My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. Going into the marriage, I knew he had credit card debt, but we struggled through it for the first few years of our marriage, and he eventually told me that it was all taken care of. Since I only had his word to go by, I wanted to see it for my own eyes, and I looked at one of his statements when he wasn't around (wrong, I know, but I'm glad that I did). Turns out that not only was it not "taken care of", but he was still more than $6,000 in debt! I know it could be a lot worse, but when you're going along thinking that you're finally out of the red and then you find out that you're not even close, it's heartbreaking. He lied to me because he was embarrassed and ashamed, and he won't talk to me about it when I bring it up. It always ends up turning into a fight, so I don't ever know where he stands with getting out of this debt. I feel so in the dark and I can't trust him anymore. Does anyone have any advice?
2007-03-01
06:01:59
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Allie M
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Marriage & Divorce