So I am 17 years old, my husband is 20. We have been together for sevral years but married just for one. I always said we woudl work anything out no matter what i dont believe in divorce. Well i guess i was wrong becuase about a week ago he told me he wanted a divorce.. he is very serious about this. The whole time we have been together he has been the main provider. I was in school part of the time we were together and i only worked a little. We have had some financial problems becuase he had broken his neck and we got very behind with bills, he is now in debt about 6 grand. Everything debt wise is in his name, and i didnt really play any part of it, i also was unaware of alot of it all together. He was spending money we didnt have without me knowing it. Ovbiously i am still not a legal adult but i am emanciapted by law. Through all of this, i have been kicked out of my home and was unemployed. I did find a job, and i am staying with a relative but i still feel like i need finanical
2006-10-26 08:57:37 · 15 answers · asked by sera 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep your job, don;t get pregnant, get a divorce...you are so young and life is just starting for you. Everybody makes mistakes, is foolish to keep on hanging on if he doesn;t want you anymore.
Good luck
2006-10-26 09:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You got married way too young, but that is in the past. If your state is a community property state you can still be held liable for 1/2 the debts that were incurred during your marriage. Not knowing is not an excuse as far as the law is concerned. Since you are emancipated you have the legal ability to contract an obligation so you will get half of all the bills. I am assuming that you don't have any assets that can be sold to pay some of the bills. You need to find a job and begin standing on your own 2 feet. Staying with a relative is nice and it will help you save some money to pay your half of the bills but after a while you need to start paying rent or something. I would go and talk to your parents, admit the problems that you are having and see of you can go home.
2006-10-26 09:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by brendagho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually you would be responsible for 1/2 his debts as if they were yours, but you may be able to shift that, I'm not sure. I recommend getting a free court appointed lawyer (available to everyone... just ask the county court). Also! You should file for a legal financial separation right away, just so he doesn't run up even more debt that you'll be responsible for. I know this isn't what you wanted, but considering that the number one reason for divorce in this country is because of financial problems, be glad that you are getting out now before he got you both into more debt.
When this is all done, (if you haven't already) make sure you work on finishing school. At least get your GED. There should be some decent financial aid soon if you are up for getting a 2 year associates degree from a local community college. I highly recommend it. You need to make yourself financially strong, especially if you think you might have kids someday.
Good luck!
2006-10-26 09:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by kim b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be worried about the financial debt from your marriage.
Where are your parents in all this? You are only 17 years old and you say you have been with this guy for "several years and married for one year". You left home very young and you were kicked out of your parent's home?
Do you realize how lucky you are that you have not had a child?
Do you realize your brain isn't totally formed yet? That is true. You are a baby.....................You need to finish high school if you have not done so yet.
You need help from someone that can set you on the right track and create a plan for you to follow with short/long term goals.
And that WOULD NOT mean another guy in your life at this time.
Search out your interests in what career you would like to pursue.
You have no idea how lucky you are. In five years you will look back on this and thank God for the outcome. BUT I can tell you have decisions to make and thinking to do. Please do not go back to that life. I have a feeling that your husband is testing the cheating waters right now. When he is finished he will want you to move back home. Don't be sucked in, don't look back, create your own life.
2006-10-26 09:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will have to check with the answer I gave to your other posting...however if you are emancipated (and your getting married emancipated you) you ARE considered a legal adult. You ARE responsible for ANY of the bills coming into the home while you were married whether YOU want to be or not. Being "Unaware" of the financial situation is not an excuse. Most states no longer provide alimony to "displaced" spouses as long as they are able to work. You are able to work.
2006-10-26 10:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 22:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are emancipated, you are an adult and you would divorce like an adult. and sorry to say if he (depending on your state laws and if you get a lawyer) has debts during your marriage, they may also be your responsibility as well. You need a good lawyer. You may be able to make payments, but it is either make payments to a lawyer or possibly get stuck with the bills and stay in financial trouble.
2006-10-26 09:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you ARE legally an adult if you're emancipated. It doesn't sound like there's not much you can do at this point besides dust yourself off and get on with life. You've made poor choices in the past, but that doesn't mean you have to continue making them. Get a job, get back to school and show him what he lost. God bless.
2006-10-26 09:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by susie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be happy that you are only 17. You have your whole life and one huge world a head of you. Now is the time to focus on you and only you. Divorce, people do not get married with the intentions of getting a divorce, it just happens sometimes. Sometimes we think we have met the right person, only to realize they will not allow us to grow as a person as well. Honey be happy you are 17. Date it is a lot of fun, but take care of yourself, and remember god will never give you more than you can handle.. Enjoy your life..
2006-10-26 09:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by sweet 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So what is the question?
Agree to the divorce and move forward with your life. From what I read, you can (and will) do better for yourself.
Stay with your relatives, continue to work and GO TO SCHOOL.
I hope you don't have children with this guy...you deserve to not have any ties to him once the papers are signed.
2006-10-26 09:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by txgirl_2_98 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋