Should I push myself and go to a party?

Question

I'm in late high school, I'm fairly social, and I have a decent number of friends.

However, I never really go to parties or anything. I spend too much time alone instead of with friends, and the reason is that I'm not comfortable pushing my boundaries; I'd like to go to parties and such, but I'm just afraid of whatever it is might happen/go wrong. Not to get all angsty, but I'm just a self-conscious person.

Anyway, I'd like to go to this party, and I'd probably enjoy myself. But picturing the walk there, the experience of going in the front door and being in an unfamiliar place, is a little intimidating. I went to a party a while ago and left pretty quickly after getting afraid, and intimidated.

I can almost see myself as an old dying man wishing I had done more fun stuff and hadn't wasted all my time, when I could have been doing stuff. But I still don't want to push myself and wind up making an *** out of myself.

Anyone else been in a similar situation/got advice?

Answer 1

Definitely do it. I'm a shy person, but sometimes I challenge myself to be a little more outgoing and to say yes to things I would normally say no to just to broaden my horizons and I'm always so glad I do. Just tell yourself it's only one night, nothing bad will happen and even if something does go a little wrong, it will be over shortly and you'll move on. Is there anyone you can go with who might make the entrance a little less awkward, so you're not hopelessly scanning the room for a familiar face when you walk in? You'll be fine!

Answer 2

Sounds like your basic case of social anxiety. If you don't mind a life of avoiding life, then don't worry about it. If you want to be comfortable EVER, start getting out there NOW. It gets worse the longer you put off getting used to being social, I promise. Just go to the party. Make yourself talk to some people and stay at least a certain amount of time before you let yourself leave. You don't have to love it and you don't have to stay all night, but the more times you do it, the sillier not doing it will seem. And in the end you might find out you're not much of a party person, but it won't be because you were afraid, and you'll know for sure. Parties aren't the only way to be social, but they're a great way to round yourself out.

Answer 3

NO you should not be pushed to party. Sounds like not a match. How much longer do you have to stay there I wonder. You need to feel confident that you are doing the right thing. They are being rude to you , making you feel humiliated. Tell your parents to talk with the organization through which you became and exchange student saying it is not a match. You should be able to leave if they do not respect you.They need to know this underage drinking is against the law. I am sorry and hope you can get out of this situation before too long. Thats terrible. The only good thing is it will teach you how to say ' NO',

Answer 4

Look, one first piece of good news:
"Life gets waaaay much better after high school" High school, for some people like me, sucked. People are often too obsessed with what the others may think. I was a very good student who didn't hide it (nor show it off) and so many people just couldn't stand me. I was shy to talk to boys and didn't have too many friends. One day, in college i told myself 'Enough!' and i decided to 'expose' myself to the 'wild world'. I've traveled with no money, i've learned languages and done brave things for a "girl" to do by herself. I've met people who have enriched me and others who have decived me...in resume: L-I-F-E.
Partys can be like a 'first experience' of the outside world, of the intercourse with the 'human being', that brutal animal hardly domesticated by society... Just look at it with perspective: there will always be others who drunk too much alcohol or took drugs, boys and girls who make out as if they were having an ice-cream...people full of emptyness...but you might find one or two among the crowd, a special one that you would miss otherwise...Don't be afraid of 'playing the fool'. In fact, a good way to avoid this fear is to play it on purpose: you'll soon see the world doesn't end even if somebody thinks you actually are.
Anyway, about the 'fun' you are afraid of missing. Fun is not what 'people say it is'. You decide if doing something is fun for you or not. Partys get boring after a while too. It's in you to decide how to spend your free time. I suggest to try things b4 deciding (as long as they don't harm your health) but sports in comunity and cultural interests like art, cinema or music and such are also good ways of socializing. I mean, any activity you like can be shared! So..brave on!
My mother usually says: "Friends are like melons: you have to open 50 before you find a single good one' Just try to be that good one for the others.
(Sorry 4 the spelling, but English isn't my first language)

Answer 5

Are your friends inviting you to these parties? If so then at least you'll have someone you know to talk to.

You know I never went to any of my friend's parties while I was in school. I spent a lot of my time alone. After one friend came back from college he called me and invited me over to a small gathering. It was fun and for several years after that went to many of the parties he hosted. Parties are also a good way to meet girls. :)

Answer 6

You're nervous because this is a new thing for you. A party is a place to have fun, so get some friends together to go with you. You can do it! =D

Answer 7

I agree with the first person. Try going with a group of people so you know that you will know and feel comfortable with someone there. If you don't feel comfortable, you're free to leave at any time.

Answer 8

sometimes you just have to get out there and lose it ! just be yourself get out of your shell or your not going anywhere have fun if you are with your friends what could happen ? well your friends would be havin fun without you ! go and have fun

Answer 9

i think u shud go cuz its time to n'joy and u might like it and u shud give everythin a try maybe u might like it and unless u try u r nevah gonna kno if u like it or not.

Answer 10

try going there with a group of people or another friend, so ur not waiting at the door by urself. please, live ur life it will be lots and lots and lots of fun. u will regrett not going.