it seems like my boyfriend barely likes spending time with me, tonight we were suppose to chill out but he said he doesnt feel like going out..yet an hour later his friends called him and he was ready to go, its now 2am and he's still not home..and im crying because i dont know is it me who has the problem or is it him all i want is to spend time with him because i miss him but hes too "tired" to go out with me but hes up and ready when its his friends im i needy or is he the one with the problem?
2007-09-05 21:51:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He shouldn't be out until 2am withoug calling. It depends on a lot of things: length of relationship, type of guy, how close he is with friends. If I went out with my buddies until 2am without calling I'd be trying to meet girls. If he cared about you more that his friends he wouldn't of gone out.
2007-09-05 21:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by Codynova 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes couples need time away from each other so that they can get together with their friends and bond with them. Imagine always being with your boyfriend and having no other relationships outside of that one. I think your boyfriend just wants some time to spend with his buds.
Don't take it personally.
You should try spending time with your friends and reconnecting with them.
2007-09-06 04:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's a little immature.
are you guys living together? if so, then he might just be comfortable with the routine of hanging out at home w/you.
if you aren't living together then this would be a MAJOR red flag for me. when you aren't living together-you tend to want to spend more time w/each other. i've been with my bf for almost 3 years and we spend almost all of our free time together. and he would NEVER be out till 2a with his buddies (and when he does go out with his friends-he calls me at least once if it's going to be a while before he's home).
I would back off for a while. spend time with YOUR friends. if he starts to question it, just tell him you're tired of being stuck at home all the time b/c he's "too tired to go out" with you but can with his friends. tell him you're no longer going to sit at home and wait for him. this should hopefully change his attitude. If not-then maybe it's time to cut your losses and find someone new who will treat you better.
2007-09-06 04:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
cee c, sounds like he's got something else up his sleeve or might be looking for some one else.
you have 2 choices,
1. rekindle the emotions and affections
2. come to terms that the relationship is ending
2007-09-06 04:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely not treating you right. He should want to take you out too. Why did he not ask you to go with him and his friends? I would talk to him about how you feel. Tell him that if you are good enough to sleep with and stay wih, then you should be good enough to take out. Tell him that it appears that he is treating his friends better than he treats you, and that is unacceptable!!
2007-09-06 04:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has the problem not u play him at his own games and go out with ur mates
2007-09-06 04:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by thing 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋