I went out with someone for just over a year, unfortunately we broke up about a month ago, I tried to pretend it didn't bother me but it was killing me from inside and now I have reached a point where I can barely walk 2 steps without crying. We broke up because we were no longer working as he cheated on me over new years and I couldn't let it go, it was just a kiss but a kiss is still a kiss. Now he keeps talking to this guy he promised me he would never talk to, even though he made me promised I wouldn't take to my ex, he has even arranged a date with him, and I can't stop thinking that this person made our relationship hell at so many times and now hes actually going to go on a date with him.
How can a person who "loved" me so much turn into someone I don't know, hes mean, rude and generally does not give a **** about me in any sense at all anymore :(
what do I do?
Is it fair for him to break the only promise he ever made, or should I really have expected any less from a cheater?
2007-03-05 19:45:28 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It seems so much more complicated then that. First love is a sticky feeling, you don't just stop like the person died. Its there and well always be there. Thats why the first bit of wisdom I learned was: Be Damn Careful Who You Love!. That said is he dating another man? Because if so Bi-sexuality is usually the product of perversion or a very confused mind. Which would make it damn hard to trust someone who isn't be truthful with themselves. The best thing you can do is try and see life without this handicap. Now your back in the driver seat and the future is open. I know it doesn't feel like that in the beganing but you'll get use to the burn and see that most of the pain comes from erasing the old life for hope of this new one. Let go of the hope and take back control. As far as the love goes it well always be there, he can never really be just another stranger to you. Which is why having ex relationships that work good and stable can be quite a health thing. Because lets face it, if you've been thru hell with a person and they still think your worth there time, whats a better ego bust then that. Besides shows us who was real and who was fake. Good luck and maybe its time to put some distance in this bond and not let it control your heart. Of course like everything emotional its easier to say then do...
2007-03-06 04:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're talking about guys here? Like gay guys? Well, dramas abound in every variety of lifestyle, I guess, but where did you think this was actually going to lead? Talk about expectations - gay life is a series of relatively short-lived relationships and they break up one way or another.
I'm not trying to get you to lead a non-gay life (you'd have better chances at long-term happiness but it is your choice how you want to play out your dramas); I'm saying look around you at the world of gays and learn to go with the flow. It's one hook up after another. Yes, it hurts. But trust me, you'll get over it.
2007-03-10 03:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋