I have done some horrible things lately including getting involved in drugs and not coming home for a week. I have lied, stolen, cheated and he is still waiting at home with open arms. That bothers me. Its like he is spineless and crazy. He has a good heart and all, but, he is obsessive. He won't back off me, always wanting me to be where he can see what I am doing.
I understand why but he is making me crazier and crazier.
About him:
He is kindof stupid and he always thinks he knows the answers. You know the kind of guy, most people want to knock out..but he is not doing it intentionally..
I know I have done bad things, but I want to do better. How can I do better if every time my husband opens his mouth I want to beat the f**k out of him.
I love him but I am very frustrated.
Neither one of us has jobs.
How do I make this situation better..
there are children involved.
2007-06-09 00:59:10 · 32 answers · asked by Isabele 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look people I don't do the drugs now. I did them for a week. Thats all. I had a breakdown and ran away BECAUSE he has been acting overbearing before I did anything wrong...
EXAMPLE
I couldnt join a buddhist church because he thought that I would leave him because of A god damn religion...
and that was before I did anything wrong.
I cant even have f**king friends...girls men ..nobody to f**king talk to..nobody..
thats why im going crazy
I cant do anything in life without hurting his damn feelings
2007-06-09 01:09:59 · update #1
I know it sounds bad what I have done. It's not like me, seriously I have never done drugs like that in my life. I just broke down and freaked out. I have not been allowed to have a single friend for 3 years now..I gave up everything. He is obsessive. I was hoping that he would leave me almost but he didn't. Most people would say thats so great, but I have told him for my sanity that I wanted to break up and he said "no i will not allow that"
does that not sound crazy. I know I would leave...
Maybe just a temporary break would help.
I dont know.
2007-06-09 01:26:20 · update #2
you broke his trust so i can underrstand why he wants to see what your doing. he is always willing to forgive you this is a good thing that means the love between the two of you at least from his end is still there. you say you love him but those in love dont pull stupid crap like not coming home for a week w/o checking in. i would say that your spending tooooo much time together and that you both need to find jobs, its a place to wern money buit also to get away from your partner. also just try and tell him how you feel u will be suprised on how those conversatiions can help the relationship
2007-06-09 01:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Okay so you say that he was driving you crazy before you did anything you stated that you did! But rather than sit down and talk with him and have a real heart to heart talk, you chose to run away for a week, do drugs, drink, and find other guy(s) to have sex with !!! And you say there are Children involved ? Good god woman what in gods name were you or even are thinking that will solve, what you think he will just disapear and the kids to? Well at least you sound like you realize that you did wrong, but yet you say that you hate your husband but yet you love him ? Okay if you say So. And what do you think is going through your kids minds right about now and hows all this BS effecting them, do you even care about the kids, because it sounds like you don't because if you Honestly and truely cared about your kids. You would not have run away for a week, Banged some other guy(s), taken drugs and drinking. You want a real answer, GO SEE A SHRINK like many others have said. And you should be luck this guy wants you still. If that was me in his shoes, I would have changed all the locks, called my lawyer and filed a report with the local Police Dept and I would have kissed your Sorry A#$% GOOD BUY. To be honest you don't deserve him or the kids,. That is even if this all true to start with.
2007-06-09 01:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by sgtdre123 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes i believe your husband is to good for you, how can you say you love him and talk this trash about him? That is not love. And if i were him i would kick you to the curb, why aren't you thinking of your children? They did not ask to come into this world, and your husband is watchful of you because you have not come home in a week and stuffing your nose, face etc with this bull you are doing. You both need to get out and find a job and start acting like parents, that is how you make it better. The kids will be taken from you if the wrong person was to tell the authorities you are doing drugs, you need to get help and do it ASAP. Think of the kids and quit thinking of yourself!!
2007-06-09 01:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whatever he did, it was once on account that he was once deeply in poor health. He was once a hardcore addict/alcoholic, and it was once just a subject of time earlier than the sickness killed him. I would not be amazed if his loved ones has a historical past of intellectual sickness or if he abused medicinal drugs except alcohol. I uncover it a bit of difficult to feel that he wasn't consuming plenty earlier than his last weeks. Maybe you had been used to anything degree he was once doing, to not sound imply, and he simply cranked it up within the last days. Although he is from your lifestyles, possibly uncover an AlAnon assembly, for the ones with addict peers and loved ones. It's loose and it should aid you plenty. The precedence demands to be making certain you are realistic for the sake of your little one. You ought to do the nice you probably can underneath those situations for that child. If you'll come up with the money for a therapist, that'd be quality too. This is most likely terrible, however with time and external aid, you'll transfer on.
2016-09-05 08:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, get jobs, both of you!! There is no excuse why you are not working. If you were working you wouldn't be getting into so much trouble and you would be supporting your family.
Second, both of you get "fixed" so that you don't have any more children. You have way too many issues personally to deal with. How can you ever raise decent human beings? You are setting bad examples for your children. You are not teaching them to be responsible adults by your actions or you words. These kids are doomed.
Third, please consider giving up the children you already brought into the world. The way you are going, they would be far better off with someone else raising them. Maybe you would get your life on track and turn into an adult. It might be the first decent thing you did.
2007-06-09 01:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by Susan F 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you really have it rough! You can do anything you want and this guy still loves you. How controlling of you! I hope and pray he leaves you for someone good and you end up with someone who will beat you and abuse you and lie to you and take your children and charge you child support and you'll be left in a homeless shelter with nobody because the drugs ate your mind and body. That kind of sounds like what you want, not some spineless man who continues to love your unloveable self. Some people appreciate absolutely NOTHING!
2007-06-09 01:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by Aiden 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is awful what you just said, for God sake these guy LOVES you, do you know what is that. How can you say that kind of things about him when he have such a big heart, I just hope that he will realize that soon as is possible. You know what is the problem that we can't change the people until they want to do that by they own. I really hope that social worker is here to read what you just wrote, you are taking drugs and you have a children and you don't care, how do you even have a character to write that kind of things. I will tell you just this woman "Claude os, aperi oculos" it means close your mouth and open your eyes.
It is time that you start to take care about your kids and you husband.
2007-06-09 01:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by Ivan 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He does it because he loves you.
Accept that whether you appreciate it or not.
Get some help from a church and perhaps a bit of regular counseling with him.
Seek some assistance in getting a job.
At this point, almost any job will do.
Its a daily battle but try to get back on your feet again.
Pray about it every day.
2007-06-09 01:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by tabulator32 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First; YOU should be thankful the man is still there.It sounds like you are a very selfish person and don't deserve to have his love and loyalty. As to how to make it better; you need to start off by getting help for your problems. You both need to find jobs; the stress of not being able to provide for your family is adding to the problems. IF you don't want to make things work with your husband you need to get out so this poor man can get on with his life. Lord knows he deserves it after putting up with you!
2007-06-09 01:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by gatorsrock2006 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your a mother, that should be enough to keep you from doing drugs and find a job to better your situation. It is tragic you are not thinking of them at all. Don't you know CPS can take your kids over this? Your husband does not sound as bad as you. Maybe your unhappy because you don't feel you deserve him. What a shame that is.
2007-06-09 01:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋