My step-daughter and my husband have had a pretty bad relationship since my husband and his ex-wife split up. The daughter has been brainwashed by her mother to hate her dad, my two daughters, and myself. His daughter is 14. My two daughters are 12 & 14. My daughters and I have been nothing but kind and loving to her, as well as his three sons. His boys are 11, 7 & 6. The boys love us all, and we are a family. They are also a family at their mother's house. We have the boys 50% of the time. The daughter lives with her mother full time. The daughter recently told my husband that he has always been a terrible father, and that she never wants to see him again. Yesterday she sent him a text message to say that she heard that his birthday party was fun…too bad she wasn’t invited. He was baffled by that, but told her he was sorry, that he didn’t think she would have wanted to come, and invited her over to celebrate his youngest son’s birthday with us next weekend. She sent him a text back, thanking him for the invitation, but that she would have to pass because my daughters and I would be there. She said that she didn’t respect me, and probably never would. Then, my husband gets a call from his mother AND his sister, within two hours of each other, asking him what’s going on, because she has called them and said my girls and I have been mistreating her, and that all she wants is a relationship with her dad. She said my girls have everything she’s always wanted. We don’t get it, because we have done nothing wrong. We know it, she knows it, and God knows it. What can we do? We all want her to be part of our family, but she will only have a relationship with her dad if we’re not in the picture…which isn’t going to happen. BTW, she signed an affidavit during their divorce, saying that she wanted to live with her mom, and that she didn’t want to have to have any contact with her dad, since she felt uncomfortable at his house. That was BEFORE I even knew him…so how can it be me…or my daughters? Please offer some advice. I am sick about this.
2006-10-26
08:58:28
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