I asked a question once in this Yahoo Q and A about a year ago.
Perhaps due to the invaluable advice given by the Yahoo community and perhaps because of some things I had observed subsequently, I decided to slow down our relationship. This is to say, she is still my girl friend, but not as close.
I had subsequently found out she was actually quite casual and wild. She had told me she used to go clubbing with her girl friends, but she just drinks there. Subsequently, her friends said she was the wild one and would drink the night away. And the MEN that would come and surround her! Yet, in spite of this, she continued to date me, never mentioning what she had done. She still seemed sincere and benign as before.
However, I did not reveal what I found out and I just kept on with our relationship. She also didn't know what I knew.
About a year ago, I was sent to another city to work. Before I went, she had promised to wait. Over the months, we kept in contact over the phone. She still seemed sincere and benign, never telling me her habits that I already knew.
About a month ago, I came back from the other city. I didn't tell her I came. When I enquired about her, I learnt she had given birth to a child a few months back and she is now a single parent. Her lover had dumped her.
My question is this. What do you think I should do? Should I now go after her? Please don't tell me if I love her, I should still go after her. I really feel it is very different this time. Anyway, she had not been honest. She didn't wait for me.
Did I do the right thing being cautious earlier?
She was not sexually abused. She had a relationship after I left.
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2007-09-14
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Street Smart
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