Family & Relationships - 17 November 2006

she is intelligent but short tempered and cannot listen anything against her frens.also she is too much into phones,how to get her communicate well with us?help

2006-11-17 20:12:10 · 11 answers · asked by raj g 1 in Family

Do they irritate you...or you just dont care about them?

2006-11-17 20:09:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Is it heartbreaking to see your ex with a new partner? How do I heal emotionally? I really don't think I will survive it it happens 'm not a strong person.I have two young children so I need to know what can do to get through it if I have to.

2006-11-17 20:09:29 · 15 answers · asked by poptrash 2 in Marriage & Divorce

SAN BRUNO, Calif. (Oct. 31) - The lonely, divorced carpenter thought he was going to Brazil to make wedding plans.

Instead, he was drugged and held captive for six days at his fiancee's home while she and another man emptied his bank accounts, according to Brazilian authorities. Then they drove the 56-year-old victim to a vacant lot, where they strangled him with copper wire, doused his body with fuel, and set it on fire, investigators say.

Authorities found Raymond Merrill's charred body in April.

Now, the woman he believed was his betrothed is under arrest, along with a man suspected of helping to kill him.

"He would talk to me about ideal relationships and pure love," said Merrill's best friend, Bill Rauch. "With age doesn't necessarily come wisdom. He was used to doing things his way and, in the end, it did him in."

For months, his family knew nothing of his horrifying end. It was only after a bungled robbery in Brazil that investigators even learned of Merrill's fate.

Merrill met Regina Filomena Rachid last year through an online dating service. At the time, he was lonely and depressed, having been dumped by a Las Vegas woman for whom he had bought expensive gifts, according to Merrill's best friend.

Merrill and Rachid exchanged dozens of calls, e-mails and photographs, often enlisting Rachid's 18-year-old daughter as a translator. Rachid was 41, from an upper-middle-class family that was in the real estate business.

"I thought, `This is going a little fast,' but I didn't want to sound critical," said Merrill's sister, Marcia Sanchez Loebick.

The warning signs were obvious to Merrill's friend of nearly 30 years. Merrill gave Rachid $10,000 to start a skin care clinic and bought her a $20,000 sport utility vehicle. She complained it wasn't a fancier, more expensive model, Rauch said.

"This from a man who was tightfisted," Rauch said. "Ray and I would go out and I'd have to buy all the beers. All of a sudden, he's lavishing all these gifts and money on a relationship he's not even close to consummating.

"I said, `Ray, these are so many red flags. I can't believe you're pursuing this,"' Rauch said. "He would just slough it off. He'd say, `She's just a passionate and emotional Latina.' What do you say to a guy like that?"

Merrill visited Rachid twice in Sao Jose dos Campos, an industrial city about 60 miles from Sao Paulo. Both times he stayed a week longer than planned. Both times he notified Rauch, who then drove to Merrill's home in San Bruno to water the plants and collect the mail. On the third trip, Merrill again overstayed his return, but this time he didn't call Rauch to let him know.

Loebick, who lives in Cleveland, said she sent her brother repeated e-mails warning him that their 86-year-old father was dying, but got no response. She and Rauch's best friend called police in California to report him missing.

What happened to Merrill was more awful than either could have imagined.

Sometime after he arrived on March 21, Rachid and her real boyfriend, Nelson Siqueira Neves, drugged Merrill, kept him in a room in Rachid's house, and drained his bank accounts, stealing about $200,000 in all, according to Merrill's sister and Brazilian authorities.

Then, on April 1 - the day he was scheduled to return to California - they hired Evandro Celso Augusto Ribeiro for $5,600 to help kill him and set fire to the corpse, according to investigators. Authorities found the scorched remains but could not identify the victim, and buried the body in a pauper's grave.

But then Rachid - to raise money to pay off the hit man - took part in the holdup of a black-market money changer, and accidentally left her purse behind, investigators say.

The money changer went to police and turned over the purse, which contained Merrill's credit card. Hours later, Rachid showed up at the same police station to report her purse stolen. Police arrested her on the spot. The alleged hit man soon told authorities what happened to Merrill, investigators said.

Rachid and Ribeiro are in custody, charged with armed robbery followed by death.

Rachid's boyfriend was questioned by police in early October but was released under a Brazilian law that says no one can be arrested in the days immediately before and after an election, investigators said. Now he cannot be found.

"I feel a really terrible sense of loss," said Merrill's best friend. "You expect to lose your parents. But you don't expect one of your best friends to die."

Kim Curtis reported from San Bruno, Calif., and Stan Lehman reported from Sao Paulo, Brazil.


10/31/06 13:29 EST

2006-11-17 20:08:52 · 4 answers · asked by fiteprogram 3 in Singles & Dating

I've met this guy online and he isn't from here. He's from another country. I've fallen for him and vise versa. In order for him to stay in the country, he needs to marry someone. We've already discussed that I can't be that person for him so he is looking for someone from his city. (we're in different cities too) My question is how do I show my support to him in his search for someone else when I feel jealous? What should I do?

2006-11-17 20:08:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he wants to join the army and hates being called cute, sweet, sweetie or honey

2006-11-17 20:07:15 · 18 answers · asked by nemily88 1 in Singles & Dating

i didnt ask him to use a condom cause i thought,and he said as well,that he had been tested. i found out from a text message another girl sent him saying the same has happened to her during a one night stand.
would you leave him cause he is a liar or would you stay with him cause you both have the same "thing" :((((((((((((((((((((

2006-11-17 20:03:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This is a statistical topic. Please answer these questions:
1)Do you masterbate?
2)How often?
3)If you don't (or claim that you don't) why is it that in my Human Sexuality course it states that 98% of men and 92% of women do?
4)Why are people afraid to admit it if almost everyone is doing it?

2006-11-17 20:02:43 · 13 answers · asked by rod 5 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-17 20:02:17 · 22 answers · asked by JOSEPH J 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-17 20:01:57 · 1 answers · asked by KingOfQueens 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been married for 1 month but i have only had sex with my husband once!...he doesnt seem to be interested in sex...we talkted about it and he just said to give him some time..so I did...but nothing changed..today - i went through History to find some documents and I saw loads of porn sites..from the time we returned from our honeymoon....I dont know what to do...I feel so angry and hurt and worried...what if he is addicted to porn and doesnt want me?...have I made a mistake by marrying him...

2006-11-17 20:00:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-17 19:58:17 · 8 answers · asked by missmiss 1 in Singles & Dating

until i still have no girlfriend, can you please tell me how to court a lady?

2006-11-17 19:56:05 · 3 answers · asked by brandy q 2 in Singles & Dating

How'd that go?
Never could get my wife to try it! Always wanted her to, though.

2006-11-17 19:54:57 · 13 answers · asked by OU812 5 in Marriage & Divorce

and my boyfriend and i are goin to spend 3 days together......can you tell me what kind of sweet dates we can do? or sweet things we should do together? i'm planning an overnight at a beach and he wants us to make vows to each other before my birthday will end..this 3 days too will serve also as a celebration of our renewed relationship...we should have been 4 years now but (long story) we are going out for 2 months next friday..help..

2006-11-17 19:51:33 · 8 answers · asked by LaDy in Luv 2 in Marriage & Divorce

BF says he wants me to wake him up and go ya know...so now he is drunk and im H***** tried all that i can think of...anything new? lol
throw an ice bucket in his face?
GRRR FRusTRATED

2006-11-17 19:50:15 · 9 answers · asked by psychobitch.fromhell 1 in Singles & Dating

I like who am.. Most of the time people judge me without getting to know me. Most women don't like me.. perhaps they are intimidated by me.. I get alot of attention from men.. Which some off the women i work with can't stand.. What makes them even to dislike me more is that i don't seek attention .. I got to work to work basically.. I Think they wanna get rid of me.. I like my job and i don't wish to make any eniemes.. Is it me or everyone around me is crazy .. i don't even care about my looks..

2006-11-17 19:49:52 · 5 answers · asked by julia1975 4 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-17 19:49:36 · 2 answers · asked by JOSEPH J 2 in Singles & Dating

only the external features should be taken into account

2006-11-17 19:48:55 · 8 answers · asked by naren d 1 in Singles & Dating

I am addicted to pornography. I want to stop so badly, but I can't. I am so dumb! I hate it! Why can't I stop! Everytime I think I will never view it again, but I always do. I need help! I don't want to look at women in such a deragatory way! I think they should be cherished! HELP ME!

2006-11-17 19:47:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-11-17 19:47:24 · 8 answers · asked by Gevinski G 1 in Singles & Dating

why is it that when i reject a girl they immediately say "oh i dont like him" or "he is the worst" or "he is the last person i'd ever date" but 5 seconds ago they were totally into me?

2006-11-17 19:46:39 · 8 answers · asked by private0909 1 in Singles & Dating

its already 3 mths of relationship with my bf..Sometime i do feel like hell when he doesn't care abt my feelings..
I always take care of his feelings but not him..I'm fine with that..But I can't help crying over this matter..Which to me,
its a serious one..He never confess the truth until today..His confession make my heart bleeds..He told me that he's on drugs and he even ask me to join him !..F**k !! i noe..he also say that if u try it and u get addicted, that ur fault and if you're not, thats good..I never imagine that he would talk to me like that..I love him..Even though he hurts me too much..I always could tolerate his behaviour but how should i stop him from taking drugs?..
I tot his was a gd guy with pure heart..But i was wrong..I don't want to leave him..I want him to turn over a new leaf..so what can i do?

2006-11-17 19:42:28 · 24 answers · asked by Cassie 3 in Singles & Dating

expecting some interesting answers.....

2006-11-17 19:41:12 · 10 answers · asked by Software_pro 2 in Singles & Dating

....?

2006-11-17 19:40:26 · 11 answers · asked by Regular Guy 1 in Singles & Dating

Last night i was in the pub chatting to a fella who i know, but my mate hates him, and hates me talking to him and had a go at me in the pub in frount of evryone, i was mad and went over ans asked what her problem was, we started rowing and ended up scrapping, got thrown out of the pub, she wouldn't talk to me,then she text me sayin lets talk, im so p***t of with her, but is it me, or was she abit out of order? we were both drunk and feel really bad as it happend in frount of evryone, and it is our local!
Should i make up with her?

2006-11-17 19:40:21 · 12 answers · asked by red devil 3 in Friends

Tristan just asked me to go over to his house and come in bed with him i told him that i would take a while to be there what shold i do??!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

2006-11-17 19:38:52 · 14 answers · asked by Aroura 1 in Singles & Dating

I dated this girl for three years we were young when we started dating. We are still young(20) but at the same time mature. We lived togather for 2 years did all the things that older couples did. Things in my life frustrated me and made me act not the way i should have. Took her for granite and all that fought etc. Jealousy is the maint KEY and i hate it. I love this girl with all my heart and i think that she still loves me?. She wanted to take a break for awhile and me not having much of a choice went with it. We are officialy broken up and its been about 2 months i miss her alot. She has been calling me to go out to dinner initiating contact when we go out she wants to start over as friends what are the chances she means that or should i move on???? Is patience the key or is she stringin me along??

2006-11-17 19:38:17 · 1 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm 49, and want to be shown a good time. I look pretty good for my age. red hair hazel eyes weigh about 150. Live in Anaheim Ca. Looking for a guy who has a job and is stable in life. I have a crazy work schedule.

2006-11-17 19:36:25 · 1 answers · asked by jeanjeanne 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-17 19:36:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce