my partner got divorced from his wife of 17 years 3 years ago and i think he hasnt got over it. sometimes he gets up and cant face going out on his own says he is scared, cant think without being pushed, does not have any friends,his parents dont help coz they think there is nothing wrong with him but i live with him and i know there is something wrong with him all they do is encourage him to take medication and it will go away. please can someone out there help me help him. i cant leave him as this will depress him more.......im going nuts here
2007-03-05 22:38:50 · 11 answers · asked by friendlyeasterbunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
communication.
the key of every relationship.
Wait for a moment, when he is ready for talking
2007-03-05 22:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You recognize that your partner is depressed. His parents probably know that this is not just him 'feeling a little down' but what can they do beyond recommending medication? This is the response many doctors would give him, too. Yes, therapy would help and probably would be better for him but it takes time and it takes that first step of committing yourself to a therapist's care and regular meetings. You can help your partner by going to therapy with him - maybe for just awhile until he feels comfortable going alone. It would make a world of difference to him but then again, so would a prescribed anti-depressant. I think this is the point of his parents encouraging him to take medication; sometimes that is all a depressed person can muster the energy to do. And the correct medication, the correct dosage, with the help of a physician who is involved - things can turn around quickly.
2007-03-09 19:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 years is a long time. But 3 years should have eased the load by now. Sounds like he blames himself and wishes he could have done things differently, then the relationship would still be there....is my guess.
He needs to talk to someone, a counsellor, perhaps. He needs to unload to someone. You are too close.
What does surprise me though, is how you got together in the first place. He is carrying waaaay too much baggage to continue this relationship!....Sorry.
2007-03-05 22:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17yrs is a long time for someone to get over it in a short time. Best and only thing you can do for him is to be there for him, cheering him on as he takes baby steps to improvement.
But, you should also be aware that it will be emotional exhausting for you too and that it will cause frustrations in the relationship. If you truly love him, be open with him and tell him whenever you feel you can't handle it anymore... Might help him to realize that he really needs to move on with life.
2007-03-05 22:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by loves_nature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of what I am about to suggest you have probably heard before. Just not in the right way, probably. May I please request this of you? Please have him go to his dr., and get a physical if it's been a yr or more. Then, ask your man to please see a counselor, and offer to go with him if he would like. And, yes, if the dr. or counselor reccommend anti-depressant/anti-anxiety medication, please do so. The meds whon't make the problem go away, but it will help. The counseling will be of help too. I wish you both the best. Take care.
2007-03-05 22:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see a doctor. Medication if at all should be prescribed by a gp but therapy is much more effective.
I think you will find that actually getting him to go to the gp will be the hardest part.
I wish you well
2007-03-05 22:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him tell him that everything is goin to be ok maybe not today maybe not tomorrow but soon but the only way is if he gets out in the world and face it...its time for him to move on no it wont be easy but u jus got to take it one step at a time..
2007-03-05 22:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by crazysmith187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to see a doctor now, they will refer him for therapy, and direct you to a support group. He needs to keep taking his medication but he also needs someone to talk to outwith the immediate family circle. It will also help you having someone to talk to, as its not easy coping with someone with depression.
2007-03-05 22:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mas 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
^^what he aid. Talk to the bloke. Support wherever you can. Be strong. Treat him, show him it doesn't all have to be doom and gloom. Introduce to people, help him make new friends. etc
2007-03-05 22:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the best healer.
2007-03-09 20:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋