Should I have asked her out a third time to the park?

Question

I'm sure you've heard the saying "third time's the charm." Some things happen right in my life the third time around and I think there might be some truth to that. A long time ago (she doesn't want to talk to me anymore and I'm trying to move on) I really liked this girl and within two months of us talking I asked her to the movies because she told me she wanted to see a specific movie and she said no beacuse it was too much like a date. I asked her two months later to the Valentines dance at school last year and she didn't say no, but she said she was going to her friend's party that night. (I know for sure it wasn't a lie. It may have been a convenience so she wouldn't have to say no, but it wasn't a lie.) Two months later she went to the park with a boy that started talking to her later on on a casual date (she had told me). It never occured to me to ask her to the park and I have no idea why. My theory is I was trying to take her somewhere I would have to spend money.(see question)

What I meant in that last sentence was that this recurring idea that I had was that I should spend money on her, and my heart just wanted to and to do things for her.

Answer 1

I think you should move on. She probably doesn't have a thought in the world about you...it seems. But yet you're pouring your thought and time into just trying to ask her out for the millionth time. I know I'm exaggerating a bit, but that's how she perceives it. You're trying way to hard! I think you should let her go about her merry way even though it'll be hard. If SHE truely wants something to do with you, she'll approach you. Until then your efforts seem helpless. You would be disappointed even if and when you finally got an actual date with her...only because you will feel so overwhelmed that she finally said yes. At that point she most likely said yes just to get you off her back. Then, that will just ruin whatever you two currently have...which doesn't sound like too much. Okay, I know I sound completely negative, but I guess I'm taking the brutally honest method. You sound like a genuine guy and I'd hate for anyone to get hurt in a situation like this. Been there, done that...I was like the girl you're explaining. Except in my case when I finally realized he was a good guy and not a stalker, it was too late. He met someone and he treated her like a queen...something I wish I had to this day. Sad, but it was my loss. Just like it willl be hers. Someone very special will come to you when you least expect it and it won't be her.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

I'm sorry, but I don't think it would've helped to ask her to the park. I don't get the feeling that she is interested in you from the way you described the situation. But there are plenty of girls out there who would love to have your attention and your willingness to take them somewhere nice, like the movies, etc. There are other fish in the sea and it's only a matter of time, since you seem like a really sweet guy. :)