heres the deal, bf's mom has had breast cancer and i have been staying here because we dont want to live together yet. anyways he just confronted me that he thinks that we should go on a break because "i need to change because im lazy and dont help his parents out" which is bull crap becuase i do help out. it feels like if im not working around the house 24/7 then he complains and says that im being lazy and not helping out. dont u think its stupid for him to say we need to go on a break becuase of that? do u think that i need to change? i do everything he asks me to do at the drop of a hat and would do anything for him and he says that i dont appreciate what he or his family does for me. but i do so much. but yet his family members call me "brads friend" and even one of his best friends has asked "so whats going on with you two" how do u think that makes me feel, that he doesnt acknow ledge me as his gf?
2006-12-08 16:19:13 · 17 answers · asked by cowboyzrhott86 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes just using you so he can skip out on his responsibilities. you're right, he is controlling. leave him. he doesn't respect you for who you are. you are a very kind person for doing something like that for someone else. find someone else who will appreciate your generosity
2006-12-08 16:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing things without being asked. Provided, of course, you wouldn't rather watch TV or be on the computer until someone asks you to get off your azz for a minute.
And don't think that just because everyone else here is on your side that they're right. Look at a bunch of questions and you'll notice a pattern. They almost all agree with the asker. You know why? Because we only hear your side. If your bf posted on here what a REAL lazy azz you are, these same people would be telling him to kick your azz to the curb.
In any case, my advice to you is the same as theirs. Leave.
2006-12-09 00:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and want to overcome this it is gonna take a lot of putting up with things. Tell him how you feel and if he doesn't care then move on. There are a lot of fish in the sea. There is someone out there that will love you for who you are.If you are going to invest your life into someone you probably want to do so with someone who treats you good and will care for your needs feelings emotions etc. You want to be respected and loved and that is not too much to ask. You really know what you invest in this relationship. And you know if and how much he really loves you. You should not have to guess if someone really loves you or not. If he does you will know. Don't settle in your relationships. Find someone who makes you feel special and who you think is special and you will have a wonderful life. If he don't appreciate you let him find someone who he does appreciate and you do the same. There are a lot of people in this world and everyone wants to find someone special.
2006-12-09 00:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by brodie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do ur self a favour leave him. He already got his hands full with his family and if u don’t feel like they don’t want u in the picture. U should be walking away from him and maybe the break up is a good idea because of all the reasons.
2006-12-09 00:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by love poisoner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's right. You need out. His breaking it off is a blessing for you. You don't have to do the dirty work.
What you should do, is just start looking at everyone else in the world and consider whether you'd date them or not. Get out of the relationship mentality and get into the singles mentality - when you do this he will want you back - tell him no.
2006-12-09 00:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by FSJD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the game. Work you like a dog and try to make you feel like they are doing you the favor. Call the bluff, move on and don't look back. You can do a lot better.
2006-12-09 00:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Twoeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the house and the situation...it's not a healthy happy one, and will only get worse the longer you stay. People cannot control you unless you stay and allow it to happen. Good luck
2006-12-09 00:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
o don't want to be rude but it seems you're being taken advantage of. if you want to give the relationship a serios chance you should move out of that house if he really cares he'll go to your new house but don't stay with his parents just because they made you a favor, be very appreciative and make them know that but don't stay just because of that
2006-12-09 00:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by e)v1n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being USED and ABUSED
Get your own life. Get a bf who will acknowledge you as his.
What is it that makes you put up with this situation for even one moment?
2006-12-09 00:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a one sided relationship honey.Get out now.He is using this as an excuse cause guys are cowards.This is your chance,take it...
2006-12-09 00:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by birdlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋