Other - Family & Relationships - 5 March 2007

Hi everyone, hope you can help me sort my head out. My ex & i split up at Xmas, we'd lived together for about 18mnths. Neither of us wanted it to happen, but it seemed to be the only way at the time. I needed to change many things in my life, and such a drastic move has made me do it & i feel better for it. We were in very regular contact up to 4 wks ago and i felt positive we could move on when out of the blue he told me he didnt want to get hurt again, or move back in at the moment. Contact has cooled between us and i have thought he was seeing someone else, which he's always denied. I know he loves me but why won't he give me the chance to prove to him that things have changed and we have something special thats worth saving? Do I keep in contact with him or back off, i'm just so scared if i don't keep in touch with him he'll think i dont care and back off even more. I am in pieces and cant think straight so am hoping to get some food for thought from anyone out there. thanks

2007-03-05 23:46:09 · 17 answers · asked by Mrs Squarepants 1

CAKE OR BED
>
>A HUSBAND IS AT HOME WATCHING A
>FOOTBALL GAME WHEN HIS WIFE INTERRUPTS,
>
>HONEY,
>COULD YOU FIX THE LIGHT IN THE HALLWAY?
>IT'S BEEN FLICKERING FOR WEEKS NOW.
>
>HE LOOKS AT HER AND SAYS ANGRILY,
>FIX THE LIGHTS NOW?
>DOES IT LOOK LIKE I HAVE
>GE WRITTEN ON MY FOREHEAD?
>I DON'T THINK SO.
>
>FINE,
>
>THEN THE WIFE ASKS,
>WELL THEN, COULD YOU FIX THE FRIDGE DOOR?
>IT WON'T CLOSE RIGHT
>
>TO WHICH HE REPLIED,
>FIX THE FRIDGE DOOR?
>DOES IT LOOK LIKE I HAVE WESTINGHOUSE
>WRITTEN ON MY FOREHEAD?
>I DON'T THINK SO
>
>FINE, SHE SAYS
>THEN YOU COULD AT LEAST FIX THE STEPS
>TO THE FRONT DOOR?
>THEY ARE ABOUT TO BREAK
>
>I'M NOT A CARPENTER AND I DON'T
>WANT TO FIX STEPS
>HE SAYS, DOES IT LOOK LIKE I HAVE
>ACE HARDWARE WRITTEN ON MY FOREHEAD?
>I DON'T THINK SO
>I'VE HAD ENOUGH OF YOU.
>I'M GOING TO THE BAR!!!!
>
>SO HE GOES TO THE BAR AND DRINKS FOR A
>COUPLE OF HOURS...............................
>
>HE STARTS TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT HOW
>HE TREATED HIS WIFE, AND DECIDES
>TO GO HOME
>
>AS HE WALKS INTO THE HOUSE HE NOTICES
>THAT THE STEPS ARE ALREADY FIXED.
>
>AS HE ENTERS THE HOUSE, HE SEES THE
>HALL LIGHT IS WORKING.
>
>AS HE GOES TO GET A BEER, HE NOTICES
>THE FRIDGE DOOR IS FIXED.
>
>HONEY, HE ASKS, HOW'D ALL THIS GET FIXED?
>SHE SAID, WELL, WHEN YOU LEFT I SAT
>OUTSIDE AND CRIED.
>
>JUST THEN A NICE YOUNG MAN ASKED ME
>WHAT WAS WRONG, AND I TOLD HIM.
>
>HE OFFERED TO DO ALL THE REPAIRS, AND
>ALL I HAD TO DO WAS EITHER
>GO TO BED WITH HIM OR BAKE A CAKE.
>
>HE SAID,
>SO WHAT KIND OF CAKE DID YOU BAKE?
>
>SHE REPLIED,
>HELLOOOOO..
>DO YOU SEE BETTY CROCKER WRITTEN
>ON MY FOREHEAD?
>I DON'T THINK SO!

2007-03-05 23:45:46 · 9 answers · asked by sexsired 4

hi friends....we are a decent moderate family (niether conservative nor altra mod) but very concious about the image of family. my elder sis is just married but my problem is she resembles so much to an indian actress that both seems twins in first look. The resemblence would't have a serious problem if the said indian artist not known by her skimpy dresses as well as "sex-symbol". Hence, I feel so much ashamed when guys talk about that actress in my presence N I feel agitated thinking they are mocking me. Just wanna know how to tackle with this situation?

2007-03-05 23:25:23 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

i know 1 lady 5 yr younger than me she like me what to do/
importent thing is we r good friends. both married

2007-03-05 23:19:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well me and my bf have been together for two years. And, im still a virgin.... But, im scared if giving it upto him. I really want to. But i just get nervous. What do i do?

2007-03-05 23:14:03 · 11 answers · asked by S M 2

.well ive waited a bit longer than that so why hasn't it begun.

2007-03-05 22:58:55 · 23 answers · asked by ? 7

2007-03-05 22:56:33 · 1 answers · asked by sum 1

2007-03-05 22:46:12 · 10 answers · asked by blondi 1

i am 7 weeks pregnant and really confused i have been beaten up so many time by my ex boyfriend i am no longer with him.
i think i am turning in to a lesbian is this possabile?
i told one of my best mates have i have really strong feelings for her.
since i told her she do not talk to me as much and has told every one about what i told her.
what do i do am i gay or not please help!!
(19 yrs old)

2007-03-05 22:41:59 · 11 answers · asked by Bipolar-Bird88 3

my partner got divorced from his wife of 17 years 3 years ago and i think he hasnt got over it. sometimes he gets up and cant face going out on his own says he is scared, cant think without being pushed, does not have any friends,his parents dont help coz they think there is nothing wrong with him but i live with him and i know there is something wrong with him all they do is encourage him to take medication and it will go away. please can someone out there help me help him. i cant leave him as this will depress him more.......im going nuts here

2007-03-05 22:38:50 · 11 answers · asked by friendlyeasterbunny 2

Something you saw on TV? Something you read? Something you saw? Or something someone told you? What was it?

2007-03-05 22:34:56 · 7 answers · asked by tiemetight814 2

I don't want to get hurt again. I have had enough hurt and pain recently with a break-up. However I did like this guy when I met him 18 months ago, and he seems interested, however we have made it clear that we are friends. We have had "coffee" before but didn't have coffee...so I know what the "fun" is suggesting.
I realise that there might be a possibility of getting closer to this guy as we have a lot in common and he knows all my recent problems and vice versa. We have been in contact by text on and off for 18 months. I do like the fun with him, but I am just afraid of getting hurt if I get involved. However we do seem to be there for each other, as friends. Can I get some advice?

2007-03-05 22:32:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-05 22:11:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

ive been thinking of asking her out over myspace but ive had people say if a ask her out she will say yes but the main thing is that im a freshman in high school and she is a jr. and i dont know how to approch this

2007-03-05 22:04:42 · 12 answers · asked by toatalgeek99 1

what is definition between adjust and compromise?

&

what is the difference between adjust and compromise?


if u have any suitable link pls share.

2007-03-05 22:02:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-05 22:01:58 · 5 answers · asked by GAURAV S 1

Basically, I am a bum living off my parents with no life. How do I get a life?
My original question was going to be "how do I find a girl", but after looking at similar questions the most common answer to that seemed to be "don't search, let her come to you". Unfortunately that doesn't really work for people who have no reason at all to leave their home.
No job, hardly any education (dropped out of school many years ago), don't know anybody, no friends, I have a problem with getting anxious around people, and get depressed a lot. I pretty much define the word "loser". What can I do?

2007-03-05 21:46:31 · 14 answers · asked by slarmm 1

just won't go away even after the fight is over ,and even though you try to forgive and forget,admit your part and apoligize,the pain of their words make it impossible to think of them the same,trust them the same,have faith in their love and hope in the future.

2007-03-05 21:29:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

This may sound ridiculous, but I'm 21 years old. I have another year before I get my bachelor's degree. Recently I asked myself what's really important to me and the only answer I came up with was family. I come from divorced parents and I grew up with my mom. I realize that there is nothing more important to me than starting a family and keeping it together (does this seem more like an entry in a diary? lol.) I don't think I can honestly say I've been in love before. I thought I was in love once but I realize now that the girl was just playing head games with me. In any case, is love required for a good marriage? A friend told me recently that the heart dies when we get older. Is this true? It looks like I have an oppurtunity on Wall Street after college. A thought occured to me to try to buckle down for a few years and put away some money so that I can support a wife and children someday and have more time to spend. Is this a good idea?

2007-03-05 21:14:30 · 2 answers · asked by bearmuscle13 1

2007-03-05 21:10:20 · 6 answers · asked by Veggie misses you............... 2

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2007-03-05 21:05:50 · 1 answers · asked by cheeryblossomdream 1

..What do you think about Filipina woman in general?

2007-03-05 20:04:36 · 5 answers · asked by just me 3

My wife whom I love dearly is disabled & because of it she has little social life. Luckily her doctor recently gave her a new med. that has GREATLY helped (including losing a lot of weight). Now for the past 2 months she has been spending nearly all of her time on the computer (and I do mean nearly). During this time she has been chatting with 1) and old boyfriend which she had had a brief affair with (before we were married but 'together') and a college student (she's in her mid 30s) who I suspect is 'hot' for her.
I've done my best (or so I think) to tend to her every need (time, sex (LOTS :), buying her jewelry, getting her an ipod, cookies, almost anything she wants, that I can get/give/afford (which is much for $)). I do believe she should have friends, male and female but these two really bother me.
I've tired to mention it, but she refuses to talk about it. She KNOWS I'm concerned.
I mostly trust her, but she's enjoys the flirting (it's nice to be wanted)
Should I be jealous

2007-03-05 20:01:29 · 19 answers · asked by Charles 1

I went out with someone for just over a year, unfortunately we broke up about a month ago, I tried to pretend it didn't bother me but it was killing me from inside and now I have reached a point where I can barely walk 2 steps without crying. We broke up because we were no longer working as he cheated on me over new years and I couldn't let it go, it was just a kiss but a kiss is still a kiss. Now he keeps talking to this guy he promised me he would never talk to, even though he made me promised I wouldn't take to my ex, he has even arranged a date with him, and I can't stop thinking that this person made our relationship hell at so many times and now hes actually going to go on a date with him.
How can a person who "loved" me so much turn into someone I don't know, hes mean, rude and generally does not give a **** about me in any sense at all anymore :(
what do I do?
Is it fair for him to break the only promise he ever made, or should I really have expected any less from a cheater?

2007-03-05 19:45:28 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Everyone says if they had the chance they would have sex with "there fantacy Girl/Guy" But would you really?
Do you think it would break the illusion you have built up of them?
You also have to factor in your present situation,Married/Single.
really think about this and give real answers.

2007-03-05 18:42:03 · 16 answers · asked by Kimmie 3

am just curius who and how each item was decided on

2007-03-05 18:29:53 · 2 answers · asked by JOSEPH J 2

I have a longterm bf but I kind of find an acquaintance of mine cute. I won't do anything, but I usually like really tall guys. Thing is, I think he's 5'4" and very very small. Like 105 pounds maybe.

2007-03-05 18:25:43 · 4 answers · asked by Curiosityworkswonders 1

IF A MAN WANTS YOU

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Pass this on to at least 10 woman and 5 men.

BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT..............

2007-03-05 17:31:39 · 6 answers · asked by LITTLE 1 :o) 6

i have very good bf.but i have 2 leave him due 2 some major problem.what can i do?

2007-03-05 17:27:19 · 5 answers · asked by akanksha s 1

i have very good bf.but i have 2 leave him due 2 some major problem.what can i do?

2007-03-05 17:25:10 · 7 answers · asked by akanksha s 1