Is it heartbreaking to see your ex with a new partner? How do I heal emotionally? I really don't think I will survive it it happens 'm not a strong person.I have two young children so I need to know what can do to get through it if I have to.
2006-11-17 20:09:29 · 15 answers · asked by poptrash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is something i will never get. Why do you want to pine over somebody that doesn't want you. I am a divorced man' I do not understand any body who lets them selves hurt over someone that has no feeling for them. They have moved on. You can do the same. I don't believe there is any one that loved there wife more than me' I let her go because she didn't love me and i knew it. It hurt ' but i got over it' so can you. Never give the satisfaction to him by letting him know that you feel this way. You can move on' You can find someone better. Don't ever let him think he has got the best of you. You can do better.
2006-11-17 20:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about that. I've had the same experience and it's almost like watching a movie, knowing how it's going to end. I remember trying my best to change the ending, but in the end only frustrating myself so much more. I had people tell me that I should at LEAST consider separation or a divorce, but me being the hopeless romantic, I just knew that if I loved hard and long enough that things would turn around. I had a hard time accepting that I actually chose this person and that we weren't bringing out the best in eachother, but only making each other miserable. I would never encourage someone to end a marriage, but at the very least - hold on, pray for the best, but prepare for the worst. I truly HOPE everything works out!
2006-11-17 20:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by fiteprogram 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand the need to be prepared for the worst. But if you convinve yourself it is ending, you might act in a way to accelerate the end of your relationship. Please stop, take stock & see what makes you think the relationship is ending. Is your husband less attentive, you dont spend as much time together or is he cheating behind your back? Think of ways to change the situation, Make some compromises now so that your relationship would turn healthy. Give your 100% before giving up on a relationship. Inspite of all this, if your marriage ends, then invest your time & energy in a passion you had neglected in the past. It could be reading, art, music or charity! Focus there, you would heal before you realise. All the best, I hope you manage to keep your marraige floating!
2006-11-17 20:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mock-mast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was the worst thing that ever happened to me and I had 4 kids... my life or a part of it ended and I thought I would die and nobody will get how much pain your in but guess what? It will pass in time, maybe a long time.... but if you move forward and not try and hold on to him anyway you can something wonderful will happen... You will become a strong and competent woman that a better man will be so lucky to have, and lucky that you let the loser in your life go ! Trust me, move forward dont look back.
2006-11-17 20:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by She Said 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is heartbreaking to see the person u love on the arms of another when we aren't even divorced yet, but i would not take someone back if they chose someone else over me, or if they put me through so much hurt. yes we think we will not live through it, but we do come out of it, with help ofcourse, help from trusted friends, maybe even therapy would help us boost up our deflated self esteem. it is never easy to see the end of our marriage, and our spouse in the arms of anohter, and we are so unhappy when they seem so happy. we just got to trust in god, that he knows what he is doing, better than us. we take our thoughts off the sutuation and give it up to the lord, he may or may not answar your prayers, he may have something different in mind for u. we can't be responsible for other people's choices in life, if they don't want us, no big deal we just move on. and u would not have heard these words come out of my mouth 3 years ago when it happened to me, i too was weak and afraid of the future had no confidence in anything or anyone, but it turned out okay for me. i emerged tougher and stronger, and more selective when picking a mate.
2006-11-18 14:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CELEBRATE a 'New Beginning' awaits you. Get out and find a new partner just do not make the same mistakes again. Learn your lesson about 'Attachment' and 'Dependency'. These are the causes of all suffering so saith the Buddha.
2006-11-17 20:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a wimp!! You ARE stronger than you think. Sounds like you've been a type of doormat for this guy to me. You will be amazed at how good it feels to be a strong, happy, INDEPENDENT woman!! Of course it hurts at first...but you wait and see...Once you become stronger and you are happy??? {which of course will bring you all the self-confidence you are now lacking....} This guy you are whining over now will be back. { They ALWAYS come back} Hopefully, by then, you'll realize you deserve MUCH better!! And will probably HAVE much better!!! Good Luck to you! Stay strong!! Your kids will admire you for it, and most importantly, YOU will admire yourself!!!
2006-11-17 20:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK I get you it sux to think somebody moved on so fast and your stuck...you have 2 little kids be the grown up for them don't cause **** with their mum and be their parent...on your off time get back out there kick your heels up do the stuff you loved that drove her crazy and smile when you do it. Remember the bigger person wins in the end especially with the kids... :)
2006-11-17 20:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I surrived, if I can you can.
It is better for kids to be from a broken home than to live in one.
Make sure you get plenty of child support and spousal support. Don't be weak when it comes to that.
2006-11-17 20:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are TWO reasons to get through anything...
YOUR CHILDREN!
Pain is like a open wound...with time it will heal. However, you will have to learn to care for the wound or it will get worse!
Now is the time to focus on your children. Before you know it...happiness will find you again!
Peace to you...and your children :)
Good Luck
2006-11-17 20:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋