Family & Relationships - 8 December 2006

I liked this girl last year, and I think last year she liked me too. Over summer, I asked her if she wantedto go for a walk, but she turned down my offer because she had something to do. Now we are back in school and now I realize after a couple months that she is pursuing somebody else. She loves to make me jealous and she tried to do that last year. Now she is trying to do the same thing by flaunting herself with him yesterday and today kind of near me. WHAT IS SHE TRYING TO DO TO ME? DOES SHE LOVE TO KNOW THAT I AM SEEING HER WITH ANOTHER GUY OR WHAT? SHE IS NOT THE GIRL IN THE PICTURE.

2006-12-08 16:30:19 · 8 answers · asked by 120 IQ 4 in Singles & Dating

We've only been together for a few months, but we are unseperable and get along so well! I love him very much and he has just left for the Marine Corps .. He wants to get married & I do tooo but my career is whats holding me back. WHAT SHOULD I DO??

2006-12-08 16:30:06 · 11 answers · asked by Manderz 4 in Weddings

During the past year, I have randomly meet this woman, on personal levels, and in unrelated places. It seems she just appears, we are both minding our own business, and here we are again. Recently, we have started having to share the same work envirnment, due to our positions in the company, we cannot inter-act socially. We have shared enough feelings with each other, I feel there is something worth looking into. We both may get canned if the boss finds out, WHAT CAN I DO?

2006-12-08 16:29:49 · 3 answers · asked by Road 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-08 16:29:32 · 17 answers · asked by Norma S 1 in Family

theres this guy that iv know for about all my life and we're kinda going out but mostly friends with benifits , but every time any other girl is around its like i don't exist at all, and i think hes messing around with other girls, I have alot of guy friends that could probably be good relationships but what should i do

2006-12-08 16:29:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-08 16:29:22 · 10 answers · asked by helcat34 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Please Hear What I'm Not Saying

Don't be fooled by me.
Don't be fooled by the face I wear for I wear a mask,
a thousand masks,
masks that I'm afraid to take off,
and none of them is me.

Pretending is an art that's second nature with me,
but don't be fooled, for God's sake don't be fooled.
I give you the impression that I'm secure,
that all is sunny and unruffled with me,
within as well as without,
that confidence is my name and coolness my game,
that the water's calm and I'm in command and that I need no one,
but don't believe me.
My surface may seem smooth but my surface is my mask,
ever-varying and ever-concealing.
Beneath lies no complacence.
Beneath lies confusion, and fear, and aloneness.
But I hide this.
I don't want anybody to know it.
I panic at the thought of my weakness exposed.
That's why I frantically create a mask to hide behind,
a nonchalant sophisticated facade,
to help me pretend,
to shield me from the glance that knows.

But such a glance is precisely my salvation,
my only hope, and I know it.
That is, if it's followed by acceptance,
if it's followed by love.
It's the only thing that can liberate me from myself,
from my own self-built prison walls,
from the barriers I so painstakingly erect.
It's the only thing that will assure me of what I can't assure myself,
that I'm really worth something.
But I don't tell you this.
I don't dare to, I'm afraid to.
I'm afraid your glance will not be followed by acceptance,
will not be followed by love.
I'm afraid you'll think less of me,
that you'll laugh, and your laugh would kill me.
I'm afraid that deep-down I'm nothing
and that you will see this and reject me.

So I play my game, my desperate pretending game,
with a facade of assurance without and a trembling child within.
So begins the glittering but empty parade of masks,
and my life becomes a front.
I tell you everything that's really nothing,
and nothing of what's everything,
of what's crying within me.
So when I'm going through my routine
do not be fooled by what I'm saying.
Please listen carefully and try to hear what I'm not saying,
what I'd like to be able to say,
what for survival I need to say,
but what I can't say.

I don't like hiding.
I don't like playing superficial phony games.
I want to stop playing them.
I want to be genuine and spontaneous and me
but you've got to help me.
You've got to hold out your hand
even when that's the last thing I seem to want.
Only you can wipe away from my eyes
the blank stare of the breathing dead.
Only you can call me into aliveness.
Each time you're kind, and gentle, and encouraging,
each time you try to understand because you really care,
my heart begins to grow wings--
very small wings,
very feeble wings,
but wings!

With your power to touch me into feeling
you can breathe life into me.
I want you to know that.
I want you to know how important you are to me,
how you can be a creator--an honest-to-God creator--
of the person that is me if you choose to.
You alone can break down the wall behind which I tremble,
you alone can remove my mask,
you alone can release me from my shadow-world of panic,
from my lonely prison,
if you choose to.
Please choose to.

Do not pass me by.
It will not be easy for you.
A long conviction of worthlessness builds strong walls.
The nearer you approach to me the blinder I may strike back.
It's irrational, but despite what the books say about man
often I am irrational.
I fight against the very thing I cry out for.
But I am told that love is stronger than strong walls
and in this lies my hope.
Please try to beat down those walls
with firm hands but with gentle hands
for a child is very sensitive.

Who am I, you may wonder?
I am someone you know very well.
For I am every man you meet
and I am every woman you meet.

~ Charles C. Finn, September 1966

2006-12-08 16:28:23 · 13 answers · asked by ? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

please help me,, ... met this girl on Hi5. we used to go to the same school before .. she sent me a friend request and i accepted it but i told her that '' i don accept friend requests unless they are...'',,,, i said this just to create a situation and create somethin to talk about,, but she replied this ,'' hey I didn't force u to accept ma request but anyways I sent u friend request coz we use to go to same school ,. anywaz forget u..hanks for being nice""

....... so what shall i replay to this message...
,, like something mean , but can make her react better to me?

2006-12-08 16:28:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My girlfriend uses it alot, does this mean she likes me or something more? I dont know what to do... please help!!!!
What do you people think?

2006-12-08 16:28:05 · 9 answers · asked by H. J 1 in Singles & Dating

well first i like this guy but hes kinda immature and totally was a jerk to me and my friends one time and during it his friend told me he liked me could it be true?or is his friend just mesing with me?well i don`t know cause he told me right when i was about to throw away my food and go back to class(i was in lunch at school) and he pointed to the guy i like,and said he likes you! and the guy i like was like "Shut Up, dude!" and pulled him back down to his seat. so does he really like me or are they both just messing with me? also i noticed a couple times that he was looking at me during lunch but his friends also do that so is it just his childish way of saying he likes me or what? please dont be rude i really like this guy even if he is younger than me

2006-12-08 16:27:55 · 6 answers · asked by Heather 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-08 16:27:44 · 3 answers · asked by helcat34 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Sneakin' out of the house tonight. Driving to a friends house bout 20-25 miles away. Any Advice?

2006-12-08 16:27:09 · 19 answers · asked by Jon 4 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-08 16:26:35 · 16 answers · asked by Boats 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-08 16:26:33 · 4 answers · asked by forlotsadaisies 2 in Singles & Dating

After two and a half years in a relationship my boyfriend just stops taking my calls. I don't understand everything was going great then all of a sudden he just lets it go. I am meet someone else, but I can't let go HELP

2006-12-08 16:26:20 · 12 answers · asked by Redhead 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-08 16:26:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay everytime in my classes.. The boys gather around me giveing me attension. But i get too much that they start making fun of me. Saying that im ugly. Which im not trust me. I have the hottest boy in school as my boyfriend!!
But idgi do they like me or hate me?

2006-12-08 16:25:56 · 17 answers · asked by ♥ angel ♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-08 16:25:51 · 17 answers · asked by Total Eclipse Of The Sun 2 in Singles & Dating

So it's really shocking to me to hear and read about how couples cheat on each other so easily. Does anyone truly love and honor their spouse anymore?

2006-12-08 16:25:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my husband doesent satisfy me i tryed mastibation but i dont have orgasyms wats wrong with me?

2006-12-08 16:25:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i dont understand

2006-12-08 16:24:05 · 10 answers · asked by Andrea loves Layla 1 in Singles & Dating

WAT DOES "his tongue in your ear mean"?

2006-12-08 16:23:39 · 17 answers · asked by Dreamer 2 in Singles & Dating

Alright. so i met the sweetest guy ever. We went out for 3 months. Then his cousin told me some things about him that i was concerned about. It was purely gossip, but i was stupid and believed some of the things that were said.She told me "don't trust him, he is a liar" and "he is just using you". I wasn't sure what i wanted to believe, because he hates her and she hates him. So one day i was talking to him on the phone about random stuff. Then, because the things i was told were bothering me, i decided to tell him what his cousin told me.(she told me not to tell anyone).
I just should have kept my mouth shut....i seriously reget saying anything, but i wanted to be completely open and honest with him. I didnt wanna keep anything from him.Well, he pretty much flipped out. He told me that he would call me back...he never did. Ends up that the next day he broke up with me. He said that he couldnt trust me, and that he didnt think that i trusted him.How do i get him back? I still love him.

2006-12-08 16:23:31 · 6 answers · asked by helpmeout 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay so i have a girlfriend that we get along really well and its all good but....Her sister is such a tease,she doesn't care that her sister is happy with me,she just wants to "DO" me,and those are her words...LOL...serious...anyways she's hot but it's weird...i kinda want to but i dont want my girl to find out....i know,iknow that sux....but her sister's like lets,she wont find out.....HELP!!!!

2006-12-08 16:22:25 · 18 answers · asked by Kastor Troy 2 in Singles & Dating

He left 1 yr ago, we have went thru a lot, every time I ask him if he would like us to move closer so we can be together, he says yes, but he hasn't so much as looked into possible places for us. Am I being a fool for love or should I just let him go? HE thinks I am being unfaithful, but after a years time, I don't want someone else. What do I do?

2006-12-08 16:22:03 · 8 answers · asked by commited29 1 in Singles & Dating

let me tell you the story

i was downstairs drinking hot chocolate…minding my own buisness when my friend pushed me i spilled all over myself it got on my clothes hair the carpet (that was white) and girls around me i was so embarrassed and so mad she supposedly "didnt know" that i had hot chocolate in my hand my other friend was standing next to me i ran to the bathroom they came with me getting the stains out with this towl friend saying sorry sorry i didnt know and my other friend just trying to make me smile im really sorta pissed off at her right now is she really my friend?

2006-12-08 16:21:12 · 12 answers · asked by beccabeccs101 1 in Friends

heres the deal, bf's mom has had breast cancer and i have been staying here because we dont want to live together yet. anyways he just confronted me that he thinks that we should go on a break because "i need to change because im lazy and dont help his parents out" which is bull crap becuase i do help out. it feels like if im not working around the house 24/7 then he complains and says that im being lazy and not helping out. dont u think its stupid for him to say we need to go on a break becuase of that? do u think that i need to change? i do everything he asks me to do at the drop of a hat and would do anything for him and he says that i dont appreciate what he or his family does for me. but i do so much. but yet his family members call me "brads friend" and even one of his best friends has asked "so whats going on with you two" how do u think that makes me feel, that he doesnt acknow ledge me as his gf?

2006-12-08 16:19:13 · 17 answers · asked by cowboyzrhott86 1 in Singles & Dating

Or is it just me...? It always soothes me.

2006-12-08 16:17:01 · 3 answers · asked by Holly 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

I had this 2 bestfriends of mine.... We were enjoying each others company but the times comes that they already had their NEW group of friends and the want me to join in their goup but I didnt cause they were flirting with guys in school... After 1month, I heard some rumors from them... They tell lies about me...

2006-12-08 16:16:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I'm looking for some good breakup songs that will make me feel better. I just want something that talks about how much of a jerk the other person was just to help things. I think music can really help sometimes.

2006-12-08 16:16:45 · 18 answers · asked by confused soul 2 in Singles & Dating