I am having a huge dilema here i am totaly confused my friend Pat has been my best friend since highschool and that would be 7 yrs now.I have always kind of liked him but put those feelings aside because our great frienship.To get to the point i am kind of like one of the guys when it comes to our frienship playing video games, cards, pool, and watching games with them.Anyway two weeks ago i was sleeping over at his place, i do this on occasion because my sorority is too loud!And well we started kissing we both had alchol still in our system from the party and almost had sex?What do i do?His gf is in virginia for college so they rarley see each other but i feel awful and dont know what to do?
2006-12-28 07:31:42 · 20 answers · asked by Emma D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By almost i mean he was inside me at more than one point just never came or went in all the way.What do i do my feelings are a mess!?
2006-12-28 07:34:44 · update #1
I have very strong feelings for him but never meant for this to happen!
2006-12-28 07:38:38 · update #2
Answer this question: What is more important to you? Hooking up with Pat, or not ruining his relationship with his girlfriend?
2006-12-28 07:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you and him need to have a serious talk about the two of you. I mean if your both interested in each other then he needs to break things off with his fiance that's only fair. Just something to think about though and that's that he's cheated on his fiance so there's a chance he may do the same to you plus the fact if things don't work out between you two it could possibly ruin the friendship you have with each other. good luck. ;o)
2006-12-28 07:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him that even though you both had been drinking that you have feelings for him and it's not booze talking.If you don't feel comfortable telling him because you're afraid of ruining a great friendship, wait a little while to see if he tries to kiss you again sober.But take it from someone who knows don't wait to long if you really want to be with this guy.( HE MUST NOT TOTALLY THINK OF YOU AS ONE OF THE GUYS OR HE WOULDNT HAVE KISSED YOU!)
2006-12-28 07:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by Mollie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just being you both were drinking doesn't mean that is the only reason it happened He was lonely, his girlfriend is never around because she is in Virginia Youmay wanna ask him if there is something more there and you may want to find out for sure before he ties the knot...it's not right for him to marry her if he almost had sex with you.You should talk to him about it.
2006-12-28 07:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation in college. Back off, keep your nose out of his business with his girlfriend, and don't repeat the situation.
My best friend went on to marry, to med school, and is living a happy life. I met someone after college and I am living a happy life. No regrets.
2006-12-28 07:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, you're so called "best-FRIEND". He's a loser! Like, if he ended his relationship with his g-friend to be with you.. There's no way telling that he'll do the same with you. Like come on, he's CHEATING on his girl friend and to top it off, he's ENGAGED to her. Obviously he's not that committed to her and he wouldn't do that for you, (even though he may say he well). But girl, don't believe it. A guy who cheats, is a loser and a coward to his own feeling, you don't need a coward in your life. You need a man who knows what he's feeling and what he wants in life.
2006-12-28 08:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by dawn81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do? Do you have feelings for him? If so put them out there and be HONEST.
In so much as what he wants to do with you and his fiance, well that is HIS choice.
I suggest that you examine your own feelings and where you want to go with him and then make your peace with him. See what happens, just be careful that your friend is the one who should be asking questions since he is the one that is engaged...
2006-12-28 07:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mona Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the dude is not ready for marriage to anyone, if he is not going to come straight with his gf, you need to let her know. If things do not work out between him and his gf, does not give you an opening to date him, if you do, you don't need a Crystal ball to see your future, once a cheater...
2006-12-28 07:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by jasmine K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better tell him how you feel. He's already technically cheated on his gf with you. He probably has some feelings for you, too. If you never tell him, you'll never know. Tell him, now if you want him, or just keep feeling like this. Your choice.
2006-12-28 07:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by f1rewalkw1thme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow! Talk to him and see why he did it. Was it the alcohol or does he have feelings for you as well! If he does he needs to break up with his gf before he starts something with you.
2006-12-28 07:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋