I am in a very diffucult situation righ tnow and would like to find some support and advice on what to do and how to handel things. Well first off I am a 21 year old married mother of two girls who are currently int he custody of the state. They have been out of my home for about 6 months now. They were taken away due to our financial problems. My husband and I have been also having alot of marital problems. He is an alcoholic and his drinking is also part of the reason why our girls are not living at home at this time. He refuses to get help or just stop on his own. I'm not sure if some of you think this is alot but he drinks a 12 pack every night. Right now we are already having problems with saving our money and making our bill payments on time. He spends about $200 a month on beer. That money could be going to other thigns we need to pay for, but he doesn't seem to care. Anyways, to my point. I have wanted to leave him for over a year now but I don't know how I'd even be able to make it on my own without him. All my family lives up north while I now live in the south. They are unable to help me with anything and I have very few friend here, non in which could help me at all with anything, little or big. Right now I have no money to my name, it al goes to rent and bills, and beer. I tryed to keep it from him but he always seems to get his hands on it. You may say to open a bank account that only I can access but in the past he had talked me into commiting account fraud when we wer in difficult times and I am not longer able to open a bank account under my name for the next 5-6 years. Yesh, I know I am not perfect but at the time I made that mistack we were about to be evicted and homeless, we had trouble keeping our utilities on and I didn't know of any other way except that at the time. I want to get a divorce from him but I'm soooo scared I won't be able to handel it myself. I am sooo scared that if I go to a case worker with DFAX here, that my girls will never come home. I don't want to live in a shelter. I have no transportation on my own and don't even know how to drive. I don't know where to begin. I'm so terrified that if I leave my whole life will be worse then it already is. I can't even stand to be near him anymore. We haven't been intimate in months and I even hate the thought of kissing him goodbye anymore. I am soo unhappy and want out so badly but I just don't think I can do it by myself. Has anyone else been in this situation or know someone who has? What did you or they do??? What do I do???? I don't want to fail my girls, I want them home again with mommy like they should be. I can't stand it anymore!!!!!
2006-11-21
12:58:36
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