Divorce made me lose my old friend and gain someone I don't know anymore. Help?

Question

My once best friend went through a tough time with her parents divorcing. I tried to help her get through it the best I could but in the end she began to become controlling and eventually began to blame me for things I didn't do.

I along with some others decided it'd be best to leave her alone for a while so we wouldn't get into any other messes she started, but soon when school started again we heard she'd been getting worse. She got drunk at a party people were telling her not to drink at then when her parents found out she blamed them and got them in trouble. She's also letter herself become controlled by some guy she only met a few months ago and won't listen to anything we say.

I don't know what to do about her anymore, but I do want to help in some way. Do you have any advice on how to handle this situation?

Answer 1

Yea but it envolves kicking her.... nevermind. You need to understand that she's not only dealing with divorcing parents, but neglectful and/or abusive. Divorce in itself doesn't cause this, not raising some one right, then getting a divorce can. Now I'm sure she was a nice girl, shoot so was hitler, but thats not the point. Some stuff is beyond you, and you need to know when to learn from an experience and when to learn more. Here its over, you couldn't have the resources, nor worldly experience, to get her out of this, you can only hope, offer a ear, and some advice if she ever turns back to you. I mean you could slap her, look her in the eye and tell hey your better then this, if you need help in this life, I'm your sister I'll be here for you, forever, I'll be there for you, then maybe, maybe you can give her some hope in another direction. But unless you can follow thru, more harm then good....

Answer 2

Give it one more try. Tell her that you care about her. Explain that she is making things worse by acting out and being difficult with those who could help support her. Tell her you understand but that you can't take abuse. Tell her that you forgive her and that you will be waiting. Then, let her decide.
I do hope she hears you. C. :)!!