I need ur help..plz..i can't stop crying..?

Question

its already 3 mths of relationship with my bf..Sometime i do feel like hell when he doesn't care abt my feelings..
I always take care of his feelings but not him..I'm fine with that..But I can't help crying over this matter..Which to me,
its a serious one..He never confess the truth until today..His confession make my heart bleeds..He told me that he's on drugs and he even ask me to join him !..F**k !! i noe..he also say that if u try it and u get addicted, that ur fault and if you're not, thats good..I never imagine that he would talk to me like that..I love him..Even though he hurts me too much..I always could tolerate his behaviour but how should i stop him from taking drugs?..
I tot his was a gd guy with pure heart..But i was wrong..I don't want to leave him..I want him to turn over a new leaf..so what can i do?

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Thanks..

Answer 1

Oh Girlfriend. If he cared about your feelings, and was what you thought he was in the first place; he deserves am emmy. And wants you to partake!!!???!!!!?? Sweety, if you haven't been a user, or even if you have. Don't statr for a man! Espesically for hiding his drug issues. Great. I say run, and run far and run fast. Drugs are not the answer or will ever lead you into a better place. I am speaking from experience. Don't learn the hard way...waking up 5 years later with a serious drug habit and loser boyfriend.Pleased trust me that it's not worth it. Run far, run fast, and than your lucky stars you were one of the smart ones; the one who saved herself.

Answer 2

The person who takes drugs may be good or bad, but one thing is certain that he is weak and coward and lacks guts. Sometime they are dangerous also. If you love him so much that u cann't live without him than only u should try to amend him. Only that person can turn a new leaf in his life whom he loves or cares. If u think he don't care for you then you cann't do any thing. What should you do is-

1. Focus on your studies/ work
2. Don't feel guilty for anything.
3. Try to live life for your family members as they are the ones that realy matters.
4. Live the life and someone, may be the same guy, will come into your life that will make your life worth living.

Best of luck

Answer 3

Well what I am about to say may not be what you want to hear. Environment breeds behaviour and it's only a matter of time until his behaviour stems into your life. You would either give in and try these drugs and get addicted to them (or not) which in theory is his fault but in reality is some what yours because you attempted to be part of that.

Don't be with a guy who wants to change you and makes you feel like ****. Honestly you deserve better, someone who isn't hooked on all these drugs - they can deffinately affect how he treats you and you don't want to put yourself in a situation where you could get hurt. Try and get out of it as soon as you can, and even though you claim that you love him, true love is out there waiting for you and the right guy won't make you feel like this.
Negative feelings aren't good, and you really need to think about yourself in this situation not him

Answer 4

This is only going to get worse...by the way it sounds you are younger and have time to find a new bf...BUT if you do "love" him in the 3 months that you have been together... you must do everything to stop him from doing drugs....Drugs put a big haze over whats really going on...he may need help beyond your control so I would go to his parents or friends...he might not like you for awhile, but he will know your doing this for him and will thank you in the long run.....It's easier to get a new B/F=)...have you ever heard of anybody doing drugs and having a good life or relationships?...

Answer 5

ok, well, wow! why would you want to stay with him? 3 months is enough time to fall in love with someone, but there aren't kids involved so you need to drop him like a hot potato!

when he confessed to you that he is a user, that should have set up a neon sign right then and there! this guy obviously has a problem and has no intention of getting help or quitting! and when he asked you if you wanted to try it, but blamed you for getting addicted BEFORE you could have enough time to process the whole "my boyfriend is a drug addict" deal, you should have figured right then that he cares nothing about you at all!

if you care anything about him, then you'd call his parents ASAP and tell them his problem so they can get him the needed help!

you also need to step back and take a look at yourself in the mirror and learn to love yourself more. if you did love yourself, you would not let a guy treat you so disrespectfully and get away with it! any guy worth having better care about you and your feelings, if he doesn't, then he doesn't deserve you!!

Answer 6

Calm down. This is a real sad situation. Not just for you him too. There's not much you can do unless he wants to stop using. By the sounds of it, he would rather you join him than him to stop. You say he doesn't think of your feeling. Why be with him? If he doesn't care enough about how you feel he doesn't respect you. Get out now while you still have a chance. He will just drag you down to his level and your life is worth more than that. I know its only been 3 months and that is better than you investing 3 years of yourself. I'm sorry this is harsh but if he doesn't stop the cops will bust your door in one day while your just chilling and you'll go to jail with him. If he doesn't go to rehab you don't have a chance. He did not ask you for help to quit he asked you to join in which means he's not ready stop!

Answer 7

First off, you can't help someone unless they want to be helped. So, unless he WANTS (honestly wants) to kick the habit, you aren't left with much. It's my suggestion that you go your separate way. Tell him that you care deeply for him, but you do not want a relationship with an individual who is tied down with a drug addiction. Tell him that you want to help him, and when (if) he's ready, then you will. Until then, keep your distance and move on. Be thankful that you've only been with him 3 months instead of 3 years. Appreciate the time you had together. But don't have anything to do with him girlfriend-wise. And if you choose to remain a friend, keep your distance. Don't be around him when he uses. Don't give him money. If he comes to you for food, and you want to help, actually give him food, NOT money. Everybody wants to see a loved one kick a drug habit, but in my personal experience (several close relatives of mine), it took 15 years of them struggling with it and 3 years of prison to finally kick it. Some people opt to place an anonymous call to the police, but you have to think what might come out of that (both pros and cons). I just think you should keep your distance. I don't know that the police will honestly do anything unless he's making or selling the drugs himself. (In that case, I would recommend calling the police as he's putting other people in jeopardy). Good luck. I hope all works out for you, and he kicks his habit.

Answer 8

You have fallen head over heels for him,take help and guidance from Narcotics anonymous talk to him very unassumingly leading him to get trapped and lead him to a reforming center hope it works and do not give into his demands in having enjoyment and sex with you keep him at a distance and try ignoring him for some time I know it is not easy but it is the best way, it will be hard on you but as you say that you do not want to leave him but to reform him, this will be the sacrifice that you will have to put up with play hard to get.I wish you all the best.

Answer 9

I guess you have to ask who you love more...him or you? Either way, being with him is going to destroy your life and you can't make him WANT to change. He doesn't love himself or YOU. He's already trying to suck you into his addiction by insinuating that you won't get addicted to drugs if you indulge in them with him. The very old saying definitely rings true, misery loves company. The only thing this guy loves is his drugs. You will always come a very distant sixth, seventh, eigth, ninth, tenth....well I hope you get the pic. Girl wipe your eyes and thank GOD its not YOU with the addiction. You might have to shed some tears, but at this point at least you can walk away with your mind in tact without being trapped in an addiction.

Answer 10

This guy does not really love you or care about your well being..or even care about you as a person..
Drop him as fast as you can, infact erase him out of your life permanently..

You can do better, why let an idiot drag you down with him.
It has only been a 3 month relationship, and it sounds like its not even a real relationship to him.
I hate to be so harsh, but its reality and you need to stop and think about yourself.

Go out and find a guy who is going to care about you..not just himself and the party..

Relationships take 2 people, not just one..so please stop fooling yourself before you lose touch with yourself and become someone you are not just to try to save something that never was...

Your young ( I assume) so there will be so many guys out there competing just to make you smile, do not waste yourself on false hope with this guy...