start on my boyfriend to move it . I told my boyfriend that i pay road tax and that its my right to park it on any road i want as long as its not private. I dont see the problem because they never park there they have there, they have there own drive.

2007-09-05 19:42:28 · 11 answers · asked by dolphin 1

the guy hadnt contacted me for over a year and when i finally contacted him, he told me that he had a baby with another girl and that the baby was with her. he took my virginity and after that, he started hinting that he and the baby's mother were still together? the thing is, he keeps coming to me. what can i do?

2007-09-05 19:41:06 · 22 answers · asked by esmerelda c 1

Okay, this girl I'm "kinda" going out with. I say "kinda" because it's not official between us, but still. We don't really get to hang out alot because our jobs. We hang out and I go over to her house pretty much sometime every weekend. But when she calls me on the phone, I'm just a bit shy on the phone and I'm not really a phone person. So I feel she gets bored after a while of talking to me on the phone. I mean, when we're together it's different, but on the phone it's this way. And I don't want her to start to get so bored talking to me on the phone that she stops liking me. What can I do? (NOTE: It's hard for me to really become a "phone person")

2007-09-05 19:32:11 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

- wasn't that great looking, maybe average, but had a great body and personality?

2007-09-05 19:28:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

If a guy says he is not ready for a relationship because he needs to be focused on his schooling but is seeing someone to the point of basically dating them without a title, Is his excuse real or is someone getting played?

2007-09-05 19:27:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

we've been together for almost 3 years (will be 3 in Feb). I'm 28, divorced with 3 girls part-time. he's 29-never been married. he comes from large and very close family (6 siblings)

we've had our ups and downs due to me having PMDD that was just diagnosed 3 months ago and is now under control. keep in mind that he's had to adjust to dealing w/my issues along with getting to know my 3 girls (who he loves very much and even watches the 2 older ones for me when i pick up my youngest from school).

we've talked marriage before and the past 8 months he's hinted about a proposal so i know his heart is in the right place. we've discussed me and the kids moving in after xmas of this year.

we talk everyday and he sees the kids at least 1-2 times per week. i'm close w/his whole family and babysit his neices often (they go to same school as my 2 older kids).

i have a key to his house and we tell each other everything.

am i waiting too long or should i be patient?

2007-09-05 19:22:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

calling you every other night at a certain time, and then all of a sudden stopping?

Its been three days

2007-09-05 19:21:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok heres the deal. I went out with my ex-boyfriend for 9 months and have never felt so close to anyone in my whole life. we had a connection and like all the same things. our biggest year at school was coming up and because we live in different towns we decided to break it up because it would be to hard 2 juggle everything. we have spoken everyday though until 2 days ago. i met up with him this summer and he said he was seeing a girl at his school. he kissed me and told me he loved me and when we got the train home before taking different buses to our respective towns we cried together. now i have jus found out that him and this other girl are official. it broke my heart so a got rid of everything that reminds me of him. what are your thoughts on the situation. dyu think he has been bullshittin me?

2007-09-05 19:18:35 · 9 answers · asked by lucyann 1

if i talk about other guys to him or look at them.....he gets angry....but he cant understand how i feel when he did the same?

2007-09-05 19:07:08 · 1 answers · asked by anna 2