So it's really shocking to me to hear and read about how couples cheat on each other so easily. Does anyone truly love and honor their spouse anymore?
2006-12-08 16:25:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been married for 3 years, I absolutely love my spouse. i would never cheat. It saddens me that so many couples get married, divorced, then married again. Then on top of that they cheat. What happened to fidelity and love and honor you aask. It went out the window with , til death do us part, love and cherish, sickness and in health. Nowadays its not about love its about money and status symbols. Marriage is about commitement, communication, love, TRUST and companionship. I am only 32 but I want to have the relationship my grandparents had 60 beautiful faithful years of wedded bliss. That means something to me. People cheat on each other nowadays as often as they use their cellphones. Kudos to all of us who still believe in matrimony and fidelity!!!
2006-12-08 16:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by choco-vanilla 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how holding out will make it better for you financially. I think you can take him down and take the money with what you've got. That said? It's your decision. Cheated on twice. And those were the times he was caught. How can you love that? How can he love you and do that? Do you have some disability that prevents you two from having fun? That prevents you from going away to a hotel just for fun? I mean....you caught him as far as I can tell. If he's never fessed up, never really apologized. If he's been cavalier like, "What?! What'd I do?" then I say dump the chump and juice him for all he is financially worth. You have been the one hurt in this equation. If he is truly penitent and you truly love him? I once read a study that showed that couples who go through hard things (like affairs, and porn related addictions) when they decided to work together and get through it? The majority were happier five years after the challenge than they were before it. For what that's worth. Good luck deciding. Listen to what your heart is really saying. If the thought of being with him makes you vomit? Leave. If the thought of being without him makes you feel empty? Stay. If you feel relief when you picture your life without him? well... If you feel like he'll work with you and work with you towards a better life and romance? You have so much to consider. Sending hugs. ((((( )))))))
2016-05-22 22:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by Marjorie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married 13 years. In year 11 the woman had her mid-life crises & lost a bunch of weight. She looked better than she did the day we were married. It went to her head. She didn't need my attention anymore, she was getting it everywhere else. She was also contacting old boyfriends. I asked her to stop & she said, "why should I". In court she lied about many things. She went as far as to say that she never had an affair. I DON'T BELIEVE HER! Today she live like a Hick with a Hick Boyfriend. They have abosulately NO CLASS! She bringing my great kids down to that level & it makes me so mad.
So I guess it's time for me to answer your question. I see people that truly love & honor their spouse. I feel it's great. It is all that I was looking for. It was all I ever wanted. I have been married twice & both marriages ended with the other person dishonoring their vows. If I ever get married again, we you please ask me if I lost my mind?
2006-12-08 17:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Brightsides 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in my second (and last) marriage. My first marriage was in my early 20's and we handled the entire thing badly. We had NO CLUE what a marriage was all about. Two children, acting selfish. Yes, there was cheating and all kinds of bad behavior.
My second marriage was when I was 35. I am a totally different person today. I would NEVER cheat on my husband. I respect and love him much too much to cause our marriage that kind of harm. I would not want to hurt him like that. I am very sure that he feels that same way.
When a marriage is not built on a foundation of trust, respect and maturity, it will not go well at all.
Last thought- in this age of divorce, there are fewer and fewer marriages to model after. My first husband and I were both raised by single mothers and absent fathers. We had never even SEEN a healthy marriage.
2006-12-09 03:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've recently met the love of my life, by the grace of God alone! We have been married for over a year now. I can truly say I absolutely love and honor him. But through the experiences in my life-respect for the other is of the utmost importance. Everyone tends to takes each other for granted after awhile. Always treat your love as precious and you will never WANT to stray. There is no reason why anyone should. I believe it is an insecurity within ones self that causes one to look for affirmation from outside the relationship.
2006-12-08 16:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by TS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes, yes, Married husbands and wives love and honor each other much more it seems. A happy marriage is a wonderful experience for the couple but it doesn't make as interesting a story as sleeping around.
2006-12-08 16:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I do...have never cheated nor has he...we are each others best friend. We go out...just him and I w/o the kids every weekend if possible to share each other and have alone time. We are very busy and do alot w/the kids so we need this so we dont become dull or distant w/each other like so many ask about on here. We trust one another and truely love each other. He is my soul mate and he cherishes me. He never makes me feel unsexy or unwanted. We are meant to be together. I can tell him anything.
2006-12-08 16:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It saddens me, but it doesn't shock me. Society has made cheating acceptable, look at all the celebrates who play musical beds., we laugh and shake our heads at their antics. Psychologists tell us our inability to be faithful is not our faults, we were abused as children, or we have some disease that prevents us from being faithful. I am exaggerating, but the bottom line is we have been led to believe whatever we do no matter how dispicable is not our fault, so what the hell lie cheat steal
its not our fault
2006-12-08 17:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty sickening isn't it? I think it's great that you and your husband have been faithful to each other, and you can feel proud of the fact that you and he are loyal and true and that you take your wedding vows seriously. Unfortunately, a lot of people just don't have the same set of values or morals that our parents' have. My parents just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary, and their are a lot of other aunts and uncles in my family who've been married for 30+ years. Happy Holidays.
2006-12-08 16:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not easy to cheat. One always will think it thru. I have not, nor will I. Their are so many who really do cherish their spouse, even when times get tough. Hang in there, its only time, and we have a lot of it.
Kevin
2006-12-08 16:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by Boats 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋