So, I made a few posts about a guy I REALLY like. Well, I'm falling for him even more! He's cute, funny, and nice. My friend asked him if he'd ever hang out with me and he said yes! I was so happy! Then, my other friend asked him if he'd date me(I wanted to kill her) and he said probably not. Well, just today I found out that everyone knows. I'm so embarassed! I mean, why would anyone care about a loser's private life? http://www.myspace.com/thekatesteinberg look at all the pictures. Do I look like a loser? I mean, I think I am, but I don't know. I also have no self confidence and blame my looks for why he probably won't go out with me. Please help! I've never been in love before!
2006-10-26 08:56:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
listen, it's all about the personality...and it seems that you have a good one just by judging your myspace (kinda creepy). when he said that he probably wouldn't date you then that probably means that he isn't into your style, or he just doesn't know you well enough yet...all you have to do is hang out with him and act decent, don't try hard to impress, just sit back and be quiet and make yourself look cool, believe me, if it's a rockboy, (thats all i go for and my current bf is a rockboy) which i'm assuming, he may be looking for someone thats more flashy, thats "not so down to earth"...but hang out with him and let him know your there, and you want him to notice you..
2006-10-26 09:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by true 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably 'not really in love'--you just have a major crush which is perfectly normal. You're a really cute girl--and teenage girls can be really competitive. I'd keep my discussions with this guy private and find out for yourself what's going on. Friends can be a problem, as well as a blessing. But take care of your own business. And.....I doubt you're a 'loser' anyway. Even if this guy doesn't respond to you...it doesn't mean you're a loser. People like each other for all kinds of reasons. You'll develop more self-confidence as you get older and have more life experiences. Focus on yourself for now, what you would like to do in the future, how you can best take care of yourself, what school you want to attend, etc. Good Luck.
2006-10-26 09:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes when it comes to meeting guys you are going to have to learn to keep your mouth shut and just let things happen. I mean you scored by getting him to say he'd love to hang out with you but you blew it by your friend asking if he'd date you. You can't rush a guy. Your a pretty girl and your not a loser but your going to have to learn to be confident. It's all on how you carry youself and since you think your a loser then that's probably the vibe your going to give off so be confident and it will show. Give it some time and let him cool off a bit and then if you still like him try it again and see if he'd like to hang out with you sometime.
2006-10-26 09:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by bktp37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't look like a loser but even if he won't go out with you isn't because of your looks and you shouldn't put yourself down because of that. Maybe it's just that you're not his type at all or he doesn't consider you as a person he would date but maybe he just wants to be friends and you can't force someone to like you and try to be careful of your feelings cuz it sounds like they're really hurt right now.
2006-10-26 09:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen Babe, Your young, there's a lot worse things to be embarrassed about than that. I know peer pressure can get to you. Don't let it. Life is going to get a whole lot better and surprisingly less complicate as you get older. Just go with the flow. Enjoy the ride and live life to the fullest. Your cute, and if my experience is worth anything probably going to be a knock out in your prime. Oh to be young like you again. Good luck and laugh this one off.
2006-10-26 10:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl,,, i looked and you are a hottie,,,,, from what I read your friend was just trying to help you move on, If they are laughing and making fun of you they are no friends. If they have not said nothing, they are just as embarrassed of the situation as they put their foot in their own mouths,,, If they are apologizing and being consoling of the situation,, they are true friends and you need to keep going on.. It is your decision. My own advice is that you went to bat one time and got one strike,,, there are many times at life where we all swing and miss and then most of the time we get that hit. DONT LET THE MISSES STOP YOU FROM TRYING
2006-10-26 10:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by anton_29207 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did u ever think about the possibility that he said prob. not because he's gettin bugged by all your friends asking him this an that? A low self esteem and the need for constant reassurance ain't exactly a big turn on 4 guys either.
2006-10-26 09:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fish in water not on line. Your story and post seem an attempt at getting people to your space. I did not go.
2006-10-26 09:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HUN,ARE YOU IN LOVE, OR IN LOVE WITH THE "THOUGHT OF BEING IN LOVE?"To get to know this guy icloser,you may find you two have absolutely nothing in common.& his being noncommital has nothing to do with you're look's sweetheart,...some guy's just can't,or won't commit.so,take a look at yur good qualitie's,..work on them & set yur goal's for real love.
2006-10-26 10:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by james k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are beautiful, so getting guys will be no problem. don't worry about your looks and don't be so self-conscious. if this guy doesn't want to date you then he's an idiot and if that's the case go after someone who will like you as you already are.
2006-10-26 10:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by dipzet21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋