Ok after this one, no more follow ups! LOL
I know it's weird he has a low sex drive. But like I said, he has always been this way. This is not new. I suppose I could withhold sex, but it seems so stupid to play games. I just want to be myself and when I want him, I want him. But I guess I have to hold out for him to come to me. This is so ridiculous. I cannot tell him I know about this secret email account yet, so I can't contact this girl he sent his pics to. I just know that there should be no secrets, and if he was not trying to hide anything, he would have told me, or at least emailed him from his regular email account. I am going to monitor the situation and see what happens when and if this girl responds. I do not know if he chats on-line, as I do not see any evidence of this. I am very resourceful with the computer and I guess he could hide it, but I am going to keep one eye open. I am not going to be made a fool of...
2007-06-09 00:43:22 · 11 answers · asked by festivus64 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good thinking....I STILL say, where there is this much smoke, there is some fire somewhere. I don't buy all this low sex drive stuff....and all the secrecy, and hiding, e-mailing pictures, etc. You can call garlic, perfume, but it STILL STINKS!
2007-06-09 00:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it in the first line: "He doesn't know how lucky he is". Whether what you are saying is really true or not really doesn't matter. People that have secret email accounts kept away from their partners have SECRETS that they don't want to share with you, and there is a reason for that. They know that whatever the secret is, it's gonna get them in trouble. You SAY you're strong, (but in a good way). Don't think that HE thinks it's in a good way. You may be great, but your "strength" may come across as being a beeyoch. Men take women's strength different than how we sometimes mean it. Some men CAN'T handle a strong woman. You say this kind of stuff, and the fact that he has almost no sex drive. How well did you know this guy before you got married? There's a lot of stuff in your post that indicate you didn't know each other very well or that you just didn't pay attention to the kind of important things. Regardless, if your husband is keeping secrets from you, has no sex drive and 'seems to like passive women', he's probably chatting it up with someone online that gives him the ol' "I'll do anything for you" line. Be careful. If he can't be honest, do you REALLY want to be saddled with this guy?
2016-05-20 22:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately women don't always link good facts together to form opinions/conclusions that really work.
Chances are, he's doing nothing wrong, but you should take the lead and solve your own problem. A woman who lets her husband leave with a loaded "weapon" should not complain when she finds out he "unloaded" it accidently during the day.
Without saying anything, and very slowly, you need to go down on hubby every day. Don't ask for anything nor try to get him on top of you, just give him pleasure. Before long, you will be surprised that he will take over the lead from you and it will be extremely good. He will think it's his own libido, and you will be the happy recipient.
Good Luck
2007-06-09 00:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has a little romance going on in his mind, whether it has blossomed into anything more substantial or not.
Don't listen to anyone that says that it is normal for your husband to have a secret email account which he uses to converse with other women and send them pics. That's such a stupid statement...I'm beyond belief that someone would say that.
And you are justified in the snooping.
But, I don't know what is in the emails. He could have a friendship of sorts, and that wouldn't necessarily be a bad thing. It's all in whether there's anything sexual ever implied.
2007-06-09 03:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey,
I have to tell you this, if you are always this obsessive its no wonder your husband is looking to have some conversation with someone else.
Take a breath!
I can only imagine what you talk like based on your posts.
Lighten UP already.
Quit snooping. Back off and for goodness sake DO NOT contact the "other woman".
Your perceived problem lies much closer to home than her.
Do the terms, controlling, jealous, smothering, snooping,
and obsessive mean anything to you? If not they should.
2007-06-09 01:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Secret accounts are never a good thing. That is a form of broken trust. His sex drive being low, that sounds like my ex, and he was cheating. Of course to this day he denies it.
2007-06-09 00:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The person you need to contact is your husband and not the girl he is emailing pictures to and corresponding with.
When women suspect cheating they always seem to want to get to the other person. Women need to speak to the cheater, not the person they are cheating with.
Your husband needs to get OFF the computer completely.
2007-06-09 00:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by Patty G 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are a drama queen. It does not sound like he is doing anything shady at all. And if your into his crap all the time, your invading his privacy. And likely why he has a secret e-mail. The only one making a fool of you is yourself.
2007-06-09 01:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Darling, The man is playing with fire ! Step back so you don"t also get burned !
2007-06-09 00:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the phrase "Bunny Boiler" mean anything to you ?
2007-06-10 01:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by =42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋