Family & Relationships - 28 December 2006

Marriage of almost 10 yrs, there is an affair, spouse finds out but the person having the affair wants out of the marriage, that goes on for a few months but realizes they have to get along for the children and try to work on being civilized. The adulterer apologizes and totally regrets the pain they've caused and wants to "date" spouse and just see where they end up, either fixing their marriage or coming out friends, not labeling their relationship but just seeing where they end up. The spouse who has been cheated on constantly brings up the infidelity even when things are fine and going well, asking the same ?'s that have been answered and they argue. If the adulterer has apologized and regrets what they've done and they have decided to try and get over this, is it healthy for the cheated on party to always bring it up and set them back to the same arguement? The adulterer says they refuse to live in that hurtful situation and rehash the pain over and over, whats right here?

2006-12-28 07:34:16 · 30 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2 in Marriage & Divorce

pictures on our 3 . 6. 0 account??

2006-12-28 07:33:15 · 14 answers · asked by jmilil 3 in Singles & Dating

I like this guy.. Of whom I have liked for a long time.. but then found out he likes me best friend... now they are going out.. and Now i have a crush on another guy whom i think likes my other best friend..
what should i do???

2006-12-28 07:33:06 · 9 answers · asked by LaceFace09 3 in Singles & Dating

My bf and I have been together for 3 months now...we are getting semi-serious and I do think we love each other...In the beginning of our relationship we had issues with his ex gf (they were together when we started dating) but now they are done and we are together..We are both 23 just fyi! Ok so heres the deal...I booked a trip for us to go to Mexico for Spring Break (playa del carmen) he just took his ex gf to Cancun in August...I guess now i just feel really weird about it and I have REALLY bad anger towards the situation and i dont even wanna go now...Im comparing our hotels and realizing theres was better etc. Another thing that REALLY disgusts me is his ex was about 250lbs..My bf is a VERY attractive guy so this just DISGUSTS me...I dunno...Either way I cant see to get past all aspects of him dating her and I just dont know what to do..Its gotten in the way all the time...i.e. on Xmas I didnt want to go with his fam cuz his ex had gone last year...WHAT TO DO?? HELP?

2006-12-28 07:32:39 · 4 answers · asked by pigsrule25 1 in Singles & Dating

I moved from Indiana to Iowa. On my 1st day of my new school i hung out with the popular crowd. Then I started hanging out with some other people who were not popular. I only stopped hanging ouy with the popular people cause i thought they didn't like me. Turns out that they actually like me. I really like them and want to be there friends but my other friedns don't want me to ditch them and some of them i am not very ofund of. So What do i do ditch my other friends for the populars or gently leave them for the populars or don't leave them at all?

2006-12-28 07:32:02 · 12 answers · asked by Dana 2 in Friends

I am having a huge dilema here i am totaly confused my friend Pat has been my best friend since highschool and that would be 7 yrs now.I have always kind of liked him but put those feelings aside because our great frienship.To get to the point i am kind of like one of the guys when it comes to our frienship playing video games, cards, pool, and watching games with them.Anyway two weeks ago i was sleeping over at his place, i do this on occasion because my sorority is too loud!And well we started kissing we both had alchol still in our system from the party and almost had sex?What do i do?His gf is in virginia for college so they rarley see each other but i feel awful and dont know what to do?

2006-12-28 07:31:42 · 20 answers · asked by Emma D 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was on a site,doulike.com for a few months and this guy started writing me.Seemed really nice till he started asking for money,and no I didn't send hime any.I called him once and got an automated message from his cell,turned out he was actually based in Nigeria instead of Oregon! So I stopped writing him and I was just curious if the same guy contacted anyone else out there.Thanks and Happy New Year!

2006-12-28 07:31:35 · 3 answers · asked by minty fresh 1 in Singles & Dating

my marriage is at it's end-beacause of alcohol(my husband), and years of heartache-I have beautiful children and I really want to stay here for them. I feel so worthless. I don't know if there is any love left in me-right now I just would like to disappear.

2006-12-28 07:31:29 · 17 answers · asked by limogirl 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Sometimes acceptance can be the hardest thing right?

What do you find hard to accept? why?

2006-12-28 07:31:28 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i did...and bad!!
was doin it for a month n i lost it...

2006-12-28 07:31:13 · 18 answers · asked by electroniceuphoria 2 in Singles & Dating

http://www.mystery-method-blog.com/mystery/mystery_method_pickup_and_sedu.html

AFTER YOU ANSWER please check the link above.>
im curious your before and after thoughts.

Treat them very politely: always open doors for them, always buy the drinks and meals, buy flowers, give up your seat for them, etc.
Always be on time for dates – in fact be early and wait for them.
Give them your undivided time and patience.
Don’t let them know you are interested in a sexual way – it will happen it just takes time.
Only date one woman at a time, and if that doesn’t work out, then, and only then, start looking for another woman.

2006-12-28 07:30:52 · 14 answers · asked by Its me 4 in Singles & Dating

ok my friends attitude is prob the biggest problem hes 19 but he can act half that age sometimes, he is impatient sometimes and moans a lot, i know that this change has to come from within him and telling him to change his attitude wont work but is there any advice you can give me, thanks

2006-12-28 07:30:49 · 21 answers · asked by csnape2003 3 in Friends

We are able to get married by a priest but do not want civil recognition for tax, inheritance reasons etc. We would just like a religious ceremony without the government getting involved.

2006-12-28 07:30:48 · 11 answers · asked by geidc 1 in Weddings

Both my girlfriend & I have a high sex drive but the problem is that I need "touch" to get horny and she just needs to look at few attractive strangers to get "physically" horny....Shouldn't it be me who gets horny by looking? She claims she can't control it & that's upsetting to me. Afterall women are the ones who dress provocatively!! Most men don't have any sexiness when they're dressed.....I just don't understand her!!

2006-12-28 07:30:47 · 6 answers · asked by FJ23 1 in Singles & Dating

What if your dad just got married that lives in another country and he wants to move there and leave you here with your mom??? Not that its a problem that but still he leaves you and doesn't really tell you what is going on and you don't know what to do!!!!! I need advice y'all because im depressed

2006-12-28 07:30:10 · 2 answers · asked by WHY ME LORD??? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

For example, a man and his woman are at the DMV to take care of HIS business and he leaves and makes his woman do all of the waiting for him. Another example is the man has no job and he makes his woman fill out applications online for him. That one isn't so harsh but you should get where I'm coming from by now. Is this right or wrong? Shouldn't the man do for himself, if you know what I mean?

2006-12-28 07:29:23 · 35 answers · asked by E 1 in Singles & Dating

I had a guy...well as I was talking to him..for one he didn't give any eye contact, the entire time we talked , then he had his hands in his hoodie pocket, he just acted nervous the entire time, then at the end of the conversation , he asked me how my christmas was...I I told him it was okay..then he asked so who did you spend it with....?

2006-12-28 07:29:15 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

is it better to tell someone you like them yourself or can you get someone else to tell them

2006-12-28 07:29:02 · 13 answers · asked by wii awesome 2 in Singles & Dating

Does it sound like a woma n who is interested in continuing a relationship or does it say anything at all. Would apprecaite advice.

2006-12-28 07:27:44 · 12 answers · asked by Pa J 1 in Singles & Dating

What is the difference from a big sexy woman oppose to a ugly skinny woman?

2006-12-28 07:27:26 · 9 answers · asked by lanea e 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My mothers birthaday is today, my aunts is tomorrow and mine is saturday. I have a sisiter who's bithday is 1/3. Here is the promblem we always have one big party. I want my own party. I was going to throw my self a party this year but no one is going to show up because they'll be at the big party. I started planning my party on my birthday weeks ago. They just decided to throw the big party on my birthday yesterday. Am I being selfish to want my own party? Would it be wrong to ask them to move the date of the big party?

2006-12-28 07:27:17 · 3 answers · asked by DEBBY'S BABY 4 in Family

Actually i just wanted to know if other guys hate this too.

When a female asks what a guy means when he does or says something, then another female advises her to ignore him and act disinterested and make him 'persue' her?

Shi-tt-y advice isn't it.

2006-12-28 07:26:57 · 15 answers · asked by Its me 4 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-28 07:26:40 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been happily married for 7 years. My husband is always pressuring me for oral sex. I won't do it because I find it disgusting. I don't want him doing it to me either. Is there a compromise?

2006-12-28 07:26:31 · 22 answers · asked by HAK 2 in Marriage & Divorce

"I can't marry them all" He refers to his numerous conquests, is this problem relevant today.

2006-12-28 07:25:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-28 07:25:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My bf has been away on a trip and all we can do right now
is email. In his most recent email, he didn't say that he
missed me or anything - he did in a prior email. Am I being
over-sensitive just because he has been away? I was sad that he
didn't tell me he missed me. Don't think I'm stupid, because I
do realize I might be overreacting, but opinions are always
interesting. Sigh.

2006-12-28 07:25:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and love him very much. I don't ever doubt his love for me but he's not very considerate of my feelings and he's incredibly stubborn. Aren't relationships based on compromise and respect? If we argue, he shuts down and I end up pretending it never happened so we can just let it go. We live together and I really want a future with him, but am I setting myself up for disappointment if he doesn't change?

2006-12-28 07:25:01 · 5 answers · asked by -Bibee- 3 in Singles & Dating

At my bank that i go to there is this bankteller that i truly like a lot. I know that the banktellers are suppose to smile and be friendly towards the customers. What is the best way for me to fnd out if she is single or is dating someone. I go to the bank once a week to deposit money and she is there whenever i see her. What should i do or say next? How can I get her to like me and to be able to go out with me?
Thanks again

2006-12-28 07:24:58 · 2 answers · asked by spurs257 1 in Singles & Dating

This morning I found out the best f.u.c.k.e.n. friend that I ever had just passed away this morning. I met him here on YA, im am so hurt. Whats killing me inside is that we believe that we were meant for one another. We shared the same feeling for each other and hoped someday soon we would meet now he is gone...i cant get my thoughts togather...how am i going to cope..i just talked to him yesterday..HELP

2006-12-28 07:23:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends