who decided the type of items you should buy for anniverseries?

Question

am just curius who and how each item was decided on

Answer 1

You mean like year one is the paper anniversary, year five is the wood anniversary, etc? Good question. It always seemed kinda silly and sometimes arbitrary to me, though interesting.

According to an entry at Wikipedia, etiquette expert Emily Post came up with the original list in a book called "Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics and at Home." That was way back in 1922, according to the entry. No wonder it seems dated.

As for how each item was decided, there's not much detail there, other than the statement, "Generally speaking the longer the period, the more precious and/or durable the material associated with it." That makes sense, though it's interesting to see that the order would probably change in today's world, at least in a few cases.

One that I really question, for example, is oak following diamond (at 80 years and 75 years)!

Answer 2

Cards, roses, anything the receiver would always like works.