the guy hadnt contacted me for over a year and when i finally contacted him, he told me that he had a baby with another girl and that the baby was with her. he took my virginity and after that, he started hinting that he and the baby's mother were still together? the thing is, he keeps coming to me. what can i do?
2007-09-05 19:41:06 · 22 answers · asked by esmerelda c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You wouldn't want a threesome, would you?
2007-09-05 20:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anniejo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, you sound quite young and it's easy to be confused in this situation. The first thing I'd say to you is look at what he says about the baby, "the baby is with the mother", always look to a guy at how he treats his ex (or present) G/F, not only is he being bad to her by coming after you but he has totally dismissed his own flesh and blood.By hinting to you that he is still with the mother of his child he is actually trying to read how far you will let him go. You need to raise your standards and look at what you want to do instead of reacting to him and his moves in this. Write down what you would like in a BF love,happiness, fun,security, and write down honestly what this guy brings to you, if you can't cross match the list then you have to move on. Yes love has ups and downs but it should not be a rollercoaster... good luck
2007-09-06 04:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by patlynn2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Tell him to stop calling you
2. Delete his number, rip it up, do whatever it takes to get rid of his contact info
3. Don't call him for any reason. Even if you left your favorite sweater at his house last winter, just let it go and buy a new one.
4. Remember, there are more fish in the sea and lots of them don't have the drama of being "the other woman.
5. If he calls you, hang up on him every time. He'll get the hint.
6. Don't let him walk all over you because it will never work no matter how much you want it to or no matter how many things he promises. They're all lies.
2007-09-06 02:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by xila31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey he's just using you, i think its enough already that you've lost what is important to you for him. And it shouldn't be that when he has a need he comes to you and still enjoy the another life with the other women.
In reality, he may not have another women with a baby, he might have many other girls and its the same thing he says to everyone of them..
Please look further, I'm sure there's someone who will love you a whole lot more than just that ya?
Take care!
2007-09-06 02:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by BeatenLonely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's very hard for you to get over a guy (regardless of his situation) simply due to the fact you lost your virginity to him.
The best advice I can give you is to do yourself a HUGE favor and simply stay away.
Occupy your time doing other things, meeting new people, adding some locals in your area to your MySpace just for some fun, etc...
He keeps coming to you probably to get away from the baby and "feel free again". Don't fall into his arms.
2007-09-06 02:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by Chris Clayton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop at ones. If he go's after you and he's still with the baby's mother, there will probably be 10 other girls he wants! Try to find someone better, that will be there just for you and spoil you and care for YOU!
xxx
2007-09-06 02:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being the other woman! He will use you as long as you let him. If you break it off with him he will just use someone else. Find your own man and have your own family. Sounds like a loser, think of his girlfriend would you want to be in the dark and have your man stepping out on you? It would hurt right?
2007-09-06 02:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the situation alone.Nothing is worse then breaking up a family.If he chooses to thats on him but I would steer clear of him.I would feel awful guilty if a man left his babys mother for me and I knew he was with her when he had intentions towards me.I am sorry if you care for him but there are others to consider and I would just back off for awhile if it is meant to be it will be.
2007-09-06 02:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you need to stop waiting on him, stop letting him be the deciding factor in your life. Move on, socialise with people, go out, have fun & love will find you. The more of you concentrate on happiness.. it will find you. Its The Law Of Attraction.
2007-09-06 03:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imagine its you that has his child, would you want to be with him knowing he is cheating on you and your daughter,this poor child having a father who cant keep it in his pants....next time he gets in touch tell him to grow up and be responsible to his girlfriend and child and that your not willing to be used by a loser any more, then go and find your self a guy with no ties who likes you for being you and in future don't do to others what you wouldn't like done to yourself.
2007-09-06 02:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. He's still with the mother and want's you too, how many more has he got on the go?
2007-09-06 02:45:00 · answer #11 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋