me and my bf have been going out for almost 3 months now and we are in love. we both know that we are going to be together forever and can't picture our life with anyone else. im 16 and hes 17, and we're both virgins. we both want to have sex with eachother because we want to have that closeness that comes after doing that with someone you love. should we or should we not?
2006-11-21 13:00:54 · 18 answers · asked by runawaysmilexo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it is a though decision... I guess everyone at some point comes to it. I did too...
However, before you decide on weather or not you ought to have a more intimate relationship with your bf, you should go back and ask your self if he is really the person with whom you ARE going to be with FOREVER. I emphasize those two words not to question your feelings, but to make you think that being with a person forever might often be a desire, and often one that is not shared by your partner. I also say this because it is what happened to me. My decision to lose my virginity with my gf however was mostly due to my own will in sharing more of myself with her. Our relationship lasted 4 years, everything went well, and we believed we would be together forever. After many good times together, we just lost interest in each other and the relationship simply came to an end. We are now good friends and there is nothing to regret. In fact most people come out of a long relationship by the time they reach the age of 21.
My advise then is, simply do what YOU think is right. In many cases the idea of having found the person with whom you wish to be with for the rest of your life can simply be a product of your own sexual desires. ...and once you do have sex, that idea might be lost by either one.
If you truly believe that he is the person with whom you are going to be with forever, then waiting for sex will just make it that much more special!!! Patience is a virtue. : ) Hope this helps... Good luck!!
2006-11-21 13:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are both completely confident that you are ready for this huge step. Also keep in mind that sex isn't the magic wand of happiness in a relationship. It can potentially bring you closer, but it can also give you problems as well. At sixteen, the last thing you want to be worried about is a baby on the way. Make sure that you are both totally committed to each other and and prepared to live up to possible consequences, and most importantly be safe!
2006-11-21 21:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
please dont do it. u and him are still too young to do that. u dont know what kind of problem that u have after make sex. the most biggest problem that people get after make free sex is pregnancy. ever u use condoms or another contraception it will be useless, coz sometimes contraception cant avoid pregnancy. be patient and wait until u reach more older. maybe 19 or 21. if u love him and he love u too, dont do some mistake that can destroyed relationship that both of u build for along time. pregnancy can make ur relationship with him over.
2006-11-21 21:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by dena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer to that and only YOU!!I think sleeping with your partner is a celebration of love for what you have for each other.People sometimes don't end up with the guy they loved at 16 and then regret what they have done.I was young and in love and the same age as you when i slept with my boyfriend after 3 months.I was with him for 4 years but didn't end up with him and i DON'T regret it.The only thing was that i was disappointed as i thought it would be gr8 and it was really sore.I think if you have some fore play and take your time you should be fine........Oh and make sure you use a condom!!!!! Loux
2006-11-21 21:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by loulou30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yea... Like gag me! First off, I think you need to wait another three months and second, I do not think your relationship will last more than a year. If you do decide to have sex then definitely use protection or some sort of birth control so you do not get pregnant.
2006-11-21 21:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by Todd Maz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie if u realy love him that much and u feel that his he one then go for it.iam not trying to u mom but i don't thing three months is long a enough.cause some man will have sex with and the leave u *** cause the got what they wanted
2006-11-21 21:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no cuz ur only 16 and thats not right just stay togeher and everything will be fine when u get older u might be ready but now it isnt the right time plz take my advice
2006-11-21 21:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by becky w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the second you do you'll realize all the stuff you didn't notice about the person at the beginning, so wait and prolong the excitment as long as possible cause it goes downhill from that point
2006-11-21 21:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by rogue chedder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u both feel u r then yeah. As long as ur comfortable. Use protection!
2006-11-21 21:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are to YOUNG to have sex. When you are 20, then you can have it. I mean come on you havent even finished high school.
2006-11-21 21:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by rebel5689 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋