I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and love him very much. I don't ever doubt his love for me but he's not very considerate of my feelings and he's incredibly stubborn. Aren't relationships based on compromise and respect? If we argue, he shuts down and I end up pretending it never happened so we can just let it go. We live together and I really want a future with him, but am I setting myself up for disappointment if he doesn't change?
2006-12-28 07:25:01 · 5 answers · asked by -Bibee- 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it's not time to move on, try to work it out. Is he willing to sit down and talk with you, better yet listen to you if you try to tell him about the things that bother you? Perhaps you just letting it go is something he is used to now and he expects you to do that all the time. but let him know that too many things are left unresolved and it does not make you happy. Let him know you love him and don't want to end the relationship but he needs to be more considerate. If you guys can not communicate then it won't work out. So if by chance he doesn't think it's so important to talk about it, then handle the situations differently when they arise and perhaps you'll get his attention when you don't let it go. If he still refuses then honey it's time to move on. good luck.
2006-12-28 07:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You chose him. If you don't like it then leave. The door is wide open. It's seems like he's not the arguing type so back off and find another girl to flap your gums to. MEN WILL NEVER CHANGE! Why do women think you can change men?
ALSO the more you compromise the more likely you're with the wrong person.
Grow up and be a real woman, live on your own and stop being so co-dependent.
2006-12-28 15:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by Chris from West LA 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just dumb him...you are a great person and you don't deserve to be walked all over, besides once your gone he'll realize what he had and come ceawling back!! I know you love him but sometimes we got to hurt ourselves to make our lives right. Remember I'm always here for you.
2006-12-28 16:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by Dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends what you're willing to take from him. if you can already put up with all that, than you can continue to. if not, then you guys have a lot of talking to do. figure out who's willing to give where, but realize that you won't be happy if one of you has to change fundamentally. good luck, hopefully something works out =)
2006-12-28 16:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by its_namz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
If he hasn't offered to marry you, he's keeping his options open. Sooner or later he'll say "I think we need some time apart" or "I need more space". Both mean he's met someone younger with a bigger bra size, and your dreams of a happy life together just went down the toilet.
Move on before you waste your life.
2006-12-28 16:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anne Jovie 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋