i am 7 weeks pregnant and really confused i have been beaten up so many time by my ex boyfriend i am no longer with him.
i think i am turning in to a lesbian is this possabile?
i told one of my best mates have i have really strong feelings for her.
since i told her she do not talk to me as much and has told every one about what i told her.
what do i do am i gay or not please help!!
(19 yrs old)
2007-03-05 22:41:59 · 11 answers · asked by Bipolar-Bird88 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Firstly you need to speak with your parents about your pregnancy.Don't for what ever reason go back to your boyfreind.You don't just turn into a lesbian.And there is no point trying to lable yourself at this stage.Consider the following:
Are your feelings for women stronger than your feelings for men?
Do you get more excited about the idea of kissing a man or kissing a woman?
Who do you see yourself settling down with in the future?
Are you more physically attracted to men's or women's bodies?
Who do you fantasize about more, men or women?
Answering these questions may help you figure out what your sexual orientation is. You may be lesbian, bisexual or straight. My best advice to you is to be patient with yourself. Whereas it is empowering to label yourself, the process of being sure is much more important.
Remember whether you are lesbian, straight or bisexual you will be most happy and fulfilled if you live a life true to yourself.
Good luck with your pregnancy.
2007-03-05 22:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by mother hen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to real stop and think about what you are doing. You are 7 months pregnant so that means just 7 months ago you were not gay and now you think you are. Don't let the men you have had in the past ruin it for all men. Trust me I went through lots of loser, an abusive husband who I have 2 children with to finally find the love of my life who I just had my last child with. Yeah you are probably thinking I am really old no I am 28 and I was pregnant and married at your age. I am a strong believer that there is good men out there you have to be patient. Finding a lover of the opposite sex is not the answer women are can be just as abusive as men. Look at what is going to be in the best interest of your child. It is not about you anymore it's all about your baby. good luck don't get discouraged you'll find mister right
2007-03-06 06:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by renesarah1209 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reaction is not uncommon, so don't feel bad about your feelings. You may have chosen the wrong woman to admit your feelings to, or it may be that you are only reacting to the bad treatment by your ex-man, and not homosexual as such. You wouldn't be the first woman to change sexual preferences though bad treatment, but you may not necessarily be 'a lesbian'. And for your own sake, and the child's, get some counselling. Your local GP can refer you. Just remember that you are Woman, and you can meet this life challenge.
2007-03-06 06:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your not gay if you like both men and women, you are bisexual. But dont go to women just because of one bad relationship with a man, not all men hit. It is very possible to love either sex, and there is nothing wrong with it. Obviously your best mate isnt a very good friend.
2007-03-06 06:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you've been hurt so much by guys that you are drawn to women who have treated you well. That doesn't mean you are gay. It just means you want someone to accept and love you for who you are. I wouldn't worry about that right now. Be concerned about you as a mother. Surround yourself with people who will care for you in a loving way, not sexual. Take care of you.
2007-03-06 14:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by his.grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be so normal to have feelings like that for your close friends,i know completely where your coming from,my x partner used to beat me,i had his child&things got worse so after 6yrs i finally left him.
As for turning into a les i don't think thats the case i think your looking for comfort&love but your mistaking friendship for love,you need to take time out&look at all points,as for your"friend" not talking to you well thats just silly,she should understand that your confuesed&alone&scared.
All i can say is don't ring her in a crisis.
i hope everything works out for you.
Best of luck.
2007-03-06 06:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by kittypinkchuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of women who have bad experiences with men do turn gay
the majority of hookers are lesbian cause they are treated badly by pimps and clients
You may just be seeking someone who cares for you
If your pregnant you may just lust for women cause of your hormones
are you physically attracted sexually to other women
if so then you are gay but if its just someone to care for you then it maybe just that you need loving
you need to use your head when seeking a companion
if he beat you up why did you let him get you pregnant
you choose him to be your childs father so you cant stop him wanting a part of your childs life
he will need to seek counselling but you wont be able to cut him off
he has rights too
2007-03-06 06:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by leelu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i think the first thing you should do is concerntrate on your unborn child, and you have been treated so ****** badly that this guy has you craving affection from anyone that shows you attention. dont go back to that guy, dont let him treat you like that, you dont deserve it, your carrying a baby for christ sake. i think your mate is probably just shocked, i hope she comes round, maybe you should explain to her that you dont want her for a relationship (even if you do) that you need her for her support at this time in your life.
good luck hun
2007-03-06 06:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by princesspink1984 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you may have become gay and this is not funny so dw im not taking the piss. but as your ex beated you the way he did, you probly didnt want that to happen again so you went for a girl instead. its not your fault. just try and talk to her coz thats the only thing you can do to get her to understand. hope verything does well babe.
2007-03-06 06:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by Kid Fro$ty / $up3rman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well noone can really tell u if u are lesbian or not...umm and that guy that beat u so many times..yea have u told anyone bout it?? if not u should cuz if not he is bound to do it to another one...and yea it is possabile for u to turn in to a lesbian...i kinda don't get wat ur askin but than again i do..u kinda seemed confused about life itself & u don't kno wat to do u need to understand life isn't easy but u have ur family and friends who will be there for u & that gurl..yea jus stop talkin to her if u really want her to notice u
2007-03-06 06:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by crazysmith187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋