Me and my husband got into it and well he said something that i will never forgive him for what he told me.?

Question

He told me that his ex was better then me in bed and then the next day he actied like nothing ever happened and it was like 3days later when we had sex and yesterday i asked him if we were ever going to have sex again and he said maybe not because i told him i was going to cry all the time we did have sex and then he's like well maybe if you weren't going to be crying all the time and i also asked him if it was true if his ex was better then me and he told me NO that she wasn't so i don't know what to think about it.

Answer 1

I'm guessing his ex is a better writer than you, too. Are you familiar with the term "run-on sentence"?

Answer 2

BIG OooOOpPppSSss !
That was not nice. I think he shouldn't have said that at all. Even if you and him just got married or have a few years married, that didn't give him the right to say that. But being that he did, he obviously has feelings or would still like to have sex with his ex. Comparing you was one of the worst things he did. If I was you, I would tell him that my previous mate was better than him too, but that you don't go saying it to his face. Men will do to you and say things to you only if you let them. Now, if you want to be the better person, then don't have sex with him until he begs for it and then, tell him you don't want to because you are not as good ! Make him suffer, Make him eat his words. And don't Cry, cause by crying you are showing him your weakness and women should always stand their ground because if we don't then men will walk all over us. Now, if he doesn't beg for it then it probably means he is still getting it from his ex. (sorry, but it is a possibility) :(
Good luck.......... And stay strong, on whatever happens !

Answer 3

Your immediate come back shoulda been well your brother is better in bed than you are...lmao! Thats what I woulda said. He was p*ssed off when he said that and he wanted to hurt you. So let it go and tonight when you are in the sack give him something that he will never forget. Stop wasting so much time on YA and start looking at porn, get some ideas, do something kinky, something out of character for you. Be naughty, be nasty, be dirty. He'll love it. You may not think he deserves at the moment, but you will need to get over that comment he made or at the very least, make him eat those words. That would be me. Check this website out: http://www.kama-sutra.bz/posit.htm

Answer 4

I'm telling you from experience,when you argue with a spouse and something like that comes out ,it's because they were thinking that anyway,so yes it's true what he said,yes he meant it ,he just did not mean to tell you,I'm sure you had sex with better men than him and you never told him cause it would hurt him,If you want to be in a competition just get more wild in bed pull out the chains and belt and beat the **** out of him and say the next time you say something like that I'm gone,just make sure he is handcuff to something,after that you will be the best lover he ever had.I'm laughing at the person that said run-on sentence,next time please proof read unless you were too upset and shaking and did not know what you were typing.

Answer 5

What he told you is unforgivable, and then his attitude shows insensitivity on his part. I guess by him saying "No" to your question was his lame way of apologising. You better set him straight and let him know that what he said was very hurtful. He seems to not be that sorry about it. Sometimes out of anger we all say things we do not mean, but say them just to hurt the other person. Next time he says this to you, tell him "then why did you leave her if the sex was so great". Hope for your sake your husband is nice in other areas cause this would have been a no winner for me if I were you. Best of luck to you!

Answer 6

Sounds like he was just saying something in the heat of the moment - and it hurt you - which is what he was after at the time. I definitely think you two should talk more so that something like this doesn't happen again. Marriage is hard enough, stick together and you can make it through anything. Throwing something like an ex being better than you in bed is pretty childish though.

Answer 7

He probably said that because he was mad and he knew that will hurt you. He got you right where he wanted you and you failed for it. You shouldn't said ya right and walked away. Girl you better get strong. Never allow a man to say something to you like that and let him get you down. You turn that around.Don't YOU know that your good in bed, yourself. Don't doubt yourself like that. You said you don't know what to think, you think your the best in bed and your s h i t feels good. And don't bring it up any more. Don't keep nailing that into his brain. Out of sight out of mind. Do I think was he wrong for saying that yes he was. But then again he did it because he knew that will get you down.If he knew you where a secure person he wouldn't had never said it because he knew that wouldn't fly with you. You need to read some of Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger books about relationships. That will help you.

Answer 8

damn that's deep. Well, #1 my dad always tell me not to ask any questions you don't want to know the answer to, because be honest, if he was like yes it was true, you wouldn't want to hear that, but if he was like no, it wasn't true and he is lying, then he loses either way. just to help you feel better, my husband told me that his ex girlfriend had a better body than me, so honestly what i do, is that i act like it didn't bother me and that maybe she did. and then when he least expect is , i mean it could be like 3 weeks later, i might say something to him, like, if we're out having drinks, and i see a cute guy that i know HE may think looks better than him, although i feel he is better than almost everyone, i may tell him, "dam, you see, now that guy must work out!" or now you see that guys back, that's what i'm talkin about, i would say that is what i think a perfect back should look like." between me and you, at that point, i feel much better and i don't even care what he thinks. but i act all casual, as he says,"him?" lol and that's how it's done.lol

Answer 9

Who cares if she WAS better in bed or not? He's with you, not with her. It was a crappy thing of him to say, regardless of whether it was true or not; it is disrespectful to your spouse to say such things. If being disrespectful is his normal M.O., then you've got bigger problems to worry about than who was better in bed. If it's a one-time thing that is out of character for him - let it go, and forget about it. You can't possibly compete with every girl he's ever slept with, just as he shouldn't feel like he's competing with every guy you've ever been with. The bottom line is - you two are together now, hopefully for good reasons. Who was better at what in the past doesn't really matter.

Answer 10

Do you ever say something really mean in an arguement KNOWING that it is going to hurt the other person?? I think that is what he did to you. He said something just to hurt you and it worked. That is the problem with relationships, especially marriage we know the deepest most intimate things about our spouse and then when you get angry it is eay to use that as ammunition. Sadly some words can do more damage then actions.

Answer 11

You have to make a decision:
1- decide he said something cruel out of anger and he didn't mean it, forget it and continue being married,
2- decide you can never forgive and forget and end the marriage.
But you can't have it both ways- married and never forgetting.
You might try marriage counseling so you can both learn to control your tempers and argue in a "constructive" way. Good luck.