my marriage is at it's end-beacause of alcohol(my husband), and years of heartache-I have beautiful children and I really want to stay here for them. I feel so worthless. I don't know if there is any love left in me-right now I just would like to disappear.
2006-12-28 07:31:29 · 17 answers · asked by limogirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have grown up in a home that there was alot of domestic and drug and alcohol abuse. Sometimes, I think we would have had a much better life if my mom would have found the strength to leave my dad. You are worthwhile and so are children. Will your husband seek treatment for his alcohol addiction? If so, get him help. If not, do what you need to do for the welfare of yourself and your children. Good luck and take care.
2006-12-28 07:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by sarabear318 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you can say that you want to stay for your children. You aren't doing them a favor by staying with an alcoholic. You can't make your husband stop drinking. That's not your job. Your first priority has to be your children. They can't help themselves. You are responsible for them. Get the courage to leave and try to give your children a better life.
2006-12-28 07:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by mamabear 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you wouldn't want to leave the children with the alcoholic. Yet you wouldn't want to be unhappy the rest of your life so you and your husband need to decide if you are willing or want to save your marriage. There are many programs for individuals and families of alcoholics. But you both must agree that 1. You want to get help 2. Want to save the marriage 3. Are willing to put forth all the hard work required to help salvage it. If not maybe the best thing to do would be take the children and move on. Good Luck.
2006-12-28 07:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to stay married for the kids. If you're unhappy the kids will sense that and thus be unhappy themselves. You need to get away from your husband if he is an alcoholic and do what is going to make yourself happy so that you can support your kids and be there for them. They should be the most important thing to you. Just do whatever is going to make you happy, I would suggest going away for a weekend by yourself or with a few girlfriends and figure out what you would like to do. Find your happiness again and figure out how you can get that back. Hope i've helped!
2006-12-28 07:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lori J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DISAPPEAR...I've been depressed and tried to off myself once. Let me tell you there is NOTHING, and I MEAN NOTHING on this planet worth killing your self over. He is an alcoholic, and doesn't want help or he would have gotten it by now. You seem pretty well adjusted...as far as the kids are concerned. Its better for them to see you 2 apart and happy then together and miserable...YOU need to get away from him ASAP
2006-12-28 07:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very unhealthy for your children.I'm sure their aware of whats going on.get counseling and get out for now.It is not good to stay in this relationship for the children.Get yourself together first find out who you are and what you want then if it's possible work on your relationship.But right now you need to separate and work on you and pray to the good lord above and he will help you through it ll.Don't give up,you have beautiful children depending on you.GOOD LUCK
2006-12-28 07:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aren't worthless to your kids.
leave your husband and start a new life.
Your kids need you. Let him suffer on his own. you can't help him if he's not willing to help himself
2006-12-28 07:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to some Al anon meetings. And if you are just tired and can not deal with the drinking spouse anymore. Then don't, pack up your children and leave. God bless****
2006-12-28 07:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie if your feeling this bad then you need to move on and start a new and happy life. I know you want your kids to have a father in their life, but your not making this any better by staying with this man either. If your feeling this bad and this worthless, how do you think your going to feel if you decide to put yourself through more years of this type of pain??? Your happiness is out there somewhere. Think about your kids happiness too because when they see a change in you, it will affect them as well. I wish you all the best.
2006-12-28 07:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people feel as you do when it comes to dealing with alcoholics. Do not take it out on yourself. It is not your fault. Does he go to AA? Have you gone to ALANON.. for families of alcoholics. You will find that there are plenty just like you who feel the same way. Hang in there and see if you can get him some help.
2006-12-28 07:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋