Family & Relationships - 21 November 2006

there's a girl i am really into. when we met, she said we'd get to know each other as friends and see where it goes but then this person who she has liked for about a year, told her that he liked her. so i am losing her. she is a good girl and feels really bad, so bad she was crying last night. i want to be her friend but i also want a chance to be with her. it is breaking me apart inside. what can i do?

2006-11-21 03:07:22 · 4 answers · asked by rhiannon_kc 1 in Singles & Dating

How should I pursue this. The whole "romantic" thing seems too pretensious and forced for me. It's not really fake on my part, just more thoughtful. But irregardless of what most women say in terms of what they seek from men, the very thing they want seems to push them away more often. I'm not buying them bouquets of flowers and reciting poetry, but it's often gotten me less success with the whole "nice guy" B.S. Where I currently am in my life, as much attention as I'd like to give to myself lately in terms of progress, I most likely have next to no time for a true relationship right now. My question is just how open are single women REALLY to casual sex. The norm and stereotype seems to by they are APPAULED by it. I know this to be a bit of an exaggeration but still don't want to degrade myself personally just to pursue sex and harp on it like a sleaze towards women I meet. Should I tease then openly ask? Openly ask, period? Women's opinions on this one please.

2006-11-21 03:06:24 · 14 answers · asked by blah_blah 2 in Singles & Dating

Should your boyfriend be cool with this girl that you don't like even though you told him that you and her don't get along but he always saying hi to her and talking to her acting that it doesn't bother you.Because my boyfriend is doing that, I don't know if he's testing me, or he doesn't really care how I feel in this situation.

2006-11-21 03:06:15 · 22 answers · asked by ♥Imani♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

My sister is getting married and i have to sing at her wedding.. and i am trying to find the best slow song to sing

2006-11-21 03:05:51 · 17 answers · asked by Jewelz 2 in Weddings

either color your hair or cut it, would you?
Would you ask for something in return?

2006-11-21 03:04:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm 52, he's 57. he was married 38 yrs, I was married 22 years. We're both divorced, thats just how some things are in life. Don't be quick to judge, you don't know full story and if your under 40 you probably don't need to state an opinion anyway, no offense.We've been seeing each other for a little over 2 yrs at least 2 to 3 times a week. His hours are different than mine so we find quality time when we can. God knows the heart so what I'm asking is, if we move in together do you think I should bring it up or wait for the man to bring it up? I don't think either of us are ready for marriage at this point until we get to know each others grown kids, etc.... Anyway, whats your feedback on the issue at hand? Only 40 or older answer only please. Please don't be offened by me saying that. Thanks and Happy Thanksgiving to each of you !

2006-11-21 03:03:32 · 10 answers · asked by CryBaby 2 in Family

I have been with my ex for 5yrs. We have had issues and a couple break ups along the way. We recently broke up 3 months ago. We have differences in our personalities that i think lead to fights. We are both in very stressful fields and it would be a lie to say that does not contribute also. Also about 7 months ago I moved to a different state 3hrs away for grad school. Now at the same time we have always been good friends. So it is not like we can't get along or don't enjoy each other. I think our differences in terms of a relationship can be worked out if we are both willing to try. But at the same time it has been 5yrs of ups and downs. My head says maybe its not meant to be but my heart says i still love her. When do you listen to your heart and keep trying and when do you just give up and move on?

2006-11-21 03:02:50 · 14 answers · asked by NJguy23 2 in Singles & Dating

My wife and I each make about $50,000 a year, we both have credit card debt and student loans. we bought a house last year, so mortgage payments too, and we have two boys (12 & 15)

So far we have been ok, but I don't feel we are getting ahead with our debt reduction. The house market is starting to go down, and interest rates will go up.

Every time I suggest we make a budget and cut some luxuries (like cable TV) she gets mad and accuses me of not trusting her with our banking. Now she also has her mind set on buying a new washer/dryer! the set we have are old (about 15 years) and normal capacity, but they WORK. She insists that we need new, larger capacity ones.

I will probably get a bonus for Xmas, and she wants to use it for the washer/dryer.

We've already borrowed money from her parents twice, and I can't ask my parents for any. What we NEED is a budget, but she won't talk about it!

What do i do? I thought about asking her parents to intervene, but that might make it worse.

2006-11-21 03:01:55 · 10 answers · asked by deimodius 1 in Marriage & Divorce

As I mentioned before, things turned very ugly with my ex over the weekend when he found out I kissed another guy 2 weeks AFTER we broke up. I saw him recently and he is the one who obsessivley wanted to meet up. We met had a great time and he found this out over the weekend. He's so angry right now and kept harassing me entire day by calling me when I kept hanging up. He's just being plain mean and I want to cut all contact till we calm down. Does it make sense to think of a friendship ahead? I wouldnt want to lose him as a friend because he was a big part of my life and I understand he's angry but his behaviour isnt justified as we were broken up. I dunno how guys react...you think he will get over this and we will be able to salvage some sort of a friendship?

2006-11-21 03:01:18 · 4 answers · asked by Curious George 2 in Singles & Dating

my boyfrined and i have gone out for almost 1 whole month and i still am in love. usllay by now i want it done with cuz i get sick of seeing the same face every day. but he is differnet the kind of guy who surpises me every day and his face is never trisome.in fact i never found myself in a mood of dislike he is so kind and sweet. we have been in the heat twice but never did anything futher to purse it.he does not push into it but his kisses can drive a girl mad.i never tell a guy that i love him and mean it but i do with him and he seems to feel the same about me. i never have lasted longer than 3 months with a guy but i just know i will with him. i asked a friend of mine how she thinks this guy and i are doing and she relplyed that i seem to be very happy and we are lucky to be together so it seems people think that it is right and i do also i just am always on top of the word love but now i am falling for it that maybe it is really love but i dont want to thorw water into the fire.

2006-11-21 02:59:44 · 18 answers · asked by Playboy 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-21 02:59:11 · 9 answers · asked by lovebug 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I really like this guy and hes also my friend. When we first met, he was really sweet and nice and fun to be around. But now its like he doesnt wanna be on the same planet as me. Whenever he sees me in the halls, all i get is a wave hi and then he just walks off. Also, he hangs around this group of older slutty girls that treat him like hes their god. i know i shouldnt like him if hes neglecting not only me but his other friends too, but i cant stop thinking about him. How do i get over him?

2006-11-21 02:58:05 · 17 answers · asked by Morgan 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-21 02:58:01 · 7 answers · asked by atl_lilfine1 1 in Singles & Dating

hey everyone!
i really like this guy, and have done for a while now...
thing is, he's a good friend of mines bro, and i dont know if she would be ok with it, or if he even likes me...i dont know if i am just paranoid but i think he likes someone else, and i know he has no girlfriend...
i cant just tell him, if thats what someone was gonna write...i am a bit antisocial, so i am way afraid that i will lose his sister (my friend) and i would never be able to go to a guy, any guy, and tell them i like them. i could just neva do that. i meet him once a week (we play in a band, his sister is there too, and the girl i think he likes...) and that is tomorrow, and i just have to do something about this, he is all i eva think about.
i hope u guyz can help me!
thnx all

2006-11-21 02:57:41 · 6 answers · asked by Tal I 2 in Singles & Dating

I am a christian and I do not believe in getting a divorce except for marital infidelity, but I am so sick of my husband! We haven't had any intimacy in several days because it is hunting season and he is too wrapped up in either hunting or learning taxidermy. By the time the kids are in bed, he is too tired and wants to sleep before going to work on 3rds (He is supposed to sleep during the day while I am at work). We need to move because our house is too small and I find the perfect one that we should go look at b/c it is in our price range and just what we want, but he isn't even interested because it isn't up his dad's a**! I am so sick of his family, living within 1 mile of his grandparents, his dad, his brother, his sister, his uncle and living an hour away from any of my family. If I say anything about hunting or his family...it's just a big ole fight and I get accused of bitching all the time. His family has lied about me, talked behind my back, and put me down to him.

2006-11-21 02:57:13 · 28 answers · asked by ltlchk_2 2 in Marriage & Divorce

What if his work doesn't allow him to come home every evening? And if you don't have children...don't you feel alone? I do...

2006-11-21 02:57:02 · 9 answers · asked by charmed 3 in Marriage & Divorce

would it be rude to only invite the people that I get along with at work which is about half the department (5 people)?

2006-11-21 02:57:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

girl i like and i were in the computer lab, she said she was hungry so i of course wanted to feed her so forgetting how messy room is, i took her back to my room and it's such a mess. so is feeding the girl worth showing her my mess of a room? i usually keep it neat but have been stressed lately

2006-11-21 02:56:48 · 6 answers · asked by rhiannon_kc 1 in Singles & Dating

The guy that I used to be with.he's into fixing computers and loves anime and fantasy. I want him to feel comfortable and happy around me.what will scare a shy guy off and what kind of personality will make them want to stay in a relationship with a girl.also should I not kiss aggressively?How should I?

2006-11-21 02:56:15 · 11 answers · asked by dabluschmosprincess 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-21 02:55:39 · 5 answers · asked by highlyfavored 1 in Singles & Dating

Me and my boyfriend keep trying but its not working

2006-11-21 02:55:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a friend who is a boy that i've known over a year now. He's really nice and funny and can always make me laugh, even when i'm upset. He doesn't make me feel uncomefortable when i'm talking about feelings and family trouble. I call him when i'm lonely sad or bored and he paints and insant smile on my face. Even when i was switching schools when i really didn't want to he stayed behind with me and we talked about it and he cheered me up.The problem is he...well let's put it this way, he's popular and thinks because i'm nice to him and want to be friends with him i have a crush on him, which i don't. i found out because he has a friend he's known his whole life and would never lie about what he said, that is my friend from this school that i switched to. It really makes me mad that he thinks that because it means he doesn't really think of us as friends even though we're best friends to me.
Should i be mad? Help!

2006-11-21 02:54:49 · 6 answers · asked by Josie F 2 in Friends

hi im jimmy i have a problem i have an obssesion of tickling my girlfrind too much what do I do? It''s a turn on i like it and she dont she tells me to stop but im not hurting ger what do i do to stop? HELP!

2006-11-21 02:54:44 · 8 answers · asked by jimmy m 1 in Singles & Dating

He asked me if I wanted to round third and go for home. So I started the car, pulled out of Lover's Lane, took a turn at Third Avenue and drove back to his place. I just hate it when I get in trouble for doing what I'm asked.

2006-11-21 02:54:36 · 21 answers · asked by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-21 02:54:02 · 4 answers · asked by raj the secret 2 in Friends

2006-11-21 02:53:57 · 9 answers · asked by Sherline o 1 in Singles & Dating

i'm a teenage gal..n i'm in a relationship..we love each other very much...i told my parents about it and dey seem like ntg...every time when he ask me out for a date,my parents wouldn't allow me to go out wif him alone..i dunno y..while my boy is their fren's son..
and now...he's in hospital..suspected to hv dengue fever...i wanted to be wif him...support him...and he wants me there too...i told my mum, n she let me visit him for awhile only..i beg her to let me be wif him coz he needs me..
n she said to me.."u must hv ur limit...who r u ? his gf ? just frens oni...just frens..."
my heart torn into pieces..n dis is not da first time..(='-<)

2006-11-21 02:53:47 · 6 answers · asked by Missy~* 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

my son's father who only sees him when it is convienant for him to come is driving up here this weekend for the holliday and me and my new hunny had all these plans should i change them or continue to go about my business ..... its not like he ever makes things easy for me.

2006-11-21 02:52:59 · 6 answers · asked by LiL mAmMa 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-21 02:52:40 · 53 answers · asked by mrhaff 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-21 02:52:38 · 15 answers · asked by Batman has left the building 3 in Other - Family & Relationships