It all started in 4th grade, Debbie and I had been bff since 1st grade, then in 4th grade we befriended another person. Then in 6th grade i told them that i cant hang out with them anymore . when they dont spend time to be with me, then one got really mad then said I HATE YOU! even if it isnt my fault... Help!!!
2007-09-14 18:52:58 · 22 answers · asked by Shokoi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok well i'm going through the same problem and i have one best friend that i have been best friends with since i was born and i am now 14...we always have fights but we always make up hell quickly...this time i crossed the line...i apologized but she didn't accept me back
it's been about a week or 2 since we had our fight anf she will still talk to me but very minimally
What i found is good is too take this time as the time to develop stronger friendships with other ppl while u and ur best friends have a break from eachother...u should see this time as YOUTIME and get to know urself a bit better then you will be able to deal with the situation more
don't worry just believe that you will soon have best friends again...wether they are ur old ones or new ones
:) enjoy life and hope i helped
2007-09-14 19:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this happened to you. but people change don't they? You wanted them to not ignore you and they had different interests that left you home alone and ignored. A terrible feeling. Did you try joining a club or music class, newspaper or some other group to get involved and find new friends that way? If she truly hates you for something that isn't even your fault then sad to say but you have to do the best you can to move on in life and find other friends. Even tho you may still care about her and you can be polite to her if she ever decides to speak to you again but afterall you were only being honest and she's the one being immature because she couldn't handle the truth in my opinion. Did you ever call her or ask her after a few days if she really meant it? or was she just yelling i hate you because you shocked her and hurt her feelings? Maybe they felt you weren't trying to be with them to hang out either so they stopped trying. Could that be true maybe also? After you all start changing personalities and you get to middle school or junior high as it's called in some places you probably wouldn't have been friends still if you were fighting in 4th grade anyhow. Please believe me the pain and hurt you feel will take a while to stop but it eventually will and it gets better when you have a new friend to share things with. Good luck!
2007-09-14 19:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by michelle_l_b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anybody who says they hate you is not your friend. Find new friends. Don't try to get back at this person or do anything mean. You don't have to pretend you don't know her or whatever, but definitely it is time for better friends. You are lucky in a way this happened now, because a lot of young folks hold friends that are not genuine for longer, and then they just end up getting hurt, or getting talked into doing things they shouldn't do. So it hurts, but it will heal. You have to take a little step towards growing up and just say okay, I am sorry you hate me. I don't hate you, but I can't be your friend any more. And then just spend time being nice to other people, getting involved with activities and stuff. If your ex friend matures a little bit, maybe you can be friends again later.
2007-09-14 18:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by CB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get on with your life dear Heart. No best friend who is genuine and sincere would tell you such a thing as hating you for any reason but selfishness or jealousy. Concentrate on your studies and simply ignore the comment. You are still young and can make other friends that will respect you and become great friends. Do what your think is best for you. Don't worry; be happy!
Best of luck to you.
2007-09-14 19:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by montralia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is just part of life. i found out in 8th grade that the girls i thought were my friends since 6th grade didn't like me AT ALL. it's just part of life. it doesn't matter if everybody else likes you. if you don't get along with the people you hang out with, find a new group of friends.
2007-09-14 18:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by stephieSD 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Friends are a dime a dozen. You always meet new friends and you are a little too young to act like your life is over. Find new friends that you can hang with.
2007-09-14 18:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are changing as well as they are. And you may just be going in your seperate dirrections. If you told them you can't hang out with them don't get hurt if they get mad. In time things will blow over.
2007-09-14 18:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Petty, grade school love-hate friendships...Get over it...you will be best friends next week...
2007-09-14 18:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by onceisenoughilearnedmylesson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change when they hit puberty. You'll probably have to find friends that are a better fit for you.
2007-09-14 18:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by Needs to go to bed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh, when you grow up and become an adult you really find out who your "best friends forever" are. Know what I mean?
Find new friends.
2007-09-14 18:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋