i have this friend, shes really cool to hang with. i love her to death to me shes like my sister, but sometimes i dont get her and no matter how much i try talking to her, she just dont understand..she hase been with several guys and it seems like it dont bother her at all. of course people talk about her and it bothers me more than it bothers her.. i dont get her, and she goes around saying what she dose or havnt done..?
2007-03-01 05:57:56 · 7 answers · asked by BUBBLE GUM GIRL.. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it her choice in life......you may not agree with it, but when you try to tell a women not to do something that just makes them go do it just to spite you just like a child. so i would just let it lie and when she gets older she will grow out of it
2007-03-01 06:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by MATTHEW B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems to me that maybe she knows exactly what she wants and has to have it her way or no way. I know it sounds and looks bad to you and obviously others, but in her eyes she's doing nothing wrong. She's testing the waters, so to speak. She may truely like and connect with someone at first, but then as a short time goes by, there is something that just doesn't click the way she wants it to. Therefore she just moves on without thought. She's the type of person who doesn't like to be alone, but yet doesn't want to settle for just anyone either. I hate to tell you, but no matter what you say she's going to continue what she's doing until either she finds what she's looking for or gets tired of the search. As for you, I think you should not let things that other people say bother you, whether it is about you or somebody else. You can't make every happy and those that you do make happy truely appreciate the person you are. That's life for ya!
2007-03-01 14:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Punkie Brewster 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1 How old is she? If she's still a girl and not yet mature, she needs to cool her heels.
But, if she is old enough to know what she is doing, then you need to accept the fact that her values are not the same as yours. Maybe, it really doesn't bother her at all to have several guys and to her, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. To each his own. But I can't help but think that she is only doing it to impress people with a "bad girl" image since she tells everybody her business.
Can you love her the way she is? or do you want her to change? If so, tell her what you think in a loving way. She will do one of two things: she will either listen to you and take a hard look at herself or she will dismiss you as being a prude.
Either way, I hope it works out for the best.
2007-03-01 14:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't live her life for her, or live vicariously through her.
She should also not (even if she's a perfect person) be your role model for YOUR life. Your parents should be your examples and your mentors.
If she is taking a wrong path, it doesn't have to be your path. See her in 20 or 30 years from now, and she may be totally different.
The important thing is to see yourself 20 or 30 years from now-----do you want the physical, emotional, sexual baggage of lots of men affecting your body, or your memories?
Lots of my high school girl friends took a wrong path--some took pretty horrible paths, and are still paying the price. I love them as they were then, BUT I'm very glad I followed my parents examples and advice for my own life.
2007-03-01 14:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know where you're coming from. Unfortunately, you can't control what your friends do. As much as you want to help them get it together, as much as you want to wave a magic wand and change their circumstances, there really isn't anything you can do. The best thing you can do is just be there for her when it all comes down because in the end, she'll know who her true friends are. Many blessings.
2007-03-01 18:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's making herself out as being one of those girls that you don't want to been seen with. Maybe she is having problems and this is her way of getting attention tell her how your feeling and how everyone is talking about her and if she doesn't listen tell her that you will have to find a new friend as you don't want to be classed as being the same as her. It maybe hurtful but maybe that is what she needs to get her to change
2007-03-01 14:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by kittiebann 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she's just comfortable with who she is...she might not see anything wrong with what she is doing.
2007-03-01 14:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by ragbraiprincess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋