we've been together for almost 3 years (will be 3 in Feb). I'm 28, divorced with 3 girls part-time. he's 29-never been married. he comes from large and very close family (6 siblings)
we've had our ups and downs due to me having PMDD that was just diagnosed 3 months ago and is now under control. keep in mind that he's had to adjust to dealing w/my issues along with getting to know my 3 girls (who he loves very much and even watches the 2 older ones for me when i pick up my youngest from school).
we've talked marriage before and the past 8 months he's hinted about a proposal so i know his heart is in the right place. we've discussed me and the kids moving in after xmas of this year.
we talk everyday and he sees the kids at least 1-2 times per week. i'm close w/his whole family and babysit his neices often (they go to same school as my 2 older kids).
i have a key to his house and we tell each other everything.
am i waiting too long or should i be patient?
2007-09-05 19:22:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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and NO i won't propose to him. we are devoted christians and he wants to do the asking (we've talked about it).
he spends about 98% of his free time w/me and the kids. he does see his friends about once a week to fly rc airplanes and will occasionally go out w/a buddy for lunch or golf.
he tells me that i'm his everything and that he can't put into words how much he loves me. has told me in the past that if i would just relax-things would happen like i want them to (this was about 6 months ago-i've backed off and chilled out since then).
we get along great and he's truly my best friend and i'm his-i'm the first person he calls when he's upset or something exciting has happened to him.
2007-09-05 19:22:14 · update #1
Don't move in until you are married or he won't marry you. If he doesn't propose by the end of December you need to cut your losses and find someone else. Three years is way long. He should have proposed around the 1 1/2 or 2 year mark.
2007-09-05 19:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Keith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 years--girl, continue to be patient! :) He sounds like he's thinking about the future...just is a bit slower than some when it comes to making the big decision. You have all the time in the world to get married---enjoy the place you're at right now. If you wait for 13 years without a proposal--I'd say you've waited a bit too long--but 3 years...you're still ok.
2007-09-05 19:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Froggy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him another year, max. You, in your mind, are worrying about nothing-and you know why? If it was meant to be, it will happen, if it wasn't, he is not going to ask you, so it doesn't do a lick of good to worry. Men like to do it right, propose at the perfect moment generally.
I would wait another year, then mention that you do not want to waste anymore of your time with someone who isn't willing to committ to marraige. I wouldn't let you or the kids move in either til you two are married, you know better than that, esp. since you are a christian, raise your kids right!!! The kids are always the utmost importance-not a man-keep your head on straight girl and good luck!!!
2007-09-05 19:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by Sister Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into it, when it happens it will be great. I know it seems like you want it to happen now, but if you pressure him to much it might cause problems. Wait until he is ready. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years as well. He is 27 and not getting any younger, and we both have talked about it so I know what you are going through. Patience is a virtue and it will help make the engagement and marraige a happier one instead of stressful and fast paced.
2007-09-05 19:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by Cinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 01:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like the guy is realy into you. he seems honest, true and really loves u and your kids.
you.ve already been married once, and u dnt wana make a mistake again, marriage is a huge step.
be paitient with him, dnt rush things if u do rush things things may not work out the way u want it to and u stand a greater chance of making mistakes.
let nature take its course.
best of luck
arabella.
2007-09-05 19:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by ARABELLA.786 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him another year. I would not wait longer than that. the only reason I say that is because he has a difficult decision to make, when it comes to raising someone else's children. He may just surpirse you soon--Maybe even Christmas
2007-09-05 19:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. If he doesn't propose by Christmas, just do what all other girlfriends do, and bug the crap out of him everyday till he proposes just to get you to stop bugging him!
2007-09-05 19:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you have a good thing going dont rush it. i'm sure he will when he is rdy just be calm and patient!
2007-09-05 19:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋