Marriage & Divorce - 9 June 2007

I was recently divorced after 20 years. Not to say that it was a good relationship, we stayed together for the kids. But he has had a new girlfriend since the time we were lagally separated. since she has come into his life he thinks that he can DICTATE to me when what and where about my son, even though I got primary custody of our 15 yr old son (the youngest of the 4). This summer my mother fell very ill, and with summer vacation he thinks that I should not be able to see him (as I am traveling back and forth from Fl. to Ga.) I had to call my lawyer to make him let me see him for a weekend. I know that she is behind all of his decisions (only because he is not a man and I have had to be this way too throughout our 20 marriage). The only reason he is with her is for her money, she has bought a home and he is moving out of our home and it's being foreclosed, I also have a 50 % interest in. How do I deal with him and her when they are both acting like little kids? Or am I being a wimp.

2007-06-09 02:05:55 · 17 answers · asked by C G 1

I want to do something really special for my BF but i am short on money and would like some suggestions please...thanks on advance x

2007-06-09 02:00:17 · 17 answers · asked by princesspooi 2

i feel bad when she refuses to say i love you even thogh she loves me madly i dont know how to express my love and make her feel great i can spend a lot on heri just want her to be happy

2007-06-09 01:54:26 · 16 answers · asked by asweet_dish 2

the exact information about my latest marriage

2007-06-09 01:51:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Recently his son (23) moved in with us and although dynamics have changed with us - he has regressed to being like a child, saying he has more than me when it comes to food, starting a discussion and walking off and generally demanding attention, and now has stopped helping me around the house and waits to be waited on.... please advise how i can get him to see how is behaving and finding out why?

2007-06-09 01:39:39 · 20 answers · asked by Bubbles 2

my soon to be ex husband thinks he can pass crude comments of a sexual nature wanting to see certain parts of my body, he makes me feel he is looking at me like a dirty old man .Other things have happened over the years during our married life but i do not want to let the whole world know but again it is a sexual nature.Anything i say to him he turns it around to sex it is degrading,and i am now starting to get up set over it and have filed for divorce ,i just do not understand the man i married 20 years ago could change so much i feel he does not respect me or our daughters and most of all himself x thank you in advance for answering xx sarah x

2007-06-09 01:37:06 · 16 answers · asked by flickerboo 3

2007-06-09 01:30:35 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My STBEx-Husband seems to be the classic Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde. When he's w/his "mistress" (whom he left me for) he's a total Mr. Hyde -- rude, cold, says hateful things, says that he hates me more than anything, calls me inappropriate names, laughs at his "mistress" when she does the same to me, complains about me asking for $$ for our daughter. But when she's not around, & our daughter & I are visiting him, he's Dr. Jekyll -- nice, friendly, all smiles, apoligizes for earlier events, swears he does NOT hate me, gives me $$ (though never very much) without complaining, has even bought me lunch several times.

I dont get it? I simply want to be friends w/him for our daughter's sake, but it's not going to work if I'm the friend in person, but the "evil ex" when she's around.

I'm curious to try to understand why he's acting like this? Is he trying to impress her? or just being fake? why is he only nice when she's not there?

2007-06-09 01:24:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was just wondering...... i was with my ex boyfriend for 5 years (im 24) and we have a six year old son together and we split up and he didnt see him for 2 1/2 years or called or anything.. it was court ordered he pay $50 a month in child support and he never paid a dime... we got back together 2 months ago and split back up because i just cant love him like i used to a few years ago........

ANSWER MY QUESTION PLEASE AND TELL ME HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR SITUATION....... THANKS :)

2007-06-09 01:22:44 · 24 answers · asked by i♥holio 5

and if you're single will you do that with your future partner?

2007-06-09 01:13:15 · 15 answers · asked by njm 3

I have done some horrible things lately including getting involved in drugs and not coming home for a week. I have lied, stolen, cheated and he is still waiting at home with open arms. That bothers me. Its like he is spineless and crazy. He has a good heart and all, but, he is obsessive. He won't back off me, always wanting me to be where he can see what I am doing.
I understand why but he is making me crazier and crazier.
About him:
He is kindof stupid and he always thinks he knows the answers. You know the kind of guy, most people want to knock out..but he is not doing it intentionally..
I know I have done bad things, but I want to do better. How can I do better if every time my husband opens his mouth I want to beat the f**k out of him.
I love him but I am very frustrated.
Neither one of us has jobs.
How do I make this situation better..
there are children involved.

2007-06-09 00:59:10 · 32 answers · asked by Isabele 3

Its my 30th birthday in september. Hubby says he is taking me out for a meal. Thing is he isnt very romantic and has no imagination when it comes to this sort of thing.
We have been together a long time. For my 16th we didnt do anything but i made him take me shopping for clothes! For my 18th he took me to someones silver wedding anniversary and my 21st was so uninteresting i cant even remember what we did!
Usually just takes me to the harvester or somewhere equally as uninteresting, which for a normal birthday is fine.
For this birthday I was actually hoping to make it special!! For his 30th I arranged a surprise party and made sure he had a great time..
I have told him that if he plans on taking me out to the same old place i would rather not bother. I feel like he only takes me out because he thinks thats what he should do, not because he wants to. I am worried about turning 30...so would rather stay home and get p'd if i'm not going to be able to celebrate!
Selfish????????

2007-06-09 00:53:26 · 30 answers · asked by JustJem 6

Ok after this one, no more follow ups! LOL
I know it's weird he has a low sex drive. But like I said, he has always been this way. This is not new. I suppose I could withhold sex, but it seems so stupid to play games. I just want to be myself and when I want him, I want him. But I guess I have to hold out for him to come to me. This is so ridiculous. I cannot tell him I know about this secret email account yet, so I can't contact this girl he sent his pics to. I just know that there should be no secrets, and if he was not trying to hide anything, he would have told me, or at least emailed him from his regular email account. I am going to monitor the situation and see what happens when and if this girl responds. I do not know if he chats on-line, as I do not see any evidence of this. I am very resourceful with the computer and I guess he could hide it, but I am going to keep one eye open. I am not going to be made a fool of...

2007-06-09 00:43:22 · 11 answers · asked by festivus64 2

My husband usually gets up about 30 minutes before I do every morning and very early, when I get up he is already on the computer. During the week when he works he does the same thing and immediately when he gets home from work around 3 p.m. he is back on the computer. I am retired now on a disability pension and we have discussed several time that I feel left out or like the elephant in the room. He assures me angryly of course that he will change his computer habits but they neve do. Even if I suggest watching a movie together or something like having an evening he still manages to play on his computer at the same time. If I have asked for conversation he says he has nothing to talk about, therefore justifying his computer habits. He'll say, "you talk then if you got something to say."
I believe we have a serious problem and he see's what I see as a problem as me being crazy. Does anyone else experience this as a problem. We only got married 6 months ago and are 60 years old.

2007-06-09 00:42:09 · 15 answers · asked by lynnleger11 2

The Man is christian he were married to an christian and both got a 2 years old child. Now they are divorced ann he is making hisself muslim to get married to the muslim woman.What is gona happen to the child he had with his ex wife. Witch are the right he gon on the child?? The child have to be Muslim like his father is getting?? Does he have the right to take my child away?? does the child remaning christian as she were because she were it before ?? What are the consequences for the child? The child is a girl.

S.L. Luxembourg

Thanx

2007-06-09 00:32:33 · 5 answers · asked by saraswati106 2