my boyfriend and I just got in a fight. Lately it seems like all we ever do is argue. I don't mean for it to happen it just does. I seems like no matter what i do he still thinks i don't love him as much as i used to. Lately i've been going out of my way to make him happy and it seems like we're still back to square one. I don't know what to do. I love him, he's my world. I don't wanna live without him
2006-10-26 08:53:24 · 17 answers · asked by kero 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys perspective: the worse things seem to be going, the harder we try. When we don't see results, we push harder. He needs to relax.
Girls perspective (I think): He needs to do his own thing sometmes. Get a hobby and enjoy my company when we're together.
Just tell him if you love him. Having been in a similar scenario as he sounds like he is in, I would say a great solution for both of you would be to tell him you will call him (and set a day) to go out with each other. That way he has to wait (and presumably do his "own thing") but when you call, trust is reaffirmed. If he can't get past it, you'll be his loss. Good luck.
2006-10-26 09:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are fighting all the time, that definetly isn't a good thing. I had a situation like this before. Me and one of my now ex's faught constantly...everyday it was something different. Eventually he told me that he wasn't in love with me anymore. He said he still loved me, but it just wans't there. I think that you guys are having a rough spot....maybe a break would be good. Take a couple weeks off to assess the situation. See if he tried to date other girls. If he does, then you know that he is just tired of the same old routine and needs something different. I know you love him, but if it doesn't work out for the two of you, altough it will hurt like hell, it will all work out for the best. Just stay strong.
2006-10-26 15:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People fall apart and sometimes it is hard to imagine your self with out them. Break ups heart, but the most important thing to remember is that if it is true love neither one of you will mind make consessions for the other. You will do it happily. You shouldn't go out of your way to make him happy, if he isn't doing the same for you. That's just not fair.
have you thought of the fact that maybe they reason he is trying to get you to say that you don't love him anymore is because he wants you too break up with him, because he really wants to break up with you but doesn't want to be the bad guy? Guys can be devilish like that sometimes.
hope that helps
2006-10-26 16:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by Britta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got news for you; boy's do this a lot when they are unsure of a relationship. He may want to brake up but dont have the guts to say it to your face so he picks fights for little unimportant things attempting to get you mad enough to brake up with him and therefore have the reason to be mad at you instead of him feeling bad about the break up. Besides, boys; figure other girls are more into boys who have been dumpped rather than dumpping girls.. think about it; the more girls a boy dumps the less girls want to do with them; however, when a guy is dump; girls figure the other girl just a tramp..
2006-10-26 16:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking a break is usually another way of saying breaking up but less harsh. You really should talk to him about this. You should really think about the situation. Eventhough you love eachother it doesn't neccissarily mean your good for eachother.
2006-10-26 15:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by [un]bro/ken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need, is to find a single, complete stranger, spend the night with him, make wild and passionate love with him, this will make the boyfriend jealous, and he'll come running back to ya.
2006-10-26 15:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him how you just told us, and if it happens that you two need a break from each other just know that if you let him go and he comes back to you then you two were meant to be together. good luck
2006-10-26 15:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's your "one and only" you wouldn't be fighting with him now would you? It's normal and healthy to fight a little bit, but you can't fight to much.
2006-10-26 15:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by opsout 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't he just needs to understand that you love him and your going to do more comfortable things now
2006-10-26 15:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by K Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say love hurts...but i don't think it HAS too!!!
sounds to me like he is insecure and is portraying his insecurity onto you , and nomatter what you do he will not be reassured , which is not fair on you.....what more can you do?
Nomatter what happens - at least you know you've done your best! :-)
Sounds like you need a guy who appreciates you (fully!)
2006-10-26 16:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋