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ok heres the deal. I went out with my ex-boyfriend for 9 months and have never felt so close to anyone in my whole life. we had a connection and like all the same things. our biggest year at school was coming up and because we live in different towns we decided to break it up because it would be to hard 2 juggle everything. we have spoken everyday though until 2 days ago. i met up with him this summer and he said he was seeing a girl at his school. he kissed me and told me he loved me and when we got the train home before taking different buses to our respective towns we cried together. now i have jus found out that him and this other girl are official. it broke my heart so a got rid of everything that reminds me of him. what are your thoughts on the situation. dyu think he has been bullshittin me?

2007-09-05 19:18:35 · 9 answers · asked by lucyann 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Ex-boyfriend is in fact ex-boyfriend! This is a fact-if you love someone the concept of being with someone else would sound just nuts to you.If you truly love someone you do not have any desire to be with anyone else-right?As a teenager I was pretty sloppy with the word "love"but saying it to a girl had really good results.In the end I really did love someone and I learned all about what it really meant-You didn't want anyone else right?why? because you loved him and prob. still do.......you answered your own question.I hitchhiked 45 miles one way to see the girl I loved-he just found someone more convenient-sorry but I cant put that in a friendly way.

2007-09-05 19:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by louis g 1 · 0 1

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2016-05-05 21:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Given the circumstances that you have made a decision to exit the relationship and move on, the best way to get your ex happy again is to stop the contact, which is clearly painful and holding him back from pursuing a new life with someone else.
Unless your intent is to get back together with your ex, it doesn't help your relationship with the new boyfriend or with your ex to tell the new boyfriend about the calls.
The signals you are unintendedly sending to your ex are that you still have feelings for him and that there is hope for you to get back together. Next time your ex phones, tell him that maybe you got your signals crossed, and you want to have a clear understanding with him that you both need to move on. Let him know that you wish the best for him; things were not meant to be and didn't work out. Tell him the reasons that you feel that it didn't work out. Don't discuss the reasons if he argues - just say at this point you have made the decision that you need to move. Tell him that he needs to move on also, and you are sure that there is someone else out there for him. Be firm, polite and respectful. If he still continues to say that he loves you, repeat that you both need to move on, and you wish him the best, but sometimes things don't work out like we plan. Ask him to please not call you anymore, because this is not helpful to you both moving on and starting new independent futures. If he argues, just repeat several times, as needed - 'i'm sorry it didn't work out, we can't change the past, and we need to move on, please don't call me anymore'.
Then if he continues to call repeatedly, do not answer or return his calls, and change your phone number.

2014-07-30 12:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

No I think he was keeping it real but you gotta understand men want their woman's attention 24/7 and if they dont have it then they look for it else where. he just really needed a girl who lived closer to him, you need to move on and do the same because he didnt care about your feelings

2007-09-05 19:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

He is apparently just keeping his name in your cookie-jar so he can call on you when he hits a dry spell.
Long-distance romances seldom work out. The girl on his local turf will always win out.
Move on!

2007-09-05 19:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0 0

Do everything in your power to get back with an ex that you miss and seperated on ridiculous terms.

2007-09-05 19:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

O.K. DUMMY GET OVER IT. YOUR HERE HE'S THERE. YOU BOTH DECIDED ON IT REMEMBER? THE ONLY STUPID THING I THINK YOU DID WAS GETTING RID OF YOUR MEMORY OF HIM. THIS WAS A PART OF YOUR LIFE YOUR GROWING. YOU COULD HAVE PUT IT AWAY. LOOKED AND LAUGHED ABOUT YEARS DOWN THE LINE. DUMMY!

2007-09-05 19:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by LENEY 1 · 0 2

some people jsut don't like to be alone. i'm sure he really cares about you but not getting to c u has to be hard. maybe you should start to move on to he has

2007-09-05 19:23:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

either way you gotta let him go and find someone who wants one girl only.

2007-09-05 19:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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