I don't want to get hurt again. I have had enough hurt and pain recently with a break-up. However I did like this guy when I met him 18 months ago, and he seems interested, however we have made it clear that we are friends. We have had "coffee" before but didn't have coffee...so I know what the "fun" is suggesting.
I realise that there might be a possibility of getting closer to this guy as we have a lot in common and he knows all my recent problems and vice versa. We have been in contact by text on and off for 18 months. I do like the fun with him, but I am just afraid of getting hurt if I get involved. However we do seem to be there for each other, as friends. Can I get some advice?
2007-03-05 22:32:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it is a difficult dilemma, as I do enjoy his company, and maybe thinking we could develop a relationship.I sort of blew him off initially as I was feeling upset over the break-up. It's like we have a lot in common, but we are both suggesting different things in the last too wks. I do think it may have potential to develop into something more than friends and fun, so it's hard to decide what next step to take.
2007-03-05 22:54:51 · update #1
go n find out what he has to offer
2007-03-05 23:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by THUG LIFE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you said it yourself, you know what the ´fun´ is and you want it to go further than that to some kind of relationship without many possibilities of being hurt again. Make a date with him at your place (provided you have some alone time) have an open bottle and two glasses of something bubbly and give him the most romance you have ever given. Make him feel like he is wrapped up in some romance novel with tons of pleasure. And make it clear without words that he can HAVE that, if the two of you stay together. Good luck. Just be romantic and real. Love and Respect.
2007-03-05 23:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by nassim420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the 18 months,you've met him once-for coffee-which ended up not being coffee. Now he's texting saying let's meet up for some "Fun". I don't see any respect from this guy,and I can see you getting hurt. If you want to pursue this relationship,tell him you don't ming meeting up-but you'd like to leave the physical intimacy out for the time being as you are not just a bit of "fun".
2007-03-05 23:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your attitude to recreational sex, quite honestly. If you do have sex with this man, and have a great time, what will you think of him - and yourself, afterwards? Will you consider that there is some obligation between you? Or will you just treat your relationship the same as it is now. Can you be friends and still have sex occasionally, or must it be something more?
Think carefully about these things before you move, make a decision, and keep to it.
2007-03-05 22:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ive been there done that and stayed on my own for 4 years, yes that's fun but then i met a man for the 1st time 3 years ago and i have never been so happy out of my entire life. if you really like him go for it. you know in your self how you feel. i am happily married now. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-05 22:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you sleep with him or "have coffee" with him,as you say ,you will get hurt.
It's obvious that all he wants from you is sex.
Girl after break up = girl who be an easy lay.
Most guys know this and many girls keep doing things that confirm this well known notion.
Don't sleep with him unless you want to be hurt again.
He'll say anything to change your mind and you will think you're in control,til after you sleep with him and he blows you off again.
2007-03-05 22:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there. Unfortunately most girls aren't very good at just fun, especially not with old friends cos we tend to get emotional, despite promising ourselves that it's 'just fun' keep it as a friendship, don't cross the line. Seriously!
2007-03-05 22:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Skippy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gather enough courage and ask him what he has in mind? Tell him to be very specific as you do not want any surprises. Then sit back and relax as you get the answer to your quiz, from his own mouth, or pen or text message etc.. Hope it helps
2007-03-05 22:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by 1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't go there, unless you know you won't let yourself get close I think its not wise as I think you're probably quite vulnerable at the moment...he has made it clear its just 'fun' so whatever you decide just be careful!
2007-03-05 22:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by blondie1 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the first thing you have to ask yourself is: do i really have to do this? and if you do ask youself: how long do i want to have a relationship like this? its important to put yourself first in life, dont do anything to please anybody even though he has been there for you in the past. look after number one (thats you) and find yourself a man to love you all the time and not only when he wants a bit of fun.
2007-03-05 22:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by friendlyeasterbunny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you go through life worrying about getting hurt, you never experience the good things either. What if he's "the one"?
2007-03-05 22:39:51 · answer #11 · answered by jingles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋