How can men walk away so easy?

Question

After two and a half years in a relationship my boyfriend just stops taking my calls. I don't understand everything was going great then all of a sudden he just lets it go. I am meet someone else, but I can't let go HELP

Answer 1

Maybe he never loved you. I mean, he should atleast have the decency to break up with you in person. Just forget him...why waste time over someone that has no respect for you. If he doesn't want you, there's no point in staying around. It'll only make you miserable and also make you look obsessive. Live a happy life without him and it will show. Who knows...he might end up clawing back. Happened to me more than once and they come back telling me they love me. It's weird like that. Ofcourse don't wait around, just forget them, they're as good as dead. lol

Answer 2

Most men who leave the relationship always seem to have a reason why. It may not be the true reason, but it is reason enough for then to walk away from girlfriends, their marriage and children. Then there are the ones that don't walk away so easily, the stalkers, who raise all manners of hell because they can't let go. And of course, there are the god guys who actually try to make it happen. Some women do attempt to hang on. Some live in the past, remembering the good times when everything was great. Some women use their children as an excuse to hang on when they know the relationship is over or "poison" as you stated. I'm sure you have heard this before, I want to keep this together because my child needs a father. Many times this is another way of saying, I can't get a job, who is going to take care of us. Ladies do have a hard time letting go for various reasons. We should teach our children (if you have them) the meaning of respect, commitment and love for self, family and others. Maybe then some will understand the ramifications of their actions. Take Care...Star

Answer 3

That's really hard to answer since I don't have all the details, but I can tell you from my experience and maybe this can help. Btw, my gf left me. But it's the circumstances that might help you out.
It has to do with the individual, not a gender since it happens on both sides. Did you ever find out what type of realationships he had in the past? This might shed some light in his actions now. My gf had a problem with commitment and I was aware of this. It was because she was hurt and abused many times in past relationships which made her insecure. Also, she thought I was too good for her, she wasn't used to a man treating her good so she went back to what she was used to, even though it really didn't make her happy. I don't know why people do that. So maybe he thought you were too good for him, or he wasn't simply ready for committment. Either way, it doesn't stop the pain and it doesn't make you like him less, but this way is better in the long run. If he can make changes to make himself a better or more stable person, then maybe you might have a future with him. Have you ever asked him why he left? Send a letter or email and ask that simple question. If he doesn't respond, then it's best you continue on with your life and leave him behind. You don't want to toture yourself over him, it doesn't help. I know. Write poems, talk to your friends, and cry out your pain and this will help the healing process. I'm sorry for your situation and I hope things get better for you. As a last suggestion, I wouldn't start dating so soon, especially if you love him like you say you do. That wouldn't be fair to the other person, spending time with him, while your heart is spending time with the one you really love. Give yourself time to heal so that you don't end up hurting someone yourself. I know you don't want to do want your ex did to you. All the best to you.

Answer 4

Honey things were not going as great as you think if he just walked away. I think men don't attach as easily as women emotionally therefor its just easier for them to move on. He stopped taking your calls for a reason maybe that reason wore a shorter skirt then you? You have to let go that man doesn't want you and if you want to give your new relationship a snow balls chance in h-e-l-l then you have no choice but to let go.

Answer 5

It's not a "men" thing, it's a "him" thing. It will help you in the future to know that. As for this guy, what he did was really disrespectful and if you can't get through to him then you definitely need to try and move on. If I understand you correctly, you have your eye on someone else, so you should go for him. Best of luck!

Answer 6

It's hard because you think what the heck everything was fine and then he just changes for no reason it's really hard I know but you just have to think hes not worth your time or tears.

Answer 7

Well if he called it , then its time to get on with your life , it might sound like i don't care , but its the only way your going to get your head around it .. keep well and good luck ..

Answer 8

You need a lesson on who a man really is. The feminine energy grows with fullness, praise, connection and love, to allow a kind of "surrender" in all kinds of joyful experiences. With sex, women surrender to the experience with a man through love and connection, which can make the man and woman as one. But the masculine energy doesn't work this way. At least not in the "darker" part of a man. The masculine energy is VERY different. The masculine energy seeks to break through challenges all alone and arrive at its desire - "emptiness" and "freedom", men often seek this physical challenge of sex as a goal unto itself, where they can break through to a temporary "freedom". A man will NEVER see you exactly the way you want him to see you, or value you exactly the way you know you should be valued or the way you are thinking presently! There's a drive in men that makes them want to be CHALLENGED... and to overcome that challenge. Men want to be challenged by the idea of meeting, attracting, and pursuing a woman. And then they want to win the woman over and feel stronger as a man for having done it.

Men deal with this in one of two ways:

1. They find more "freedom" and emptiness by physically being with a woman in the short term.
or
2. They find connection and love by physically AND emotionally being with the woman in a deeper and "longer-term" way.

Here's the AMAZING part... A woman helps him choose which it will be with her. Interesting...The point is, men LOVE the chase. Some men might tell you that they don't. They do. Men love the chase and the challenge not in their "logical" minds, but down where it counts. They love it in their FEELINGS and EMOTIONS. It's part of their genetic make-up.

But if a woman loses control emotionally, seeks HIS APPROVAL or thinks she can trade sex to receive love before a man's experiencing an intense desire to WIN HER OVER and to be with her, then something bad happens !! The man loses that feeling of excitement and challenge with her. He recognizes that the woman has already given over physical and emotional CONTROL to him. Which destroys the strongest "lead-in" to creating lasting love with a man.

Make up your mind once and for all give a final ultamitum (if you are in two minds) and Move on ?
Good Luck>r

Answer 9

He may be afraid that you met someone else. Men can't handle pain, so they avoid it. Emotional pain destroys men.

Answer 10

We know when to cut our losses.